Need Suggestion | As a dommie i am inclined towards busting balls

[Arabiangirl]

How often is it safe to engage in BDSM play with a submissive during a typical week? My submissive craves my direction throughout the week, even when I'm busy with work and meetings.

Also, I might be getting married in the next couple of years. How can I continue being active in the BDSM lifestyle in that situation? What should I expect if my future husband finds out? Any advice?

[Deleted Member]

I don’t think you should wait until he “finds out”, I think this should be a conversation. Is there a reason you’d be keeping it secret from the person you’re entering into a legal and often religious contract with?

[Vt****]

I married a man who's kink/sex style and needs did not match mine (he knew all of what I was into, it just wasn't his ..talent)... I don't regret marrying him (I have a wonderful child) but I do wish I had given those needs a little more consideration when I got married....

[ra****]

See if u can find a partner who s in to BDSM community. If u wish not to select one from the BDSM community marry the one who clicks with you . He may get ur wishes done and may become a BDSM guy. Having a partner who you love matters.

[ra****]

Thoughts during work about ur cravings is something many people experience it during their work schedules. Nothing bad about it. Just make sure you take care of yourself and ensure job is secured without any big issues

[jj****]

Why would it be a secret from the husband?

[gl****]

Depends on how much *** is lost

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Arabiangirl said:

How often is it safe to engage in BDSM play with a submissive during a typical week?

Depends specifically what you are doing.   

2 hours ago, Arabiangirl said:

How can I continue being active in the BDSM lifestyle in that situation? What should I expect if my future husband finds out? Any advice?

by making sure your husband knows....

 

 

[Wolfspirit]

Just keep it to yourself untill you align if he enjoy this kind of stuff or he js not ... eventually you need to be honest about your needs... something has to take over ... either his love or your passion;)

[li****]

Well if you lack the time, you can't play. Simple as that.
If you do it behind your husband's back, that's considered cheating. So he's not going to be happy if he finds out about it.

[Ri****]

Would love to take part in this

[ja****]

From an Arabic to another! There is this huge cultural shift that won’t make sense to others, if your partner doesn’t agree in advance on your lifestyle it’s gonna be an issue for you, if you are able to shift your kinky side towards your partner with consent that’s would be great and it will become something that can be evolved if not, I’d enjoy the couple of years left

[Deleted Member]

If you're looking to start a relationship with another man, its probably best to inform before hand.

As for the slave, just lock them in chastity and let them suffer until you are free, its about you, not them.

[ja****]

3 minutes ago, Raphiel145 said:

If you're looking to start a relationship with another man, its probably best to inform before hand.

As for the slave, just lock them in chastity and let them suffer until you are free, its about you, not them.

I don’t want to start a debate here! But thats not a good advice to give, those slave” have connection with her they put their trust in her and she have obligations towards them.

[Mi****]

One of the main things in BDSM is communication so why would you hide stuff from someone you want to marry or wait until he finds out?

[Axminster]

You need to decide what is the most important . Be truthful to yourself and to others . He probably knows anyway. My wife did when I finally told her .

[FE****]

Reminder: Feel free to debate the point people make; petty bickering back and forth won't be tolerated.  I have cleaned up a few unnecessary replies.

[Snakeeater]

The only way to make sure your ( possible) marriage work is to be 100% open and honest with him. If he really cares he will understand. He might even be agreeable to the situation. If he is totally un- accepting of your lifestyle maybe you would be better off without him.

[Si****]

Exactly why I would want a partner into the lifestyle

[Deleted Member]

September 5, VtKitten said:

I married a man who's kink/sex style and needs did not match mine (he knew all of what I was into, it just wasn't his ..talent)... I don't regret marrying him (I have a wonderful child) but I do wish I had given those needs a little more consideration when I got married....

Im sorry

[Sp****]

I wouldn't be able to have that done when I was born I had one testicle in my stomach and they had to push it down when it ascended like at age 7 or 8 and I have one above the other it just doesn't work that's one thing that I'm not able to do