Dating..?

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, DeAngelo1325 said:

You’re on a smashing, link up site/app. I don’t think this is used to date.. just sex and fetishes or whatever. Hop on a different app if you’re looking for a relationship.

I understand what you mean, but it’s hard to find an open minded kinky man who likes what I like on a traditional vanilla dating app, so that is why I am here. To even reach that level of comfort with a vanilla man to say what I like can take lots of time to only find out that he isn’t into it, is a waste of my time. Figure I will have more luck on this site than the others. Looking to find the needle in the haystack. Wish me luck 🍀

[la****]

Try to meet in person early and be clear about no sex on the first date. If they ghost you you didn't waste much time. Texting doesn't build connection fast enough. Start voice messages or phone calls. Hearing it's a real person and all the extra emotions and communication that happens with voice makes a connection faster. Meeting in person adds body language , smell, hormones, and so much more. You can also find out if it's a bad match faster.

[Ro****]

2 hours ago, Midnight_Kiss said:

I understand what you mean, but it’s hard to find an open minded kinky man who likes what I like on a traditional vanilla dating app, so that is why I am here. To even reach that level of comfort with a vanilla man to say what I like can take lots of time to only find out that he isn’t into it, is a waste of my time. Figure I will have more luck on this site than the others. Looking to find the needle in the haystack. Wish me luck 🍀

You are looking for a needle in a haystack. The part you're missing on traditional dating app will be missing here, and vice versa. Which one do you want more? Also, I think things are trending on less dating these days. Times have changed. If you find someone willing to do the dating thing that you enjoy, that's rare. You're a step ahead.

[wi****]

How are you even supposed to get that physical if you don’t meet first! I think guys are scared that they can’t be the guy they pretend behind the keyboard when you meet them in person. If you get ghosted, they were probably being fake anyway. It’s not personal. It speaks more on their insecurities than your desire ability

[FS****]

In my experience, you have to be up front with what you want or are looking for. If you give people the opportunity to have access to you in whatever capacity without meeting any of your requirements or without them even knowing you have any, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. If you give people the opportunity to do less, most will.

[Re****]

I have the guys who just want drinks and bed .. there called boys ... we are looking for real men ..

[Ro****]

If they ghost you before meeting. I'd say it's a high probability they are catfish, married. But I have seen what you say happen with women though. They take pictures of headshots only with tons of makeup And AI filters , they have all the confidence in the world online ,then won't meet up. So I suppose their can be men like that as well.

[57****]

I have been ghosted many times. At first it got me mad. But now I drop that person and move on. It is disrespectful for anyone to do that. Also they may feel threatened emotionally. There are many people out there. I've learned to be patient and think positive. I still do first meet no sex. If they wait, better chance

[Deleted Member]

Nobody wants to simply hang out platonically anymore.

[Deleted Member]

I get the samething

[da****]

I'm seriously looking for my life partner, If we match, I will message and communicate until there's a clear reason not to (lack of respect usually) or we both talk about it and part ways. But out of 10 matches (statically, not all at once) 3 may reply, and 2 of those have been scammers, and the other one who replies usually is a single word response until they stop. Once in a blue moon I have actually gone out with someone. Not all have been pleasant, outlined boundaries were not followed and therefore no trust. Its hard, in so many ways. (And I'm not seeking sex, I'm seeking a shared future)

[Deleted Member]

I feel like there is no talking anymore

[Si****]

This is not the app for dating...

[an****]

I usually make it to the first meeting after that im blocked.

[ka****]

Exactly :)who loves to experience sex kino today

[Re****]

I personally think it's a conspiracy to sew discourse in how we perceive each other. Dating apps should be boycotted till they meet our demands

[th****]

I have terrible luck on this app

[th****]

I mean, I also think a lot of people wanna rush to the things these days and not take the time to get to know someone

[Sh****]

Depends on the person but im definitely a set up a date person

[sh****]

Apps and the internet have given people a false sense of reality in which people are now dilsional when it comes to dating.

People think that there's someone who ticks every single box and continue to get played by those with the best charisma...

The reality is people are no longer looking to date but would rather wait for their "soulmate"... Dating as a whole sucks In 2025. People born before 2008 know what I'm talking about...

[an****]

No the dating seen is hard for everyone.

[bo****]

Especially dating apps recently they feel like hell!

[Deleted Member]

Sunday at 10:29 AM, Romeo0718 said:

You are looking for a needle in a haystack. The part you're missing on traditional dating app will be missing here, and vice versa. Which one do you want more? Also, I think things are trending on less dating these days. Times have changed. If you find someone willing to do the dating thing that you enjoy, that's rare. You're a step ahead.

I agree that BDSM has entered mainstream as lots of men, thanks to porn, are into the whole spanking and hardcore aspect of sex. I mean I see familiar faces on Bumble from here, so I know there are kinky men on Bumble too, However, it’s the specialized niches that make this site a valuable tool in finding a compatible partner.

For example, I am looking for a dominant masculine energy men who will willingly let me do role reversal power dynamics on him while he is wearing a harness and leash. I mean try putting that on Bumble lol. Even on here, on a kinky site, I get told it’s weird, so yes I am looking for a needle in a haystack. One day, I will find my man, and as for now, I am having fun looking for him. 😜😉💋

[Ma****]

I date

[Sl****]

This app is for sex lol stop tryna be buttered up.