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MauroDraco
Lot's of conversation with openness and disposition, probably with couple's therapy, would be a good starting point
1. finding the beauty in things is a skill.

2. You can only control yourself.
You have to first acknowledge why the relationship went stagnant on both sides. Lack of passion, working too much, boring routines, etc... then work together to get back to how it felt in the beginning. Spice things up, take time together. Figure out what the new versions of both of you need and do the work intentionally.
Joeted79
How is it that way when you have your sexy fine body right in front of him or hffer and knowing he or she can have their way with you to a point witmf
What created the first spark? Start with something like that and if it doesn’t follow through like before then i apologize it’s a past chapter
Try anal, do things that interest you together, in and out of the bedroom.
Just get out of the relationship....or cheat..
I literally tried everything with my wife but she was too avoidant to everything. I requested therapy, date night.. everything. But it got to a point where I had to outsource intimacy. Gave me the strength to divorce. Now instead of living in a sexless marriage and miserable. Im living as a sexless bachelor but happy
See if doing activities you both enjoyed doing still make you feel something. Talk things through l, both listen to each other and try to come to an understanding. Try some new things in and out of the bedroom. If that fails, then the connection just isn't there anymore.
The amount of cheat comments you lot are sick, how you fix this is by spicing it upwork on what gets him going and pursue doing that it will get his libido up, make that extra effort to make him happy and I’m sure you’ll get t he same in return , if not might be worth ending it and starting a new or bring another women in
When unsure of the next move… avoid burning bridges. Leaving things open ended just leads to cross roads in the future
Talk it out…. I know that it’s cliche but it’s true. Tell your partner what you like and dislike about what’s going on and have solutions in mind too. Accept the pushback because most people don’t like to be told that they could do better but that’s what you need. If he/she isn’t willing to listen, accept constructive feedback, and make proper changes then maybe this isn’t the person for you.
It can be different for everyone but it starts with improving yourself. Diet, exercise, learn something new, gain confidence in yourself. Then y'all gotta get back to dating each other.
Kind of try and start back at square one. Figure out what’s different from before and see if things can even be rekindled

Assuming your partner is committed to the same task as you, @KandBs006 is right...it starts with communication but has to be open, honest communication between both of you without anyone getting defensive or criticizing. You both have to be able to ask for ANYTHING you want that might be missing and willing to get out of your comfort zone or routine to spice things up again

First ask if there is still a flame there to stoke. If so, getting real intentional about how you spend time together is the name of the game. Consistent scheduled date nights. 5 min check in conversations every morning or night ( I use “how are you feeling physically? Then mentally? Then spiritually?”)
Take spicy workshops to get into community and bring new information into how you play with eachother. Each together and shower together as often as possible. Make an effort to touch eachother more outside of a sexual context (massage, cuddling, play wrestling, piggy back rides, hugs, holding hands. )
Both persons in the relationship need to acknowledge that the relationship isn't working. After that, you can both rekindle the relationship together ... again.
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