en**** Posted October 4 If it was a slow and long process then either one of you wants out of the relationship and just can’t say it yet, or you’ve fallen into a rut…in which case I suggest taking charge and planning the kinkiest sloppiest night you can dream of
ey**** Posted October 4 there are some good suggestions here, and some downright terrible ones - and then some which... ultimately you're going to have to find what works for you. Why is it stagnating? What isn't working for you? or your partner? Is it just the new relationship energy has died down and now you're at a point where 'normality' kicks in? Perhaps making time for yourselves can help - a lot of people have suggested trying dating each other again, and that can work.
Deleted Member Posted October 4 Start making time for dates. Leading up to date night discuss each others fantasies and then pick one to live out on date night. Some couples will write them down on paper and draw one from the jar to do that night. Research says that 58% of men have a fantasy about seeing their female with another man. Far less want to actually fallow through with it but just talking about it and using a toy to represent the other guy can be a huge way to get him fired up again. Pay close attention to him. If he gets an erection them it excites him. If he can’t get it up drop the topic like a hot potato.
Sl**** Posted October 4 7 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: there are some good suggestions here, and some downright terrible ones - and then some which... ultimately you're going to have to find what works for you. Why is it stagnating? What isn't working for you? or your partner? Is it just the new relationship energy has died down and now you're at a point where 'normality' kicks in? Perhaps making time for yourselves can help - a lot of people have suggested trying dating each other again, and that can work. THIS!! Many relationships CAN be Rekindled, but only if BOTH SIDES are Able & Willing to work on it. Though some can't, like if you're the only one willing to put in most of the effort. But without Context it's difficult to tell if one/both have fallen out if love, if just Mentally/Emotionally exhausted from things like work, or WHAT!!
en**** Posted October 5 14 hours ago, Mister***s said: Eat his a** No don’t do that if you’ve never done it before!
en**** Posted October 5 I promise as soon as you start working new moves into the bedroom after a long rut or not having sex in a while…then I promise your partner will think you’re cheating on them
No**** Posted October 5 Been married 25 years, wife has had cancer twice. No matter what I do, she rejects me. She does feel pretty any more. I have bought long flowing nightgown, short sexy ones and she throws them away and continues to wear as ugly a gown as she can fine. We havent touch or has sex in 7 years. So I have no answers for you. I was reading hoping to find an answer for my own problem.
MauroDraco Posted October 6 12 hours ago, NotWorthyofLove said: Been married 25 years, wife has had cancer twice. No matter what I do, she rejects me. She does feel pretty any more. I have bought long flowing nightgown, short sexy ones and she throws them away and continues to wear as ugly a gown as she can fine. We havent touch or has sex in 7 years. So I have no answers for you. I was reading hoping to find an answer for my own problem. I'm sorry you are having this experience. As some said, opening yourself is a must. She doesn't seem to be able to do it. Maybe you can convince her to start a therapy to better understand and process her issues with her being. I think a support group might be great, since it is fairly low commitment and seeing and hearing others with similar issues tends to be really helpful. Suffering feeling isolated with the issue is the worst. You could also discuss opening the marriage. She has a right to her feeling shitty and choosing to be stuck on it. You also have a right to feel and fulfill your sexual needs. No compromise can be the compromise then...
Deleted Member Posted October 8 Well you have to find the base of the problem. Is it stress, age, is it inside or outside of the bedroom that’s making it less fulfilling, are both parties having all of their needs met inside and outside of the bedroom. Has someone step out of the relationship physically or mentally?
ak**** Posted October 17 That's a really thoughtful question @baby_bunny804, it really depends on the why the relationship became stagnant.
cr**** Posted October 21 Buy one of those pussy vibration devices and give your husband the remote control! Spark it up again!!
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