Do**** Posted October 17 I think I assume those with huge gym bods are very focused on themselves and building their bodies so wouldn’t have much capacity to focus on other things in life. . And a super attractive guy, I assume believes himself to be very attractive and only deserving of what he perceives to be the most attractive females. So I assume he is picky and has a bit of arrogance to him. . So no I usually steer clear. And if I find myself falling for one then I get all discombobulated and second guess everything. . And now I’ve reflected on that I shall go dig a hole for myself to hide in 🫣 . This sounds soooooo judgy! . If it helps, I usually go off their eyes. They show how open and warm they are towards others. And it’s hard to get that reliably from a photo.
Ir**** Posted October 17 1 hour ago, JakeBakeman said: So that's what my problem is... You and me both, brother!
Creativlydamned Posted October 17 Too attractive? No. But I don’t tend to like the super “ripped,” gym obsessed dudes attractive. 1)there is a such thing as too much muscle and they’re just not attractive/comfy and 2)I find them to be much more vain and self absorbed.
Av**** Posted October 18 Idk, im attracted to feminine. The hottest man I've ever seen had incredibly feminine and delicate features
Av**** Posted October 18 1 minute ago, Avaritia_ said: Idk, im attracted to feminine. The hottest man I've ever seen had incredibly feminine and delicate features He was too hot to approach, totally a me thing , not a him thing
Da**** Posted October 18 Sometimes the extra effort is futile folks. Sad, unfortunate reality. I’m no looker, but I try to look nice and it’s instant people repellent. It’s too fishy, someone like me has to be up to no good or just a creep in general.
Sc**** Posted October 18 8 hours ago, aligurl80 said: I had the same thing sorta … in high school I was incredibly shy so unbeknownst to me I became a bet to a group of hot guys to see who would get my V card. It kind of traumatized me because all their gfs ***d me and I knew I was a butt of a joke. Almost 30 years later and I still won’t talk or even look at a very attractive man. I had a similar experience in high school except they would tell an unpopular geeky girl that I like them and I being a nice guy if they pass me a note saying they like me back that I would befriend them talk to them because everybody's looking for companionship especially if you don't want to be alone in high school
tw**** Posted October 18 A girl I loved (LOVED) said she cheated on me because she thought I deserved better and that I would probably cheat on her eventually. I don't fit the subject description, but I agree with most replies about the person's level of self confidence.
He**** Posted October 18 Yes! Yes, I can be too attractive, but I'm not. I do tend to shy away from speaking very attractive men, feeling as though, I am out of their league, but end up being hit on by some of those same men. It amazes me how many hot young gorgeous men are attracted to older overweight men. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
VZ**** Posted October 18 11 hours ago, AmaltheaTheBrat said: It also has to do with a person's past. For example, I was the kid asked out as a joke in school so if someone I feel is too attractive/out of my league is talking to me especially if they are showing interest in me romantically/sexually, I still worry it's another joke. & @aligurl80 I hate mfers like this - hopefully ur healed from this but if not lmk and we can always roll out. Or even better yet get a little turnabout as fair play. This happened to my very beautiful (which caused jealousy in the mean girls) and extremely kind best friend when she was in high school and it was particularly traumatic in many ways that it took a long time for her to heal from. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Hope you know it comes from a black soul who hates themselves and you get to live your lives as someone who might have been (very and undeservingly) hurt but didn’t let that break them. Big hug. And lmk if an opportunity arises to teach a little lesson. (Which as a disclaimer certainly doesn’t mean anything violent or harmful…!)
VZ**** Posted October 18 And to the OP - no I don’t feel that way but I do find that sometimes men who are very attractive and put a lot of their personal identity in their looks or size tend to be lazy or selfish in bed. Certainly not all and probably less than 50% but it’s a thing.
OA**** Posted October 18 6 hours ago, DommeDelight said: I think I assume those with huge gym bods are very focused on themselves and building their bodies so wouldn’t have much capacity to focus on other things in life. . And a super attractive guy, I assume believes himself to be very attractive and only deserving of what he perceives to be the most attractive females. So I assume he is picky and has a bit of arrogance to him. . So no I usually steer clear. And if I find myself falling for one then I get all discombobulated and second guess everything. . And now I’ve reflected on that I shall go dig a hole for myself to hide in 🫣 . This sounds soooooo judgy! . If it helps, I usually go off their eyes. They show how open and warm they are towards others. And it’s hard to get that reliably from a photo. Second this. I just assume he didn’t see my pic or idk haha in my mind the whole things a mistake and I’m not wasting my time on this pretty boy (I’m sure there are deeper insecurities but whatever, it’s too late/early/day that ends in “day” - for self reflection)
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 11 hours ago, danc1nqu33n said: I turn hot guys down if they have a bad attitude and little respect towards woman I'm interested in how you decide such things
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 7 hours ago, AmandaMonsterLady said: Yes. I assume he is gay, married with a ton of kids, won’t like me anyways. I tend to talk myself out of a lot. I'm married with kids but I want more wives and more kids
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 11 hours ago, cambridge20050 said: I just turn down a ridiculously hot man because he seemed like an entitled jerk. Some men think being very attracted means they can act however they want and that automatically makes them unattractive. I act however I want, too. If I like a person I'll act like I like them though.
Lo**** Posted October 18 As beauty fades, I focus on brain, soul, mind, attitude …..you can be good looking and still be an an assh***🤷🏼♀️
Cl**** Posted October 18 8 hours ago, DommeDelight said: I think I assume those with huge gym bods are very focused on themselves and building their bodies so wouldn’t have much capacity to focus on other things in life. . And a super attractive guy, I assume believes himself to be very attractive and only deserving of what he perceives to be the most attractive females. So I assume he is picky and has a bit of arrogance to him. . So no I usually steer clear. And if I find myself falling for one then I get all discombobulated and second guess everything. . And now I’ve reflected on that I shall go dig a hole for myself to hide in 🫣 . This sounds soooooo judgy! . If it helps, I usually go off their eyes. They show how open and warm they are towards others. And it’s hard to get that reliably from a photo. I feel people imagine all sort of horrible things happening just from talking to someone because *** is a consuming emotion that degrades all good in the universe if not understiod
Deleted Member Posted October 18 9 hours ago, DommeDelight said: I think I assume those with huge gym bods are very focused on themselves and building their bodies so wouldn’t have much capacity to focus on other things in life. . And a super attractive guy, I assume believes himself to be very attractive and only deserving of what he perceives to be the most attractive females. So I assume he is picky and has a bit of arrogance to him. . So no I usually steer clear. And if I find myself falling for one then I get all discombobulated and second guess everything. . And now I’ve reflected on that I shall go dig a hole for myself to hide in 🫣 . This sounds soooooo judgy! . If it helps, I usually go off their eyes. They show how open and warm they are towards others. And it’s hard to get that reliably from a photo. As a gym bro I can assure you we all have crippling body dismorphia 💀
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 7 hours ago, raleigh953174 said: I assume any man who is too good looking is using a fake profile 😂 That's sad and hopeless
de**** Posted October 18 I've been told I'm too nice a few times. And they won't tell me what they are looking for like do they want me to bad mouth them? Or ignore them? I won't say I'm so attractive girls reject me but I feel it goes with that some just don't know what they truly want anymore.
Ly**** Posted October 18 I think most women have something like a cap on how attractive men actually appear. Like, there's a category of "the most attractive" and it doesn't really exceed that. But I think most women who would have a hard time speaking to or approaching attractive men, probably just have difficult time interacting with men, in general.
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