Ly**** Posted October 18 12 minutes ago, john-6542 said: I think most people here missed the point he isn't asking about "consenting adults" he talking about the youth and or ***. It is personal offensive that my ***'s elementary library has books on transgender ideology and racial oppression but they can't take a Bible to school. If we are talking about open honest education either we should equally present all view points or none. Also would think most people would agree that most high school students aren't mature enough to to appropriately discuss and explore these topics but we have them in cartoon books for 1st graders. Most high school students are absolutely mature enough to receive education of sexuality, gender identity, and race relations and history. It's their parents who lack the maturity to accept reality. These things exist and different people are interacting and contributing to society. Exposure in younger *** is still a work in progress, the same way disability used to be. No public school is allowed to prohibit a child from carrying religious text.
borblezorb Posted October 18 2 hours ago, KinkyDodgersGuy said: Bruh post nut clarity hitting u too hard lmfao. Lots of people have f*cked up dark kinks in this day and age that’s how the internet works🤷‍♂️, go yap this think piece elsewhere fr. Nah the thing is is that some people have no capacity for deep thought and shut it down when it's not really their job to curate peoples conversations online to their own biased liking. A lot of kinky people have too much existential awareness but perhaps be grateful you don't.
borblezorb Posted October 18 If you focus on what people say you can tell if they are and aren't capable of hypothetical forms of thinking and they have no clue what you are even talking about when you bring it up to them
ey**** Posted October 18 This is why it is important for parents to both understand what their offspring are accessing - and also to teach about sex and consent. though, younger generations have always found ways to access adult content.  to a degree........ softcore on social media while it often shouldn't be there is less of an issue. the current ill-thought out age restrictions are ending up pointing people to access more extreme content on non-compliant piracy sites.Â
tr**** Posted October 18 You think our experiences are any different than the orgies in the Roman Bath houses. It’s the age old argument of morality. Do our actions negatively impact society? Does pretending to feel a certain way, to appease society, protect our Individual well being. If enough of society well being is compromised ,masked, or feigned would that not be more harmful to society?
Si**** Posted October 18 Hello, I definitely see your points. I think it's been due to the Internet as a whole since the beginning really. Because humans have always had that dark side to them, it was just far easier to hide before the Internet, once social media began, we were able to connect more without having to reveal ourselves. The darkness in humanity was always there & always will be, now we just noticed it more.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author People aren't really getting the point and just wanting to ride the slippery slope and tell me to to leave the app if it makes me feel dirty. People just accept the world is going downhill apparently and are ok with it because it gets them off
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 1 hour ago, LyriaStrong said: Most high school students are absolutely mature enough to receive education of sexuality, gender identity, and race relations and history. It's their parents who lack the maturity to accept reality. These things exist and different people are interacting and contributing to society. Exposure in younger *** is still a work in progress, the same way disability used to be. No public school is allowed to prohibit a child from carrying religious text. It's not just highschool students who see soft porn constantly. My four year olds YouTube shows have it and YouTube allows it no matter how many times I report it. They don't care. Why should I accept this reality? I'm not even discussing sexual education. Of course that is necessary before high school.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 1 hour ago, SeekingMatureSub said: Appreciate that. In the end we all have to search in our upbringing the experiences we all experienced. He I believe is on that journey to find why he feels guilty and his remarks here should be respected and not attacked. You're a wise man
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 2 hours ago, RoodHapje said: I connect to my ancestors through sex. It is highly spiritual to me. After all, I am because my ancestors had sex. Your ancestors may have a very different outlook on how sex and technology should interact. How does a person know if their ancestors would appreciate their offspring honoring them through fetish sex?
ey**** Posted October 18 8 minutes ago, jacehendrix said: . People just accept the world is going downhill apparently and are ok with it because it gets them off what do you propose? Â
ph**** Posted October 18 Pedophila is not a new thing and I would argue it's being hunted and punished more now than any other point in history. Porn addiction is a real thing and needs to be talked about more, but sexuality has been used in marketing for at least 60 years now, and we as a society have accepted it, so why wouldn't individuals use their own sexuality as marketing?
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 2 hours ago, Collar_n_chains said: If this is a god thing. Stop. But ok, the basic thing here and in most places is consent, both parties are *adults, *aware of what's involved, and *consenting to it. With the backup that if consent is revoked, then activities cease immediately. This is healthy sex, boundaries are heard and respected, indulgence doesn't hurt anyone (despite *** being a goal for many) no matter what form it takes, hell, many people do these consensual things without sex merely due to the pleasure it gives them. For people with the "kink" as you say it of no boundaries whatsoever and normalizing it are the same people who refuse to make laws regarding martial *** illegal because it isn't a thing, marriage is a god thing, God says women are basically property, so if I want to use my Fleshlight when I WANT regardless of their wishes, that's God's will. Those people are predators, in all walks of life, vanilla, chocolate, minty, fruity, they get away with it for many reasons, some of which you demonstrate here. They're the ones telling you it's wrong and who to be angry at so they line their pockets and have power, see the church paedophilia problem, rich and powerful people doing what they want, because they make the rules and interpret them. THAT is ***, taking away your chance to say... No. Taking away through it "being how it is" religion or laws.... And in their private spaces they're doing things you'd never do, with same sex, ***, ***s, by exploiting people who trust them.. it's abhorrent. But it's "normal" it's "just the way it is". The more people who learn to trust their own mind, to be able to create healthy boundaries, to have their needs met and find the right people is SO MUCH the opposite of a problem. What is a problem is we can't talk about it because of "those people". sex work is work, but while there are laws for say, freelance architects, the only laws regarding prostitution demonise it at best, make it harder and even more unsafe than it is because... "They're just whores, not people". CNC is a thing, that's consensual non consent, playing at *** but again, adults, aware, consenting, consent can be revoked anytime. Not having the willpower to stop when needed crosses the line into monster territory, here be monsters indeed. We recognize them, but can't call them out because "it may ruin their life" and so fucking what if it does, we call ***ers out all the time and it fucking ruins theirs. One rapist, even if they don't realize they're doing it, can hurt dozens of people over their lifetime and they literally may not realize it because we CANT TALK ABOUT IT, victims try to hide it so don't discuss that Greg is a rapist, be careful of him, and if they do, who believes the victim? And male victims? Queer, the elderly, ***, everyone has the potential to do it and everybody has the potential to just fucking not. But your sort of talk, the one that others "others" that makes it ok to hate people, and people DIE that way. Hate yourself because you shouldn't? ***, hate someone else because they shouldn't? Hate crime leading to *** "for a joke" people not being able to say "if like to fuck and love more than one person" "the spouse did it, it's always the spouse....." I'm sick of people just being told what to think. Be an adult, be aware of what's involved and consent with your thoughts too. Rant over. It's not a religious thing, as I am not religious, but it is definitely a matter of morality and the higher self. Sex is sacred, or special no matter who you are. It deserves respect. It is not something to become addicted to or think about 24/7. That is degrading. A society where that is commonplace would be degenerate. We are currently on the slippery slope headed in that direction if humanity cannot manage itself properly.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 3 hours ago, Timoth said: I think this is a very closed minded way of looking at things. We are an*mals, and sex is something integral to survival as a species, is deeply ingrained in all of us. Knowledge is power. Teach the kids what sex is and how people will try to take advantage of others to get it, and why that’s wrong. Speaking of normalizing pedophilia we have one in the whitehouse who is actively protecting a whole lot more. Its as big a problem as ever, but the good thing is its out in the open. As far as promiscuous internet videos, sex sells. And again the answer is knowledge is power. Everyone should fully understand the reason it’s there and the potential consequences of letting that kind of content take your attention. Sex should never be a point of shame. We must embrace it and understand it in all of its forms to control it instead of letting it control us. It's not closed minded at all. A society of sex addiction and perversion is a possibility in the future. One could say it is already here and only getting worse. We are at a crossroads. If my mind was truly closed I'd just allow humanity to become completely degenerate. We are more than just ***s. THAT is close minded. We are only ***s in certain aspects. This is not about sex education it is about soft porn on toddlers YouTube shows and everything else similar to that. Our society is not doing well sexually. There is a divide between the sexes greater than ever. People are isolated more than ever. Perversions are brewing more than ever.
Ca**** Posted October 18 (edited) Well I would have to disagree. I think more damage is done by making sex and your natural urges something of which you should be ashamed. And a culture that STILL treats it like a dirty little secret only prevents you from discussing your desires with others and gaining perspective on which of your urges are acceptable and which ones are not. Additionally when your sexual urges are largely viewed as deviant, then psychologically we lump ALL the urges into the same "deviant" category. In society's eyes the desire to suck a d**k is equally as evil as a desire for paedophillia. As a child of an abusive Baptist upbringing, in which simply thinking about sex is a punishable offense to God himself, I can tell you from experience that it doesn't stop the urges. It only ***s you to explore those urges in a dark room, learning from any source material you can get your hands on, porn and smut. We essentially train our libido to the most depraved settings possible BECAUSE we can't discuss it openly and learn about what we like in a way everyone enjoys. We've come a long way adjusting our Puritanical views, but have still failed to grasp the larger lesson. We're still a society of extremes. You're either a "pure" good person, or a wild freak that will do ANYTHING. We need to shift our focus, not just on the sexual topic, and realize that the cosmic truth is BALANCE. The Universe is chaotic, destructive, always shifting explosively. But after the catastrophe, the dust settles and everything falls into a new balance. In that balance, you find life. When the balance tips in any direction, life dies until the balance is restored. As a whole, I will agree that we have taken the "sexual revolution" WAAAY too far, and tried to assign WAAAY too much complexity to a very simple biological urge. But it is not the problem, it is ONE symptom of the MUCH larger problem that we are still trying to ignore as a society. Edited October 18 by FETMod-HG censor language for Kink Academy SFW
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 3 hours ago, SeekingMatureSub said: Porn and young people have always had an interest in sex. I think if you feel dirty inside then you should leave this and all sites related to sex or nudity. There is a very healthy community here that seeks to find their match that wants a real relationship that has more ways to express their passion for another. Too often the religious teachings, social norm of judgement, and parental criticism and guilt to make them feel dirty has left people with internal conflict and want to free themselves of these ill placed thoughts and feelings. . This is a place for many healthy people to find freedom from the ill placed thoughts and feelings. This site is simply here for healthy people to find their match and those like you who struggle we are on our own journeys to find freedom from other’s beliefs. Hope you find your pathway to move forward I just find alot of the things on this site predatory, and appealing to the lowest parts of the self, which is obvious to see. You may consider that healthy to indulge in, but I only do so when my lower self is in control. I do not care about religion or social norms. This is a matter of advanced morality that others may not understand.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 3 hours ago, KinkyDodgersGuy said: Bruh post nut clarity hitting u too hard lmfao. Lots of people have f*cked up dark kinks in this day and age that’s how the internet works🤷‍♂️, go yap this think piece elsewhere fr. Indulge in your lower self all you want. Things will only get darker on here, trust me. That is the direction of the "sexual revolution". Sex addiction and perversion has tolerance just like other addictions. I didn't have to nut to think clearly, either. Thinking clearly actually is more consistent, and longer lasting through not nutting.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 3 hours ago, RoodHapje said: Only a small amount of our ancestors were Christian. By far, most of our ancestors were primal and feral. Nothing wrong with connecting to them through primal sex. I'm not a Christian either. I am an occultist. I'm sure you know something about a higher self and lower self?
Ca**** Posted October 18 19 minutes ago, jacehendrix said: I'm not a Christian either. I am an occultist. I'm sure you know something about a higher self and lower self? Everyone is so quick to treat their religion as unique. I don't believe in gods or magic, but consider myself a Druid. But if you take the time to gloss over other religions, you quickly realize that they all have common morality. The reason for this is simple, we don't need a god to tell us right and wrong. A CHILD can tell you when something's bad. We all still have a conscience, that part of our psyche that makes us feel bad when others suffer. Most have just chosen to ignore their conscience because "No one else cares. Why should I?" It is that apathy that has fueled the decay, and will continue to do so until we as a whole decide to get off our asses and think about the changes we REALLY need and let go of the stupid, petty shit that is needlessly keeping our collective panties in a wad.
Deleted Member Posted October 18 28 minutes ago, jacehendrix said: I just find alot of the things on this site predatory, and appealing to the lowest parts of the self, which is obvious to see. You may consider that healthy to indulge in, but I only do so when my lower self is in control. I do not care about religion or social norms. This is a matter of advanced morality that others may not understand. If you feel that the site is predatory and unhealthy and it makes you feel dirty - you will always be fighting yourself. It doesn't matter whether others agree or not - it's your own conscience and moral code you should pay attention to.
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 4 hours ago, Ste501172 said: You could argue people are most honest on here with who they really are and what they want kink wise, as according to many folks we're a right bunch of evil doers lol I would be a more honest person if I gave into my desires?
ja**** Posted October 18 Author 5 hours ago, yertleturtle said: All valid feelings you have there. If you feel an app is not for you, would you leave said app or continue to use? I think as humans we are able to make personal decisions and choices based on what or reactions inside make us feel. If it feels good it’s healthy. If it feels dirty then it’s not for you. Older generations were very much church related. Where today non religious people are the majority on these apps. So to ask yourself if it’s a good app for society, or if it’s a good app for you? Why stir the pot when everyone already enjoys what’s cooking. I’d say, just let people enjoy themselves and if you’re not down with the flow, you have the option to not use the app. There's a big difference between the higher self and lower self
Ca**** Posted October 18 22 minutes ago, jacehendrix said: I would be a more honest person if I gave into my desires? I believe the honesty he spoke of was admitting that they HAVE DESIRES. The distinction often overlooked is having desires vs acting on them. You are honest in admitting to the desires, but that doesn't absolve you of the ethical dilemma of acting on them. Admittedly many of my kinks came from my traumatic childhood, as happens with almost everyone that has kinks. Those kinks will continue to build until the underlying causal factor is addressed. I will agree that I have seen some kinks that have made my skin crawl, as well. When it's play, exploration, no one's getting hurt. But when your kinks are predatory, as history has shown us, you'll only play so long before it doesn't do it for you anymore, and you won't be satisfied until you're doing it for real. Before anyone feels attacked and butthurt, I am in no way passing judgement on those kinksters. I am only speaking to the larger underlying issue of letting those scars fester until it destroys your potential and turns you into the monster. It happens before you realize it, and when you do it's too late, you've already crossed the line, so you keep going.
Cade Posted October 18 Actually, to the contrary, I feel we are see more the ramifications of "sexual oppression", and the rubber band effect. I can't speak for any place but in America where we have a very puritanical view of sex (but *** is okay). This oppression has been examined by newer generations and the natural order is to rebel! So, from sexual oppression comes sexual ignorance which turned into sexual adventurism.
si**** Posted October 18 I don't know, I feel like it would be kind of hypocritical say that, I do get it because sometimes I feel guilty or ashamed to be on apps such as theses ones or like what I like but with that being said the removal or limitations for soft porn just wouldn't be fair. Some people really don't find intrest or get turned on by sex that's too exciting or too much for them, just as we have preferences so do people who like soft porn, with that being said I do think soft porn and most sexual fantasy's should be normalize so people can explore (obviously NOT actual *** or ***s), I don't think the normalization of soft porn is bad, but it's different when it's encouraging, ***d, or used to make you feel bad about your own desires. It's not fair for us to feel bad for what we like, and I don't think our ancestors would look down on it because I don't believe our ancestors did not have kinky sex, plus some Kinks can have to do with genetics, though its not hereditary.
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