Tu**** Posted October 23 THE SEXUAL EXPLORERS MANIFESTO Anyone who has ever honestly looked into their soul will appreciate the invaluable importance of sexual satisfaction Once basic necessities like food, rest and shelter are met, realizing your sensuality and affectivity needs allows you to reach the highest personal wellness. Science and philosophy have even shown how any other desire is but the channeling of those needs - and experience confirms that: finding the persons who enable us to serenely express our nature as sexual beings and to turn our erotic fantasies into reality does move most other preoccupations and problems to the background. Further proof of all of this are the effects of the lack of sexual satisfaction. Freud was the first to formalize how frustrated libido begot all sort of neurosis, and his observation remains valid today more than ever. In fact, you don't need to be a refined psychologist to notice how an unresolved sex life - deriving in turn from an insufficient or totally lacking education to affectivity - lies at the foundation of issues small and large, ranging from the individual to the largest social scale. Distressed couples, gender-based ***, discriminations, *** of power, cultural conflicts, even entire international crises can be traced back with remarkable ease to a big underlying erotic unhappiness, exacerbated by the hypersexualization of the information that constantly bombards us. Likewise, it is clear how so much dissatisfaction comes above all from an interpretation of sexuality based on moralistic instead of ethical rules. The vast majority of families, schools, society, media and fiction perpetuate a conception of identities, of affective relations, of sex and of eroticism that negates the very nature of human behavior in the name of ancient norms or superstitions which have no reason to exist in our age anymore. Although progress was made even at an institutional level - for example about homosexuality acceptance - the prevalent attitude remains an obstinate attempt to make real sexuality conform to a convenient, imaginary notion rife with taboos, instead of more simply acknowledging the complexity of such a fundamental and varied dimension of the human being. The frustration arises from this very irreconcilable conflict, which cannot be solved but can be abandoned As a matter or tact countless cases teach us that subscribina to the conventions about sexuality is far from obligatory just as much as suffering from them isn't. The respect due to those who choose to live according to so-called "traditional" canons notwithstanding, nothing prevents us from relinquishing them to seek our happiness. Attaining it defuses and solves not only one's personal problems but also their reflections on those around us. To pursue a conscious and serene sexuality therefore is an ethical and social duty, as much as teaching to those interested how to find their own path. For there is no doubt sexuality is an exquisitely individual matter, which everyone lives in different and fluid ways that make defining one universal form impossible. Besides a series of common principles to safeguard health and respect for us, our partners and for any third party, every other element of one's road toward their satisfaction is eminently personal. Learning to identify them in the boundless territory of pleasure is part of pleasure itself, and makes every one of us a sexual explorer. Here is what we believe in. Everyone has a sex life and the right to live it with satisfaction Every culture more or less rigidly defines for which persons having a sexual dimension is "appropriate" and who can instead be derided, criticized, looked with suspicion or repressed just because they feel the natural call to live their sexuality. Some examples are seniors, disabled persons, those who do not fit common aesthetic canons, adolescents - or even those who are identified by their social role, such as parent, priest, and so on. However, overcoming these conventions and acknowledging this right is essential both for the well-being of the people in question and because this allows to understand the causes of their distress and address them for the benefit of the whole society.
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