The autistic hell of feeling guilty flirting

[ey****]

I think also there's always a reason why you're messaging someone.  That message may well be.... you message everyone in a certain radius (don't do that!) but there must be some reason

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Why did they stand out, for you?

[ki****]

I’m autistic and I feel the same way at times. It’s different for males and females but as a guy I find that as long as I’m not messaging about looks early then it’s ok. It’s about being respectful and building suspense and intrigue when starting to talk with someone.
Try thinking about what apart from looks makes you want to reach out? Personality, common desires, common interests are usually safe topics to start with.