I D from a providing pleasure ideal. And I found I have just enough sadist to enjoy the scared look or shudder or sobbing. I get off on knowing I have a sub that wants me to get her across that line. But I take purient interest in the result. I enjoy the high if controlled, sharp *** as a sub. Read more… I find a quiet space where I have to blank everything out to take the ***. It helps me compartmentalize. I'm also very competitive and I love impressing a Domina with my will to accept non injurious sharp ***. It's like where my brain can go to off for a minute.

That's why I roll my eyes at the hardest core of the lifestyle factions that claim switch is impossible. The doms always have some outrageous what they picture as aloha male thing (never Dominas) to say. But...see, in a confident person. I don't get shook by little boys playing bad man. Biggest the desperation and compensation in their over the top crude sexual posts in these pages where they are wildly inappropriate and figure they have to know they didn't really get over on anyone there...they just exposed their lack of depth. I see it the same when some Ds puff chest and start claiming domination is in their DNA. They never waiver because they wake up ready to kick all asses. Etc. No...that's not a Dom. Quiet assertion and more power in silence than with words...that's a Dom. Alpha ? Cosplay, maybe

ADHD?

That's ridiculous... You make a populist reward while ignoring all the reasons that have been given. It's not about not being able to accept a compliment it's about how many times out of 10 that compliment if accepted is followed by something that is crass. You are not due an expectation of a Read more… response from anybody. That's not how s***ch works. Everyone has their own filters from their own personal feelings, and basically saying so much to be wiped off the freaking face of the earth because there's fed up with a certain type of person getting s***** on them if they make that first thank you, with not a second of experience in their shoes... So many feels wrapped up in a diatribe

Why so worried about someone that doesn't want to give you the time of day? F***.. I miss competitive as anyone can be in this place I guarantee you probably more competitive than any of you in all things... And still I can deal with someone isn't interested. Why the hell would you want a response from someone who isn't? It's all about your own ego My God Just move on

Some of my answers are un readable. Sorry about that. I have some auto Bondo epoxy on my phone from a bumper repair I'm doing 2 my car yand it causes buttons to hit or not hit with no particular regularity so it kind of sounds like I'm having a stroke and some of those answers above. It'll be fixed Read more… tonight when I clean this off

Problem is there's far too many unhealthy people who will then start pushing them why is that I don't think I have enough *** for you or I'm sure you don't find me attractive cuz I look like I have a life s***. People get very bizarre rejection and women have spent their whole life actually ***ing Read more… physical and knowing that I mental *** is probably the lightest they get away. This isn't about the one person this is about the whole

My first contact is usually about a photo because j love photos that show personality. And you know then when you see them. To make sure it started there but then is their move, I'll say " I really love your profile pic the whole set was really good. Looking like you were having a lot of fun Read more… ...probably a good story t there...it looks like you were with pople that you enjoy.
This is where I'll step out. I'm sure you're box is full with guys sending messages. I just wanted to say I enjoy the photos , so...feel free to read my bio and ask me question anything. But until then ill be out of her frame k I'll be lusomewhere nearby"

It's a volume game...if the last 20 times a guy does that, he turns aggressive and then ultimately insulting because he feels he was do something for being a nice guy... It's going to make it really hard for them to sit through and figure out that you, Mr 21, mean it. I mean we all know the horror Read more… of what men initially message on these apps... Just going to read some of the other posts on these chats. Be a normal question about do people go to King the first day or all that kind of stuff and it'll be arrive guys will be like "don't care about all that. just wanna shove my cock down your throa.'. We just need to have a new approach, one that addresses the unspoken concerns immediately. Also can't just say "hey have a nice guy I want this and so I'm good to have this being treated like a nice guy". Not how the world works lm

Kink, sure. No one should ever submit to bondage on first meet, though, lMO

Art is just borrowing the artist,'s lens and looking at the world through the artists eye and flavor or ease. Esoteric, literal, abstract, impressionistic ..you are seeing the artists misenor do is through their eyes, and that is why art can evoke such emotion. We spend all day every day in our Read more… own head and eyes...she. If js perfect. To see the world from a new POV brings emotion

Art to me is defined as a new lens, or sharing the artists lens, in looking at the world or items or processes, etc. The artist is lending you their eyes.

Not advocating this. But...some definitions of ethical non-monogamy can be stretched by some in similar circumstances. One way is to find someone of similar circumstance through places like this, and agree to fill that role at some frequency that is manageable. They mutually assured destruction Read more… often covers the feels concern, and you keep things surface...not a lot of personal details. Frequency needs to be staggered and not intrusive. Your spouse is not confronted with the kink. This only should be thought about if you really do not want to lose your partner/this is the only thing wrong and you find yourself idealizing risky behavior to get your kink. It's akin to drug harm reduction but don't think it eliminated harm. You have to be able to compartmentalize and never get a weak moment where your own anxiety causes you to tor*** your partners until-then happy life because you can't handle the burden you brought to the game. Only even think of this if your relationship is otherwise unassailable and you are going to fk up anyways, but with much higher risk (going to strangers, etc). This is not a cure all or even adviseable ..but it is better than getting risky and for some is better then leaving and pursuing a relationship with said kink. I am not advocating this at all. But it's a consideration in certain circumstances. Also. If you want it to work, you will only be getting tastes of your kink...it won't support a full time appetite.

My last actual physical mix CD for the bedroom. Yeah...I'm old...

NIN - Closer
Peter Murphy - Cuts You Up
Concrete Blonde - ***letting
Prince -When Doves Cry & Darling Nikki
Gunuine - Pony (I know,but it's perfect)
Depeche Mode "I Want You Now"
New Order "Temptation 87" (more time & place Read more… draw)
Fiona Apple - Criminal
Marvin Gaye - Sexual Healing
Chris Issak - Wicked Game
Salt n Pepa - Push It
The Cure - Letter to Elise