:1775863755,6643671, couchsurfing people without a job. AKA hobosexuals. Not judging as Ive been in bad situations, some my fault, some not...but I also didnt use dating as a way to get meals. In fact, I didnt date at all, I focused on me until my shit was back together enough Read more… that socializing was a priority. I wouldnt even mind helping people get on their feet because, again, I've been there...but most of them dont even want that, they just want the free ride and just bail if they cant get one. Its worse if theyre using sex as an escape/drug, I dont want to enable bad behavior. Plus, its just hella awkward if i just want sex, and they just want food/shelter...gives me the ick, its NOT the dynamic im looking for. I stop wanting the sex because I dont want to be a creep, and then I just feel like someone's dad sayin 'put down the pipe and get a job'.

I hobo'd for a summer back when I was 18. But the women in that circle of couches said it was preferable to me leaving town back to my university city (I was couch surfing my hometown, which is about 30 degrees F cooler then my college town (75-80°F vs 105-110°F). I had been hooking up with one but we were casual so I didn't just want to stay there and put a relationship vibe neither of us wanted. But she was very generous and told her two closest friends of a skill I had picked up the previous year that honestly changed my life as things like this happened and I was able to be confident going forward (,40 yo kitchen manager seduced this 28, year old and spent half a year teaching me how to be her perfect oral companion...just to be transferred within the franchise out of town after j figured it out ,:) ). So I flipped from one of three beds. I always started on the couch and had to be invited ..i was s first and not going to tell presume. And I tried to stay no more then 3 or 4 days in one stay. So was I a hobosexusl or an actual compensated sex worker? Because it was pretty obvious my stay was tied to sleeping with them, but also spending a good amount of time at their discretion engaged in that one act. Not that I was complaining . One was wealthy and the other two worked at a pizza place with my best friend, so either actual restaurant meals and home cooked (i cooked) quality or pizza and wings ..was the most memorable summer of my college life. Hobosexual or manwhore? Both,? :)

(Btw. That 40 something kitchen GM started my kink journey. Lots of other stories there)

These are for people wanting to explore sub space when talking to a Dom

Any Dom in a BDSM conversation who goes straight toasking about/ discussions of *** and impact play. That's someone who just wants to hurt people. You should have some philosophy where impact play if desired has a reason Read more… other than sadism...a purpose and outcome.

If in your first meeting with a dom, they want to restrain you with anything other than an easily slippable or detachable implement

No bio - "ask me,".

Someone who complains how (this group) have too much power on these spaces and won't respond to him, etc

Intellectual curiosity is my favorite trait. This feeds directly to that

If it happens like that on this app it in the real world, the that is how it works here or in the real world...at least by those who do it that way. Who are you to tell them different? Because you declared yourself as dominant? I'd say a person who can't earn that submission isn't really all that Read more… dominant. You don't become a Dom and have people submit by declaring yourself one and having them fall at your feet

I D from a providing pleasure ideal. And I found I have just enough sadist to enjoy the scared look or shudder or sobbing. I get off on knowing I have a sub that wants me to get her across that line. But I take purient interest in the result. I enjoy the high if controlled, sharp *** as a sub. Read more… I find a quiet space where I have to blank everything out to take the ***. It helps me compartmentalize. I'm also very competitive and I love impressing a Domina with my will to accept non injurious sharp ***. It's like where my brain can go to off for a minute.

That's why I roll my eyes at the hardest core of the lifestyle factions that claim switch is impossible. The doms always have some outrageous what they picture as aloha male thing (never Dominas) to say. But...see, in a confident person. I don't get shook by little boys playing bad man. Biggest the desperation and compensation in their over the top crude sexual posts in these pages where they are wildly inappropriate and figure they have to know they didn't really get over on anyone there...they just exposed their lack of depth. I see it the same when some Ds puff chest and start claiming domination is in their DNA. They never waiver because they wake up ready to kick all asses. Etc. No...that's not a Dom. Quiet assertion and more power in silence than with words...that's a Dom. Alpha ? Cosplay, maybe

ADHD?

That's ridiculous... You make a populist reward while ignoring all the reasons that have been given. It's not about not being able to accept a compliment it's about how many times out of 10 that compliment if accepted is followed by something that is crass. You are not due an expectation of a Read more… response from anybody. That's not how s***ch works. Everyone has their own filters from their own personal feelings, and basically saying so much to be wiped off the freaking face of the earth because there's fed up with a certain type of person getting s***** on them if they make that first thank you, with not a second of experience in their shoes... So many feels wrapped up in a diatribe

Why so worried about someone that doesn't want to give you the time of day? F***.. I miss competitive as anyone can be in this place I guarantee you probably more competitive than any of you in all things... And still I can deal with someone isn't interested. Why the hell would you want a response from someone who isn't? It's all about your own ego My God Just move on

Some of my answers are un readable. Sorry about that. I have some auto Bondo epoxy on my phone from a bumper repair I'm doing 2 my car yand it causes buttons to hit or not hit with no particular regularity so it kind of sounds like I'm having a stroke and some of those answers above. It'll be fixed Read more… tonight when I clean this off

Problem is there's far too many unhealthy people who will then start pushing them why is that I don't think I have enough *** for you or I'm sure you don't find me attractive cuz I look like I have a life s***. People get very bizarre rejection and women have spent their whole life actually ***ing Read more… physical and knowing that I mental *** is probably the lightest they get away. This isn't about the one person this is about the whole

My first contact is usually about a photo because j love photos that show personality. And you know then when you see them. To make sure it started there but then is their move, I'll say " I really love your profile pic the whole set was really good. Looking like you were having a lot of fun Read more… ...probably a good story t there...it looks like you were with pople that you enjoy.
This is where I'll step out. I'm sure you're box is full with guys sending messages. I just wanted to say I enjoy the photos , so...feel free to read my bio and ask me question anything. But until then ill be out of her frame k I'll be lusomewhere nearby"

It's a volume game...if the last 20 times a guy does that, he turns aggressive and then ultimately insulting because he feels he was do something for being a nice guy... It's going to make it really hard for them to sit through and figure out that you, Mr 21, mean it. I mean we all know the horror Read more… of what men initially message on these apps... Just going to read some of the other posts on these chats. Be a normal question about do people go to King the first day or all that kind of stuff and it'll be arrive guys will be like "don't care about all that. just wanna shove my cock down your throa.'. We just need to have a new approach, one that addresses the unspoken concerns immediately. Also can't just say "hey have a nice guy I want this and so I'm good to have this being treated like a nice guy". Not how the world works lm