ba**** Posted October 27 How do you differentiate between people that want to learn about you. And those that just want to get off?
El**** Posted October 27 Talk to them for a bit and ask for what they are seeking. If it’s not your thing then “respectfully” move on. There are also spam accounts on here. Don’t be shy- ask for pics when you do chat a bit. Happy hunting!
NoLeashKitten Posted October 27 Conversations. How fast do they answer, are there answers vague, does the conversations trail off? Profiles if you stop from the initial impression and actually take time to reread and break down things they have posted you can tell what they are really wanting.
Ph**** Posted October 27 It's really sad that so many people use this lifestyle as a sex object.... if they would actually see the beauty in the lifestyle.. they could actually see a bigger picture.... I believe that one day someone will have my heart and mind before my body.....
No**** Posted October 28 The questions they ask and how willing they are to stay on a subject which doesn’t encourage flirting and complements fishing for a swoon.
dr**** Posted October 28 What I find is that my questions get ignored or brushed past and they ask more specific and gratuitous questions
ed**** Posted October 28 That's easy. Nobody wants to get off to me, so they must all be interested. 😆
ChocolateRopeBunny Posted October 28 56 minutes ago, dragonlover001 said: What I find is that my questions get ignored or brushed past and they ask more specific and gratuitous questions Don't. Don't ever let anyone ignore you. Say something. Usually I ask "is there a reason why you chose to ignore my question?" That usually yields an apology followed by answer to my question. This isn't a space where you can be timid and just assume things will get better with time. We're way past those times in general in the way people deal with each other.
ChocolateRopeBunny Posted October 28 It's in their questioning. And their follow up questions and/or responses to your answers. Are their questions centered around you or centered around something sexual about you.
pc**** Posted October 28 Look for sapiosexuals. Those that are stimulated by your intellect and discussions first. They will find the other aspects of you more appealing and be more invested
ke**** Posted October 28 It’s a feeling you get when you talk to them, you can see who’s in it for you or just to steal your photos. Patience momma and you will find what you’re looking for. Dont give your cookies out until you find a worthy person.
Ft**** Posted October 28 I have noticed that those who aren’t actually looking for relationship will show their cards early. For example, I recently had someone ask where I am. It’s literally in my name. Someone else asked if I wanted to play. That answer is abundantly clear in my profile. Makes it super easy to delete and block fast.
Tr**** Posted October 28 Vetting should take time. They should be willing to meet platonically first in a public place. They should accept the “no” immediately and not ridicule or push you to change your limits. They will always ignore your questions, they get power from secrecy.
Vt**** Posted October 28 I feel this SO MUCH so many are here not for the lifestyle but because they think it's easy sex...
po**** Posted October 28 Lol, I used to care. Definitely don’t anymore. You’re an object till I see reason, care, compassion, empathy. People are replaceable a lesson I learned the hard way. If you can’t even satisfy without complaints I’m not tolerating the head ache you bring to the table. It is all take with no reward. My interest becomes supply and demand. Good product deserves investment time, energy, effort. Nothing personal ❤️
Al**** Posted October 28 This is such a good, fundamental, question. Here is a counter question...why separate them? It seems to me, the attempt to separate individuals passionate from restrained is placing yourself into an echo chamber and stripping it of the less preferable. The problem is that if you are the target of exploitation, you won't see it till after. So assume everyone is both and interact in a way that's clarifying to the partner.
da**** Posted October 28 Thats how it is in all these sites and apps .....the real ones get overshadowed and hide from the blunt attacks.....its wild to think as a man i could feel the same way but I get the same responses you all do
Ch**** Posted October 28 Those that want to get off tend to ask just questions about sex, or they send sex scenarios, ask what im wearing, how big are my boobs ect, very shallow stuff. Very rarely its about actual kink/lifestyle.
Ro**** Posted October 28 Depends on where the conversation goes. If they can track things you have discussed or not. If they are vague and go overboard with compliments.
sl**** Posted October 28 If they want to learn about you they will ask stuff like what your hobby ans stuff are. If they just want to get off they just ask sexual stuff all the time. Sometimes a person well pretend to learn about and ask thay stuff but then they will ask sexual stuff still as well.
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