What brought you to fet

[EKcurious]

I have been wanting to try to be on the receiving end of some bondage and maybe other things but never got the right introduction. Also a bit of reluctance due to being introvert. I got to the point that I need to try.

[tw****]

Want to explore a lot of different things, new to it all

[Deleted Member]

I was on a swingers site and met a sub. She put me onto Fet.

I’ve dismissed her as my sub now but we’re still in touch occasionally.

[Ti****]

I've been trying for over 20 years to find/make a like minded female friend to indulge in my fetishes. However, having tried the TMF and Fetlife, I found them to be full of the most toxic, nasty, insufferably smug gatekeepers. Instead of welcoming folks, they mock them and belittle them for not going all out.

For example, I don't like social interactions with groups of strangers, yet was mocked for not wanting to attend events. I also found that people tend to try and take advantage of those who aren't as experienced or have an eagerness to actively indulge for the first time, insisting that you should pay for the pleasure. Why should people with little to no experience have to pay for even a hint of what most people get free?

I tried Feeld and that was pointless. Yet another app that costs a fortune for no real results. I'm hoping this app may be different, despite having already encountered a few unsavoury types who ignored/blocked polite greetings without a word (way to kick a guy while he's down) and one who seemed friendly enough before having the cheek to ask for *** just because I'm older than the age range she wanted.

[Deleted Member]

April 17, SkipperVa said:

I've grown tired of the overly defensive/negative attitudes about sex (even vanilla sex) that is so common in vanilla dating app culture. I'm convinced many there are not in touch with their sexual side at all, and don't want to be. I want a great relationship that involves laughing, friendship, deep intellectual conversation...and kinky sex. I dont want to text for 6 weeks then date for 6 months to find out shes only into lights off, missionary on valentine's day because she feels she has to. Yuck! Dead bedroom energy is kryptonite.

I want more than just kinky sex here, but this app makes it so simple to filter for upfront and then see if the rest comes with it later. Its also great that this app isnt playing overly restrictive paywall games with matches and swipe queues and that you can just see everyone nearby and message more freely. It feels (a little) less like a meat market and more like hanging out at a party.

Last, the integrated forum is such a smart added value. The ability for us to ask and answer questions, get insight, learn from each others experience and benefit from it is doing some real work.

Basically this, I fully agree with this but for my part I am seeking to understand me and hoping to gain some guidance.

[Sh****]

I’ve never used dating apps before, so I was curious to see what they were like, in general. However, the thought of figuring out how to tell a stranger what I am into in the bedroom seemed a bit daunting. How many dates does one wait to tell the other person that you want to be hu-mil-i-at-ed and that dinner dates would be more fun if I was leashed and on all fours? 🧐🤪🫣 So I figured I should join a more kink-forward app, and friends recommended Fet. I’ve had a positive experience so far! Of course, there have been some snags along the way, but they were helpful learning experiences!