Deleted Member Posted November 9 I for the first time encountered a situation where 2 times in a row have been turned down when people find out I have epilepsy it "creeped them out" and "made them uncomfortable" Have you ever encountered this or other health conditions and it makes you uncomfortable enough to call it quits?
Ba**** Posted November 9 I’ve never called it quits but I’ve had someone turn me down for being a diabetic.My ex told me that It’s taxing mentally to be with someone who has a severe health condition. That he didn’t need the extra stress.
mu**** Posted November 9 Someone's health condition wouldn't put me off the person, assuming they are Managing it sensibly and not putting themselves at risk. What I would be prepared to do with them, in terms of play, may be affected by their health condition if it might affect my health or safety.
Ditchdoc Posted November 9 Medical conditions don't bother me. But I feel the same way I have an insulin pump and it bothers folks that don't understand them
Firepit Posted November 9 Why would epilepsy creep someone out? Doesn't make any sense to me. Perhaps they recoiled at the thought of potentially being in a situation where they'd to be responsible or care of someone else? That's all I can think of.
st**** Posted November 9 As someone with a disability, I trust very few people to tell them. So I'm sorry whne you got to that point they were that immature.
em**** Posted November 9 I get nervous when people have health conditions that could make things dangerous. Like heart conditions and such and I guess I would be nervous about epilepsy too. You just never know.
Di**** Posted November 9 It’s probably not creep out more responsibly them not having the confidence to handle it if happens in front of them which is fair enough to them not everyone can deal with on going health concerns. Maybe reassuring them about how often how easy it is to deal with if it ever happens may help. Just don’t let this effort you good things will come down the road
Qu**** Posted November 9 I am upfront and completely honest with play partners when it comes to health conditions. From severity, medications, last occurrence. Using you as an example, I would want you to have clearance from your doc if I were to do any sort of electro play. See what they say and what activities you could engage in. I have done play with epileptic people but each person is different.
Cy**** Posted November 9 Don't be the person who claims "disability!" to manipulate your partner. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. If people are turning a disabled person down, that means they've been burned by an asshole claiming disability to selfish ends.
In**** Posted November 9 I have health conditions and I get rejected lots because of it. Isn't fun. Im pretty open about my health if Im in a conversation with someone. I adapt. Obviously somethings I cant do. But everyone should be able to make compromises.
st**** Posted November 9 1 hour ago, Cyan-Stork said: Don't be the person who claims "disability!" to manipulate your partner. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. If people are turning a disabled person down, that means they've been burned by an asshole claiming disability to selfish ends. I'm sorry, I wish this was true. I was a Special Ed teacher who lost 98% of his vision. Some just don't have the maturity to see past a disability.
st**** Posted November 9 3 hours ago, BabyBunniiee said: I’ve never called it quits but I’ve had someone turn me down for being a diabetic.My ex told me that It’s taxing mentally to be with someone who has a severe health condition. That he didn’t need the extra stress. Ugh.... As someone who knew he would be some form of diabetic with the steroids needed to save my sight, fuck him.
BC**** Posted November 9 I feel that, I have chronic fatigue to the point of being basically narcoleptic. People don't get it and when I fall asleep on them or tell them in too tired to drive it just turns into a fight. To many people are too selfish to care about what others are going through.
Deleted Member Posted November 9 Safety first. So if someone has seizures or constantly falls asleep, I wouldn't want that person tying me and suspending me upside down. UNLESS we were around other people and EVERYONE there was aware of the situation. Nor would I want to chain and ball gag a person knowing they could have a seizure. It's scary on my end, and I'd hate to hurt someone or even have them die??
Jo**** Posted November 9 I wouldn't tell them and when it happens , it happens . Call it epilepsy rodeo
4R**** Posted November 9 41 minutes ago, sproutneedsgrounding said: and I'd hate to hurt someone or even have them die?? The latter would be most inconvenient - think of the paperwork! In all seriousness, you've raised some good points there.
Mi**** Posted November 10 I feel it should be communicated between all parties if there is a serious risk due to health conditions that can affect either person. One, the other person can or may save your life. Two, if the person who has the condition and says nothing and something happens. That can make ppl feel responsible for it happening,and that can be traumatizing to them. Three, it's just good sense to let your partners know in case..old adage... better safe than sorry. Fourth, having some health conditions, a person should know their limits on what they can and can not do.. example ppl with epilepsy can't and should not be around flashing lights. Some things when talked about can be worked around and can still be enjoyable. If the person won't work with you on that, then simply they are not the right person that you'd want to put your life in their hands. This lifestyle has a lot to offer others. Ppl should be communicating needs, special needs, limits, and boundaries before even starting to play. No one wants to be traumatized by play. I get that. You should always communicate. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. In this case...is your life worth it to hide your health conditions from others? NO.
YegBiBtm721 Posted November 10 5 hours ago, BabyBunniiee said: I’ve never called it quits but I’ve had someone turn me down for being a diabetic.My ex told me that It’s taxing mentally to be with someone who has a severe health condition. That he didn’t need the extra stress. I think that's a bit rude. Diabetes is not a huge problem.
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