Meloni Posted November 11 1 hour ago, NexumSange said: You're pointing out the atrocities of capitalism, consumerism, and NOT blaming women, Dommes, or pros, right?! I am mainly blaming capitalism but also the people (i only have experiance with women) that aren‘t really into this but just do it for *** anyway. Not people who do this as a job with passion, no. Because those usually aren‘t the problem. Also the Problem is that this exact people are the ones shaming it the most. Wich in turn discurages others from joining or, at this point you might aswell say „coming out“. There used to be a Point where it was okay to say that you are into this stuff but the extreme commercialising of kinks to the point where basically everyone thinks that men with this kinks are just weird lonely freaks who only deserve love for *** or not at all is what really broke the szene for most of the young ppl
ey**** Posted November 11 1 hour ago, Meloni said: the extreme commercialising of kinks to the point where basically everyone thinks that men with this kinks are just weird lonely freaks who only deserve love for *** or not at all is what really broke the szene for most of the young ppl I've not quite had the same experiences. Though, could also be a territory difference, I don't know. Like, I guess on one thing that being "out" with kinks is often unnecessary. This hasn't changed in decades. But for example... about 15-20 years ago a newspaper ran a story about "munches" and basically outed one, and gave a little moral panic about them "the sex cults meeting in bars" - unsurprisingly the munch outed stopped running for a while, and when it returned had to find another premises - whereas others kept a lower profile A few weeks ago - in the same kinda area, someone with a grievance outed a munch and the bar just went, "meh, you do you - you've not caused any trouble so don't start now" there was a time that fetish clubs/dungeons/events were all pretty much hush, address given to attendees - and now there's some on google maps and facebook ads. And it's not like... perfect. There's plenty of dungeons I'm aware of really do have to be discreet due to neighbours - but certainly finding a premises they could open a dungeon in, or run an event in - may have it's challenges, but less so than 20 years ago. And that's cos a lot of the kinda mainstream consumerism has led people to kinda understand that it's NOT weird men - but a wider variety of people, and of course these have an opportunity to part with cash to keep these spaces open. Equally, like as cringe as some of the TV shows, newspaper articles, etc about Dommes, kink lifestyle, etc are - it has opened to new people. I mean, hell, the site you're on RIGHT NOW was number 1 in the app store, and you probably wouldn't be on if not for the consumerism - it certainly wouldn't be a viable concern.
Sh**** Posted November 13 Author I didn't realize I opened up such a conversation. I'm interested to see what everyone has to say.
Sh**** Posted November 13 Author Monday at 11:41 PM, Lavish-Ly said: I feel this. Most ppl I’m interested in just want sex. Some just apply themselves a little more than others but especially for “Doms” it’s just been uncompromising men who want a woman to blindly follow them. I have a few good conversations and everyone is different but I don’t feel they are truly Doms just demanding men who use “Dom” because there sex drive is high. My experience hasn’t been much different from traditional dating sites of just ppl looking for hook ups frequently. They assume because you have a fetish your a “freak” and dtf. I agree with that as well. As a man ( I don't even like the term Dom these days it holds no weight) when I have conversations with anyone prospective that's literally the main theme. That the men are just demanding, they are not actually functional when it comes to setting up a system for their sub to actually flourish and fine strengh. It's just an angry little boy with with no direction trying to lead. Honestly men could learn a lot from thier Subs by just listening, she will absolutely tell you how she needs to be handled . I'm talking a lot here and I also wanna make it clear that wasn't a feminist statement. I'm never gonna sit here and take a side in this weird battle of the sexes that's happening I'm the world, because I needed both my mother and father to be conceived. What I am saying is as a man if you want to lead espeas a Dom (I hate that word anymore ) you need to listen and understand everything abiut your Subs. They need to feel comfort especially when you are punishing them. Are you practicing any type of aftercare? Are you feeding her? Someone on some thread said "Just put in a little effort" I agree with it. To do that though you can't be getting censored in a space for kink. To me censoring Kink is like telling a musician they aren't allowed to play a C add 9 just because someone's ears won't like it. I literally write my stories to entice a certain mindset. Meeting in any space with Said mindset is going to optimize that experience whether it stays online or becomes something physical. Maybe I'm saying too much.
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