Cheveyo Posted November 27, 2025 Personally I do love some extra pounds. Everyone is different. I'm sure there are many guys who say things just to get in your pants. Whatever you do, become comfortable with your body first. Find those who love a woman with extra. They will more likely find you. Then enjoy at your own pace.
mr**** Posted November 27, 2025 We all gotta be comfortable in our own skin if we’re not that comfortable we gotta work on it I’m kinda in the same situation was married for long time got comfortable and now I’m working out again and getting in good shape to feel better about myself I personally prefer a thick woman and I’m even attracted to some big girls with curves and cute faced but think a lot of guys say whatever it takes to get sex I think that’s why theirs so many fat rachet 2s online acting like a 10 lol
Ha**** Posted November 27, 2025 To answer your first question, in my opinion yes, having some weight is sexy for a large number of men. Most of us have extra weight as well and can't live up to the image of the muscle bound guy image. We understand real life comes with more then a chiseled body. A real woman is much sexier for us and much more likely for us to actually approach and try to be with As for the other issue, that can be a bit harder to answer. Liking yourself is very hard now a days. We are told we aren't worthy unless we measure up to some image others say is right. But life doesn't tend to listen to others. Life happens and we just make our way through it. Changes happen to us all. None of us are the same as we once were. Just try to be the best you you can be at any given moment. That's all we can do. As for liking sex, there is nothing wrong with it. Just don't use it as a weapon against others or even yourself. You are beautiful and sexy to many people. Just as there are many types of people there are just as many types who like them. Be willing to let them like you. If you ever want an ear to talk to my DM's are open. I struggle with believing anyone would like me the way I look and am as well. But there are a few who do, I just try to let them like me. I like to make new friends, and I try and help my friends as well. Even if all I can do is listen and give my opinion on things. Be well. Life will continue to change for all of us, it would be nice if you kept moving along with it.
su**** Posted November 27, 2025 Firstly, absolutely awesome post/Topic.... Earlier this year I put on weight, (due to health issues) ..... I've managed to lose the weight.... But, on the back of your post.... I would like to ask, "Is there too much pressure for unrealistic expectations of the " Perfect Body? "..... Well done for raising such a "sensitive issue" which affects us all at some point in our lives 💯👌🎯
Al**** Posted November 27, 2025 Body dismorphia is very real, and we can appear much worse to ourselves than to others. But people are people. It doesn't matter that you've gained a few extra pounds. You're still taking care of yourself and youve got your health. A few extra pounds does not matter. It's the confidence that's sexy. If you want to be the sex kitten you "used to be" then just be that person. If someone doesn't like how you're serving them because you've gained weight after serious health issues, then they NEVER deserved what you were giving them in the first place. P.S. yes a few extra pounds are sexy af 🔥
Jo**** Posted November 27, 2025 I personally find some extra weight more attractive than someone without, everyone has preferences. Look at the wide variety of hobbies and kinks people are into, attraction is the same way-- some people's interests or attractions may seem strange to some but theres a thing and a body out there perfect for everyone.
Mo**** Posted November 27, 2025 To me, extra weight is very sexy, and you look for someone who wants YOU
Ju**** Posted November 27, 2025 First off we're all beautiful , 2nd most guys yes say anything to get in the pants I am guilty of this but I do try and find the beauty in the spirit and soul , there's ways of meditation you can get your urge back
ro**** Posted November 27, 2025 As a woman that has always had extra pounds trust me honey you’re are still just as sexy and wanted just as much as you were before. I have carried extra weight my whole adult life and I’ve never had a problem with being wanted. Lots of men and women like curvy girls. Now you just have extra stuff to grab on to. The secret is confidence. You have to love you and think you’re sexy for other people to think you’re sexy. People are truly attracted to your confidence not just your physical body. If you love your body then they will too and believe me honey it’s just as sexy as it was before. Anyone that can’t appreciate that isn’t worth fucking.
an**** Posted November 27, 2025 Yes a few extra is sexy but alot isnt. A few shows that youre healthy barely 100 pounds soaking wet just says youre sick or have a eating disorder. As the old saying goes more coushin for the pushing. Its nice to feel a little give instead of feeling like youre gonna break her bones or be stabbed by a bone.
Deleted Member Posted November 27, 2025 Blunt and honest. Ur 40. Body is changing. A few extra pounds IS sexy and attractive. As long as you are taking care of yourself i think is the most important thing. Wild shit happens in life. And time never loses
Bi**** Posted November 27, 2025 Nah I like the chi choes (love handles) or a little chubb. It's less about a specific weight and more about hygiene and effort, showing you care to appear better but everyone deserves their lazy days. Guys will say anything but don't listen , watch, it will be shown. I'm usually verbally outward with what I like and not but I also pour into actions cause as you said sayin something is just that. So situations where you'd be more revealed publicly (beach /gym , etc) and his reaction or if he proposed it, being playful about it as if it's not taboo if the point is comfortability then it's needs to be acknowledged but respectfully so you feel at easy like it isn't a big deal. Also gym rat type of men or incel types are the only ones who've ever heard say something along those lines from(complaint wise). Having this be a situation for you can be a blessing because used correctly you can weed out assholes who care more about the image of you two in a gram pic or his friends opinions rather then you his intended romance, if that's the case and he can't show humility and decency , love and respect then you already know who he is to you.
su**** Posted November 27, 2025 1 hour ago, mrwindell said: We all gotta be comfortable in our own skin if we’re not that comfortable we gotta work on it I’m kinda in the same situation was married for long time got comfortable and now I’m working out again and getting in good shape to feel better about myself I personally prefer a thick woman and I’m even attracted to some big girls with curves and cute faced but think a lot of guys say whatever it takes to get sex I think that’s why theirs so many fat rachet 2s online acting like a 10 lol Absolutely 💯..... But.... "Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin" can take alot of working out one's own issues.... It's about self perception & is rooted psychologically, sometimes as "Body Dysmorphia".... Which can be extremely disabling to the individual. In my own personal experience, it's about building self confidence.... Something we can all support each other with on here on FET.... Additionally, there's the assumption that because you may be good looking, that the body is perfect too.... In this case, I appreciate that it must be a major life changing event.... From being a dancer in peak physical condition to events beyond our control.... I wish the person the best & hope they gain the support to achieve their potential self acceptance.... It's very hard work on your own.... I've been there myself, JUST KNOW THAT YOU ARE WORTH IT ❤️🎯
Jo**** Posted November 27, 2025 My wife is plus sized, and I love it!!! I have always like females that are not skeleton skinny. All of my friends are the same way. To us the maim thing that is attractive to us is how a person carries themselves. Confident but not cocky. The most attractive trait a person can have, in my opinion, is self love, and being comfortable in their own skin. I hope this helps you.
De**** Posted November 27, 2025 Im sorry you are going through this. I will echo what others said, the sexiest thing is confidence. Take some time to do things to yourself to remind yourself how utterly wonderful you are.
Ca**** Posted November 27, 2025 I love thicker. Some bigger men aren’t compatible with skin and boness
ju**** Posted November 27, 2025 Hun. Want to share a memory I hold on to when I'm feeling fat and not sexy. When I was growing up my neighbour was a woman who was on the v. larger size and sort of barrel shaped with very saggy boobs. She had a skin thing that meant her thin hair was patchy, a wondering eye and a previous stroke that meant she had facial droop. Thing is she had 2 men constantly chasing her and trying to win her affection ...like be no 1 on her eyes. . And I know all their sex lives were healthy,/active because when one of the blokes would go to work she would call out to him.. you keep my 1% safe for me honey... 1% was what the payout was undéR the industrial agreement if a work accident occured and was ... Ummm cut off or made ineffective .. Those men loved and worshipped that woman.. or goddess as they called her... Don't despair.. accept you and you will find the people who you will see goddess you reflected back in their eyes . They are out there waiting for you..
Deleted Member Posted November 27, 2025 Everyone’s weight as they get older goes up and down. Don’t worry about it. It’s confidence that we find sexy. You are not alone. Own that body 😉
Deleted Member Posted November 28, 2025 I have always liked thicker and sturdier women, I do not want to hug someone and feel nothing. The shape of hips and a obvious female figure is hot! You need to stop comparing your old self, and love the new you. Your lack of confidence will turn people off, not your looks. I looked at your pictures, not bad and definitely noticeable and hot!
Wh**** Posted November 28, 2025 4 hours ago, jucysoft said: Hun. Want to share a memory I hold on to when I'm feeling fat and not sexy. When I was growing up my neighbour was a woman who was on the v. larger size and sort of barrel shaped with very saggy boobs. She had a skin thing that meant her thin hair was patchy, a wondering eye and a previous stroke that meant she had facial droop. Thing is she had 2 men constantly chasing her and trying to win her affection ...like be no 1 on her eyes. . And I know all their sex lives were healthy,/active because when one of the blokes would go to work she would call out to him.. you keep my 1% safe for me honey... 1% was what the payout was undéR the industrial agreement if a work accident occured and was ... Ummm cut off or made ineffective .. Those men loved and worshipped that woman.. or goddess as they called her... Don't despair.. accept you and you will find the people who you will see goddess you reflected back in their eyes . They are out there waiting for you.. What an amazing story of how beauty is in the eye of the beholder…
Th**** Posted November 28, 2025 Author Thank you. And I do love myself I love me I'm awesome I know there's more to being sexy than just your body. I have confidence or at least know how to fake it. I guess I just need reassurance. Thanks guys and gals it makes me feel a little better knowing that it's sexy.
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