fr**** Posted November 28, 2025 Don’t worry 😉 you are gorgeous and deserve positivity from yourself mate’ if someone else is narrow minded or too critical then they’re probably just jerks and you don’t need that anyway. You will find someone who is ready willing and able to boost your confidence and your morale if not remember that it’s really their small minded beliefs that you don’t want anyhow. Hope you had a grateful gratitude day today and have an awesome holiday season to!
bl**** Posted November 29, 2025 Changes to your health and body can be tough both mentally and physically, I had testicular cancer years ago and,well, lost one. Through chemotherapy And surgery I developed erectile difficulty. And it is a shame but hey if it wasn’t for the chemo I wouldn’t be alive.. I have another story.. that lead me to drinking. Iam sober now but developed a tbi and have seizures I am on medication. Anyways one day at a time :)
Deleted Member Posted November 29, 2025 I'm currently on a weight loss journey and have lost 74lbs so far, I freak out when people ask to see a full body photo because all I can see is the bad bits. It causes me massive anxiety because in my head I'm still those 74lbs extra and I feel like I can't trust someone liking me for me because I feel that I'm not perfect enough yet iygwim but ultimately there is someone out there everyone and a lot of men do like their women curvy and a bit on the heavy side, especially those who love to grab and hold on to hips etc. Men love soft women, they love squishy women and they also love skinny women, most men just love women in general and are happy to just be allowed to play with you etc you know? I think we over think things a lot and I think maybe it comes down more to our confidence levels and self esteem etc xx
lo**** Posted November 29, 2025 1 hour ago, AutumnalCurves said: I'm currently on a weight loss journey and have lost 74lbs so far, I freak out when people ask to see a full body photo because all I can see is the bad bits. It causes me massive anxiety because in my head I'm still those 74lbs extra and I feel like I can't trust someone liking me for me because I feel that I'm not perfect enough yet iygwim but ultimately there is someone out there everyone and a lot of men do like their women curvy and a bit on the heavy side, especially those who love to grab and hold on to hips etc. Men love soft women, they love squishy women and they also love skinny women, most men just love women in general and are happy to just be allowed to play with you etc you know? I think we over think things a lot and I think maybe it comes down more to our confidence levels and self esteem etc xx It’s not easy and I get it because I lost a lot of weight as well and still buy the same size as I was and bitch when it’s too big. I have to remember I’m going to be ok with the change, it’s a change for a better version of myself and health.
Deleted Member Posted December 2, 2025 Shiiit I love thick woman but if it's to better yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin im the type that would go and workout with my beautiful thick queen and spot her fine big boott self lol
Deleted Member Posted December 5, 2025 November 29, AutumnalCurves said: I'm currently on a weight loss journey and have lost 74lbs so far, I freak out when people ask to see a full body photo because all I can see is the bad bits. It causes me massive anxiety because in my head I'm still those 74lbs extra and I feel like I can't trust someone liking me for me because I feel that I'm not perfect enough yet iygwim but ultimately there is someone out there everyone and a lot of men do like their women curvy and a bit on the heavy side, especially those who love to grab and hold on to hips etc. Men love soft women, they love squishy women and they also love skinny women, most men just love women in general and are happy to just be allowed to play with you etc you know? I think we over think things a lot and I think maybe it comes down more to our confidence levels and self esteem etc xx Autumnalcurves I have lost a lot of weight and have a belly that I hate but honestly most guys don’t care. Find some cute lingeries that you feel good in and rock it 😍
Fr**** Posted December 7, 2025 For some men, a few extra pounds will be sexy. For others, it's just a remark to see if we they can get up in there. Most important thing is, to accept yourself. Does it feel good to be a bit more heavy, leave it like it is. Not happy? Do something about it. As long as you do it for the right reasons.
se**** Posted December 9, 2025 Ultimately no one's opinion about you should mean more than your own, but no one's totally immune to outside pressure at times. If it means anything from a total stranger, I personally think a few extra pounds is a dream come true.
Be**** Posted December 13, 2025 Hi. First of all I want to tell you that I am straight but i think you are beautiful just tge way you are. 2nd thing is My whole life I have been on the "few extra pounds" list and was very self conscious about it. I was always the chubby girl who never has a boyfriend. I would find myself looking at other woman..skinny ones and think how do guys find skin and bones sexy and If I were a guy, I wouldn't want a really skinny woman it's not sexy imo. I met a man who once told me curves and a few extra pounds are naturally attractive to me. Because their brains are wired naturally to be attracted to the woman who has the child bearing hips, with that comes a fat ass, and a woman with the love handles and saggy boobs just means that her body is ready and will accept carrying and birthing ***. That is what men's brains were wired for, to find the woman who's body will give him healthy ***. And lots of them. That is when it sank in that he was right. It changed the way I saw myself in tge mirror and I became more confident with my own body. And when I did, the men found me more attractive and I no longer was the chubby girl with no boyfriend. But after I had my first child. I gained alot of weight and was pushing the obese list. I started having health issues because of my weight and I became depressed. My husband at the time didn't even seem to want me anymore. And he has me convinced that it I left him, i would never find another man because I was "fat". He would even make comments about other woman and how fat they were and he wasn't even a skinny man himself. But when I finally figured out that I actually had health issues that made me gain all that weight and they put me meds to treat my health issues I lost some weight and started feeling more confident and learned that men don't care about the weight. It's more of tge woman's confidence and how they carry and present them selves that attracts them. I have since fluctuated with my weight and as long as I carry myself with confidence and a sense of I am 1 beautiful b***h the men find you attractive. And it goes back to when you feel beautiful your body naturally sets off a pharamone that naturally draws the men to you. It's tge way the human body is wired. And it's all in the senses not eyes of the beholder so to speak. So go out there feeling amazing and beautiful and the men will too.
an**** Posted December 14, 2025 As a woman who personally find women's bodies gorgeous, I love a few extra pounds. I think the soft "Godess" like bodies are exquisite!
Deleted Member Posted December 20, 2025 Does weight count. Brutal answer yes. Are people honest .no. you will see many best friends in a girl -girl wingman relationship are od different sizes. You will also see if both go in a bar ,who stays there alone and who will have a good night in someone's bed. This behavior is far from fair but based in our genes always to eat the better tasting apple and not the unripe. How can you compete with the upper league. Find your space, where men are more focused on your inner values and on your brain. Look for people who see your smartness and not character, they are out there.
ch**** Posted December 21, 2025 Yes 100 percent embrace your extra pounds - they are sexy to many ppl
ov**** Posted December 25, 2025 Honestly as a guy a couple extra pounds is fine. It's mostly up to each person. For example my ex a bigger lady more on her mid section but more muscle than fat on her legs and because of doing gymnastics for many years super flexible. And that was perfect and she was 100 lbs heavier than me. It didn't matter to me I found her extremely sexy. From what I see you're 150-170 that's perfect for most people.
ov**** Posted December 25, 2025 Sorry misswrote even closer to 200 is fine for most people it's closer to male body weight
Gentlemandom47 Posted December 26, 2025 First, I want to say this very clearly: what you’re describing is not shallow, vain, or silly — it’s human. You didn’t just experience changes to your body; you went through a loss of identity, confidence, and a familiar relationship with yourself. That deserves kindness, not guilt. A few things stand out to me. 1. Your body changed suddenly — your self-image didn’t get time to catch up. When your sense of confidence was built around strength, movement, and a body you trusted, surgeries and weight gain don’t just alter appearance — they disrupt how safe and “at home” you feel in yourself. That disconnect often lingers long after healing does. 2. Wanting depth now doesn’t mean you lost your sexuality — it means it evolved. Missing the “sex kitten” version of yourself is understandable, but it doesn’t mean she’s gone. Often after health scares or surgeries, desire becomes more selective, more emotional, more intentional. That isn’t repression — it’s protection while you rebuild trust with your body. 3. Extra pounds can be sexy — but the real issue is whether you believe you’re worthy of desire. Yes, some people say things to get sex. But many people genuinely find softness, curves, and change deeply attractive. The problem isn’t whether others find you sexy — it’s that you don’t yet feel safe being seen. 4. Shame around sex often comes from ***, not morality. After trauma or illness, sex can suddenly feel risky: emotionally, physically, psychologically. Wanting one person, wanting to be chosen fully, wanting reassurance — these are common responses, not failures of confidence. 5. You don’t “get used to” dramatic changes — you integrate them. That takes time. It looks like: standing naked in front of the mirror without judgment allowing desire without immediately questioning it letting someone want you without needing to perform the old version of yourself. And yes — you’re allowed to grieve who you were and welcome who you’re becoming. Finally: you are not broken for wanting sex and wanting safety. You are not weak for feeling grumpy and conflicted. You’re in a transition — and transitions are uncomfortable, confusing, and deeply human. Be patient with yourself. Your sensuality isn’t gone — it’s waiting for you to trust yourself again.
Bc**** Posted January 24 Speaking from the opposite side of things(weighed 400lbs in HS, now 196) figuring out someone's genuine interest or lack there of is kinda simple. If men speak it, then check us... make us back or prove what we say... as far as being into you, extra pounds or not, if im into you you'll knowww. Ill talk with you everyday, id genuinely build you up, send you flowers or arrangements to your work... if someone's into you, they'll make it known. Rejections much better to deal with over cowardly not speaking my feelings and missing out on amazing memorable life experiences... hope this helps btw to me your drop dead gorgeous 😍 skinny, petite chick's are alright but they legitimately hurt... like hurts aftwerwards for days after cause their a** bones penatrate my pelvis!!! Lol
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