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Se****

Se****

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Just a quick, lighthearted one for this morning. Nothing too deep and no arguments or nastiness about peoples personal opinions/preferences please.

What words do you hear used in the community (online or face to face) that instantly make you shudder, turn cold, give you the ick?

Mine is subbie/subby. I really hate it, it feels so patronising to me. It’s something one of my god friends uses and I frequently want to throttle him when he does.

What are yours?

Love,

X

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Just now, Luna16 said:
"Just a sub", like no, thats a whole human

And i mean it with like "oh, she's juat a sub, her opinions dont matter " kinda way

ol****

ol****

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Agree! A true D\S relationship is one of utmost love and devotion. Being called my sub seems like such a cold disconnect. But I also don't like anything degrading. Being called Cum slut or whore, just not my thing.
Ni****

Ni****

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Been a while since I've seen it, but "I am dominate" always makes me cringe.
Ta****

Ta****

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When a man says he is Domme or a woman says they are Dom like just nooooo.
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No****

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Hmmm subby makes me laugh as it’s a term used in the construction industry for subcontractor. Sounds like they are subcontracting in a sub 😆😆
wb****

wb****

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Any degrading names aimed at me. I immediately through up a wall. If it’s during play time we are done. This is one of hard no’s if you can’t respect that no why would I think you’re going to respect the rest. I will request we talk about what and why I have my hard no’s. And check in with sir/daddy see if they think I need a o be reminded of anything or if something has changed.
my****

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Topping from the bottom. “I liked when you did this” - “call me this” etc.
Se****

Se****

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25 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

Topping from the bottom. “I liked when you did this” - “call me this” etc.

A) that is not a shudder word.

B) you know me well enough to know that I’m going to tell you that someone saying they liked something is NOT topping from the bottom, I’d struggle to say that someone telling you what they like to be called is topping from the bottom either.

And btw “topping from the bottom” is one of my shudder phrases - it irks me, the phrase itself, not the actual action which I don’t believe is a real thing, likely why the phrase irritates me so much.

😘😜

Se****

Se****

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The other words I hate are pussy and breasts, lord knows why. But what I’m rapidly realising is that I’m very picky and irritating 😬

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34 minutes ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

A) that is not a shudder word.

B) you know me well enough to know that I’m going to tell you that someone saying they liked something is NOT topping from the bottom, I’d struggle to say that someone telling you what they like to be called is topping from the bottom either.

And btw “topping from the bottom” is one of my shudder phrases - it irks me, the phrase itself, not the actual action which I don’t believe is a real thing, likely why the phrase irritates me so much.

😘😜

Topping from the bottom is certainly a real thing. When I said “I liked when you did this” I was imagining while the scene was going on, and talking about a different time. In order to top from the bottom by directing the scene.

Is****

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“ no limits “ … I shudder on so many levels . I want a human partner , not a doormat . Figuring out likes and dislikes , kinks and turn offs is part of the fascination of finding out about a person for me . And often “no limits” means they just haven’t thought about either what they really need for themselves , or what could go wrong for them either . How can you have a sensible consenting conversation about kinky activities and safeguards , when the starting point for their consent is “ anything “ . “ I don’t know…” is often the much more honest answer .. and if followed by “ … let’s talk about this some more “, can then turn positively attractive .
Se****

Se****

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2 hours ago, mythicalman said:

Topping from the bottom is certainly a real thing. When I said “I liked when you did this” I was imagining while the scene was going on, and talking about a different time. In order to top from the bottom by directing the scene.

Topping from the bottom is ONLY a real thing if the Dom allows it to happen. A submissive can say whatever they like and try to change, control or direct something but if they aren’t able or allowed to then they can’t “top from the bottom”. And the reason I hate it is because I’ve been accused of it more than once and frankly the persons who did the accusing couldn’t have been more wrong - there is a difference between trying to control something and asserting oneself, stating boundaries or explaining why something is/isn’t working. I’d argue that oftentimes it falls down to the perception of the person hearing the words and their ability to know their sub, control a situation and sit with things that make them uncomfortable and control and understand themselves and why certain words or phrases make them feel like someone is trying to take their control.

But that’s simply my opinion 😘😘 

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Demand - randoms pop up and use demand like it’s a spell, their wand in hand. I demand obedience …. I demand respect. Ha ha. How about no.
Meet my protector, brat. I’ve come across a few who are triggered by the word brat; my explanation of those behaviours imminent arrival (and why) - usually results in shutdown and silence. So it’s like a reverse ick word. I’m reluctant to connect, because of the inevitable silent treatment. Let’s have a brat photo challenge and raise awareness ha ha
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