Anyone have tips on getting started as a single guy?

[la****]

I'd say just fill out your profile. Be clear and if you want to engage with someone, check if you are compatible and read their profile.

For bdsm in general: try to meet some people (perhaps at events) or make friends. I have two good friends irl that are into this and they are really helpful to help you understand stuff you might not know

[Co****]

Depending how far you want to get into the lifestyle. I suggest go on FetLife and join a group and get vetted by meeting people in person. It becomes realer and you meet people with like interests. I highly suggest it. Take your time and DONT stand up a meeting to be vetted or they will straight up ignore you. The groups I met,very professional,organized and passionate about what they like and don’t. Don’t be deterred by these apps. Just have to venture for the right source. Fetlife is more in-depth a little none user friendly but it’s legit. Check it out.

[wo****]

Bring hot girls with you

[Ha****]

The best anti-scammer tool is the video chat option. If after talking and their syntax is suspicious, trust your gut.

[ph****]

I'm going to let a man tie my hands behind my back to a chair while he jacks me off into a collection cup

[wb****]

15 hours ago, Spanksy_ said:

After reading all this harsh reality of being a man on a dating app..maybe just quit the app and enjoy your life away from it. It's going to be shit on here

Unfortunately it isn’t just the guys who have a hard time. The lady’s it just as bad probably. I can’t count the number of chats that maybe an hour into chatting their asking for nudity pics. Or just want to met up to play. It’s hard for everyone to find someone on an app who is legitimately wanting something other than a quick fix. The hard truth is there are going to be scammers everywhere. We just need be vigilant unfortunately go into any potential encounters.

[Di****]

Where are you from or located now

[Di****]

I m a LADIE

[Di****]

New aswell

[Di****]

Aswell

[ey****]

if you want to get started in the community find your local munch, turn up there. 

[Sq****]

Well, primarily ensure you're actually ready to dip back in on some personal levels. There's nothing wrong with taking more time to focus on yourself and prioritize yourself while still being actually active in the community. I did that for quite a while and passed on many opportunities that just blatantly wasn't fully what I wanted in a dynamic. It paid off for me with what I have now. Everyone has different ambition and wants, but the fundamental approach can be applied in a healthy manner across the board.

[Na****]

I feel what your saying. After 17 years, last weekend I was a single man, sorry, a slutty sissyboy and had a blast. Even if I was by myself, I was by myself free to do to me what I wanted. Just go for it

[su****]

Watch out for bots and demanding mistresses that offer nothing. Very few really seem to be looking. Stock up on points if you want to message or comment. That seems to be the only likely way to contact. Otherwise post and post pics often. Have a personality and dont drop the one liner icebreakers. Be original, confident and make em smile. Good luck!!