Does anyone like brat taming anymore?

[si****]

8 minutes ago, kingofpeach said:

You liked my photos and tried doing me while I was asleep, and this is how you conduct yourself after a perceived rejection? Dude, chill the fuck out. You're just mad I didn't respond right away and threw a tantrum.

If this is how u talked to him in private then yeah u are being rude not “ bratty “ . We need to stop hiding behind some kinky words to cover our toxic trait , u can talk like that if he was rude or disrespectful, but trying to shame him in comment and try to expose him that he get rejected , thats not bratty thats asking for attention, btw i did like to one of ur photos too , it doesnt mean “ i love u “ it just mean there a photo there that i like how it was taken , liking a photo is not always a request to fuck , men’s mentality changed since long ago and ur need to be too .

[ki****]

11 minutes ago, simo11moon said:

If this is how u talked to him in private then yeah u are being rude not “ bratty “ . We need to stop hiding behind some kinky words to cover our toxic trait , u can talk like that if he was rude or disrespectful, but trying to shame him in comment and try to expose him that he get rejected , thats not bratty thats asking for attention, btw i did like to one of ur photos too , it doesnt mean “ i love u “ it just mean there a photo there that i like how it was taken , liking a photo is not always a request to fuck , men’s mentality changed since long ago and ur need to be too .

Nah dude, when he comes to this post just tell everyone I'm not a real man, saying im accosting innocent men, that I'm on a power trip, when I haven't done or said anything to him personally, is disrespectful and shows that he isn't interested in the actual topic, but to just say inflammatory things to upset me. I don't say anything like that to anyone, in public or in private, and it's disheartening that I'm being publicly shamed when no one has seen the Dm's I'm sending. If you scroll up and actually read the thread, you'd see I apologized about not understanding the consent behind brat play, and the last thing I want to do is cross someone's boundaries.

I'm not hurling insults at random men, I'm not degrading them, but if they cross MY boundaries and start hurling insults at me because I didn't answer the messages? I'm not going to lie there and take it. Apologies for that.

[si****]

I will give u a small education about being brat my dear just for the good for u and ur future relationships, acting brat out of the sexual context and dynamic is not brat is being “ asshole - rude - u name it “ we are all having some weird and pervert stuff in sex that we like to do , but we dont just expose that straight away . We talk normal we go out and grab a coffe to get to know eachother and we still act NORMAL , i am dom that doesn’t mean since first hi i will slap ur face and shock your neck and say “ hi how r u “ same for u , leave ur brat side untill sexual interaction or teasing otherwise u are just pushing man away and want him to “ hunt u and keep following u “ cuz u seeking attention. And believe a dom man will not do so cuz thats a weak shit . Thats it , good luck everybody.

[si****]

8 minutes ago, kingofpeach said:

Nah dude, when he comes to this post just tell everyone I'm not a real man, saying im accosting innocent men, that I'm on a power trip, when I haven't done or said anything to him personally, is disrespectful and shows that he isn't interested in the actual topic, but to just say inflammatory things to upset me. I don't say anything like that to anyone, in public or in private, and it's disheartening that I'm being publicly shamed when no one has seen the Dm's I'm sending. If you scroll up and actually read the thread, you'd see I apologized about not understanding the consent behind brat play, and the last thing I want to do is cross someone's boundaries.

I'm not hurling insults at random men, I'm not degrading them, but if they cross MY boundaries and start hurling insults at me because I didn't answer the messages? I'm not going to lie there and take it. Apologies for that.

I hear u , thats why in my first comment i said “ it depends of the conversation context “ i cant judge u or him cuz i wasnt in that conversation, but i just generalized the situation , i also mde it clear in my last long comment about how brat suppose to be , read it and u will understand, perhaps u will even know later how to expose ur feminine “ or masculine “ energy depending on how u define urself . And i am not judging him aswell , our kink are in the sexual dynamics where things is fun and exotic , but at the first time conversation i hope that everyone learn that we can be normal at talk normal until we break the ice , stay safe and welcome to the community, step by step u will sharpen ur kinks and u will learn how to deal with men .

[Bi****]

13 hours ago, kingofpeach said:

Nah dude, when he comes to this post just tell everyone I'm not a real man, saying im accosting innocent men, that I'm on a power trip, when I haven't done or said anything to him personally, is disrespectful and shows that he isn't interested in the actual topic, but to just say inflammatory things to upset me. I don't say anything like that to anyone, in public or in private, and it's disheartening that I'm being publicly shamed when no one has seen the Dm's I'm sending. If you scroll up and actually read the thread, you'd see I apologized about not understanding the consent behind brat play, and the last thing I want to do is cross someone's boundaries.

I'm not hurling insults at random men, I'm not degrading them, but if they cross MY boundaries and start hurling insults at me because I didn't answer the messages? I'm not going to lie there and take it. Apologies for that.

It's crazy that you needed to defend yourself like that, like you said you apologized like dang. Did they even read the post? Or did they just wanna fight with you????

[Bi****]

13 hours ago, simo11moon said:

I hear u , thats why in my first comment i said “ it depends of the conversation context “ i cant judge u or him cuz i wasnt in that conversation, but i just generalized the situation , i also mde it clear in my last long comment about how brat suppose to be , read it and u will understand, perhaps u will even know later how to expose ur feminine “ or masculine “ energy depending on how u define urself . And i am not judging him aswell , our kink are in the sexual dynamics where things is fun and exotic , but at the first time conversation i hope that everyone learn that we can be normal at talk normal until we break the ice , stay safe and welcome to the community, step by step u will sharpen ur kinks and u will learn how to deal with men .

Nah, I'm not one to pick sides but that's just wrong, if you feel so strongly that being bratty is being rude. You need help lol. Not everything is black and white, there's double entendres or however you spell it everywhere. You need to think less, SHE'S GOT NICE BOOBS SHE'S GONNA HATE ME, and more, wow a petty girl said hi. Not everyone is out to get you. If you turn away everyone because you think they're trying to hurt you how are you gonna have fun in life

[si****]

5 hours ago, BigDickBlake69 said:

Nah, I'm not one to pick sides but that's just wrong, if you feel so strongly that being bratty is being rude. You need help lol. Not everything is black and white, there's double entendres or however you spell it everywhere. You need to think less, SHE'S GOT NICE BOOBS SHE'S GONNA HATE ME, and more, wow a petty girl said hi. Not everyone is out to get you. If you turn away everyone because you think they're trying to hurt you how are you gonna have fun in life

I should read twice that i said “ it needs to be in dynamic sexual context “ and she understood my point , u just came late to the party , but if u think the kink needs to be in every hour in daily life , then i see u are submissive man as in ur bio , so be a submissive good boy and dont argue with me , i like when people are obedient. That will be my last comment cuz we closed the door of this party.

[Bi****]

10 hours ago, simo11moon said:

I should read twice that i said “ it needs to be in dynamic sexual context “ and she understood my point , u just came late to the party , but if u think the kink needs to be in every hour in daily life , then i see u are submissive man as in ur bio , so be a submissive good boy and dont argue with me , i like when people are obedient. That will be my last comment cuz we closed the door of this party.

What?? Fine, don't respond then. I hope you don't after reading that. Being a brat is not about being kinky. It's a playful attitude showing you can be comfortable with someone and if you think that being a brat means they want in your pants, you need to reevaluate how you speak to someone. Dont try and Dom me, I'm the man. I'm not into those who don't know they're place.

[Ka****]

10 hours ago, simo11moon said:

I should read twice that i said “ it needs to be in dynamic sexual context “ and she understood my point , u just came late to the party , but if u think the kink needs to be in every hour in daily life , then i see u are submissive man as in ur bio , so be a submissive good boy and dont argue with me , i like when people are obedient. That will be my last comment cuz we closed the door of this party.

You're not a dom, your a dick with an oversized ego! Any dom knows you dont en*** your title into someone else, any decent human knows you don't en*** self gifted authority onto someone else and any person genuinely in the scene knows you don't assume any kinda dynamic or power without consent and negotiation. Haven't you read the comments in thus post criticising OP enforcing being a brat in someone without consent and here you are enforcing your (false) domly status on someone because they have 'submissive' on their profile? What is wrong with you? He doesnt have a place because he hasn't AGREED to be under you so hes your equal. Even if he had submitted to you he IS STILL YOUR EQUAL. This person is a human and you self titling as a dom doesnt give you any right to disrespect him.

[Tr****]

I have this exact problem

[Gentlemandom47]

What you’re running into isn’t really about brat taming as a kink so much as mismatched expectations and unspoken contracts.

 

Brattiness only works when it’s recognised by both people as play, not personality. To someone who doesn’t enjoy brat dynamics, teasing can feel like disrespect, challenge, or emotional labour they didn’t sign up for. They’re not failing at dominance — they’re just playing a different game.

 

A few thoughts that may help:

• Not all Doms enjoy brat taming, and that’s okay. It requires patience, humour, emotional regulation, and a genuine enjoyment of push-and-pull. Without that, it quickly becomes irritation rather than foreplay.

• Context matters more than emotes. Emojis can soften tone, but they don’t replace clarity. A simple early line like “I flirt by being bratty — playful disrespect, not real hostility” sets the frame without killing the mood.

• Bratting is an invitation, not a test. The right Dom will lean into it. The wrong one will feel poked rather than intrigued. That’s useful information, not a failure on your part.

• It’s also worth remembering that many men online call themselves dominant but haven’t done the internal work to separate ego from control. Brattiness exposes that very quickly, which is why it can escalate fast.

 

So no — you’re not wrong for enjoying that style of flirting. You just need someone who enjoys the same rhythm and understands that brat taming is collaborative, not combative.

 

When it works, it’s electric. When it doesn’t, it’s friction. Filtering early is kinder to everyone involved.

[wo****]

December 20, Kaserai said:

I disagree. She is confused as to why self proclaimed doms cant handle her, my post relates directly to my experience over the last 2 years on this site. Brats arent always a role as Ive stated in another post here, especially when stinks of entitlement and ego cone into it. She also puts in here she doesnt do it right away, so while her approach may be the issue in some cases does not remove my point nor give you the right to dismiss it. Especially as you are not a submissive female on this site navigating this issue. You might find it irrelevant that a lot of dom/mes here assign themselves roles and titles they have no understanding of nor have researched but an out of line brat who doesnt quite understand when they should engage with a dynamic can also be checked respectfully and quickly with a simple 'Ah, I wonder if this is your bratty nature ***king out here but let me get to know the person in charge of the brat before we play those games'. Dom/mes who cannot read that this person is probably new and reacting to labels the dom has assigned themselves and teach them a little etiquette would probably have moped perhaps shoulf pay forward the grace they had when they first started swimming in this pool.

I think this thread is an excellent example of people contributing a variety of different perspectives without much personal conflict when people might or do disagree with each other.
Being able to express disagreement in a respectful manner is a skill, a sign of maturity and good character. I think your posting style is a very good example of how to do that.
I also think your comments are balanced and the points you make in your posts contribute positively towards the thread and are good faith. I think you are thoughtful and open minded in the way you look at things.
Because of that, as well as my desire to add more to the thread, I want to add some perspective by flipping the sexes. My intent is to add perspective you and readers may not have considered. It may provoke feelings but no insult is intended to you or anyone else.
I also think op is seeking advice in good faith and set a nice tone that helped facilitate the quality I see in the thread.
@Kaserai says “She is confused as to why self proclaimed doms can’t handle her”. OK, fair enough. We don’t have the full context of what lead up to the interaction(s) or a birds eye view of it taking place though.
What expectations are you putting on the Dom here? What assumptions are you making about the reasonableness of her behavior, if any? I often hear from women that men are socially awkward, or worse, when approaching women. That they sometimes take liberties that the women didn’t want or agree to. No argument from me there.
Some men might behave poorly in the beginning stage of their interaction with a self proclaimed cumslut and be confused as to why she is put off (akin to not handling him).
But despite being a self proclaimed cumslut, is your view emphatic towards the man in the situation as it towards the op? Are you as accepting of what other men say about approaching cumsluts since you aren’t a male cumslut approacher with the same energy you have as a female submissive like the op? Do you think that it is irrelevant if a lot of cumsluts give themselves that title without having understanding of an out of line man who doesn’t quite understand when to engage? that the woman should be advised to respond with ‘Ah, I wonder if this is your nature peaking out but let me get to know him”? They are somehow wrong unless they view “he’s probably new and reacting to labels” and assume the responsibility of teaching him etiquette”.? Cumsluts are wrong to say he’s crude and disrespectful , he’s an asshole? Wrong to have boundaries and expectations of the guy and be understanding of behavior if they view it as behaving like an asshole?

Food for thought. People can not eat, nibble, snack, eat a full meal, start a food fight with me, be disgusted by the food, or even accuse me of poisoning the food because I am hateful and trying to make them sick. I am pro choice when it comes to food. I will say that if you are not used to my food it might taste really bad to you. It’s an acquired taste for sure.

[Tr****]

I also don't think alot of people understand what the Dynamics of what a sub/dom relationship really is or how it can look if done right...I know I didn't understand it like I do now ...there is way more to it then sex, maybe that's something you only understand once you start learning and experiencing it first hand. And yes everyone is different I ran into a guy that found brattiness very abrasive and disrespectful he did not care for my energy at all and want it came down to more than anything is there wasn't enough communication happening we expected each other to already know....also the more I learn the more intrigued I become it's way more than being controlling or demanding or getting typed up and paddled it has so much more to do with the mental aspect then it ever will physical and I did not know that when I first began exploring. You just gotta take your time to find your hearts desire and unfortunately you gotta weed through em so to speak

[Tr****]

It's a process I recommend taking your time with there's a lot to be learned

[wo****]

Sunday at 11:38 PM, Kaserai said:

You're not a dom, your a dick with an oversized ego! Any dom knows you dont en*** your title into someone else, any decent human knows you don't en*** self gifted authority onto someone else and any person genuinely in the scene knows you don't assume any kinda dynamic or power without consent and negotiation. Haven't you read the comments in thus post criticising OP enforcing being a brat in someone without consent and here you are enforcing your (false) domly status on someone because they have 'submissive' on their profile? What is wrong with you? He doesnt have a place because he hasn't AGREED to be under you so hes your equal. Even if he had submitted to you he IS STILL YOUR EQUAL. This person is a human and you self titling as a dom doesnt give you any right to disrespect him.

The way I see it is that they are arguing. I don’t know where it started but Blake insulted him in a post prior to that. I may be misunderstanding but it looks like you are talking about Simon interacting with Blake.
My read on your criticizing Simon is that you have taken his referring to Blake as submissive good Boy and telling him to not argue & he likes obedience is that you are talking it literally. Then you kinda sorta read him the riot act about how he has run afoul of accepted and widely understood standards regarding consent, etc. if I am wrong please correct me.
My take is completely different. It’s two men arguing. I’ve seen it a million times and have participated in them many times myself. I see Simon saying what he did in an effort to belittle and insult blake, and that the particular words around obeying a submissive are incidental. That they just used as a creative way to insult him.
Like a man saying to another man, regardless of either one’s sexual orientation, “suck my dick, bitch” . It’s like saying “fuck you” using different words that have a little more flair.
I could write an academic paper about the sexual dynamics, power, implications around sexual orientation and societal impact, etc but it’s really just a convenient go to insult. In the midst of an argument with heated emotion make that even clearer.
People can choose to take it however they want, but it’s not delivered as a slightly more creative fuck you. I think men in general understand it that way, particularly working class men. An upper class man who has never heard that kind of language might be more taken aback and a bit shocked by it.
If I’m correct, and I think I am, Simon knows this because he said it. He won’t be phased by your commentary because A. he already understands the points you make, and
B. they aren’t pertinent to his insults
I THINK that Blake understands this too despite his reply that he isn’t Simon’s sub or whatever particulars he used.
My reasons for thinking this include
A. He is a man and has likely been around this before
B. His name is BigDickBlake and not Meeks
C. some of the language he used. His insults are more sophisticated but show that he understands how to insult a man in a way that is unflattering. His approach is very different. He states what can be considered feminist friendly negative generalizations of a stereotypical man’s sexual thought processes and attributes then to Simon without a rational basis for doing so.
I could be wrong as to Blake’s interpretation of Simon’s insults , but I’m pretty certain my take on Simon’s insults are generally correct.
If a man throws a crass insult at another man, and that man responds by pointing out inaccuracies of grammar and punctuation in the insult… it makes him look worse than if he said nothing. Unless there is an audience of grammar and punctuation nerds there, that is.
If he uses his knowledge to creatively insult the guy that makes the audience burst out in laughter, especially if they were ‘on the first guys side’ he wins . He got a standing ovation for it too

[Tr****]

I have no clue what you're talking about obviously maybe I didn't read it all ...oops my bad

[wo****]

56 minutes ago, redfield165492 said:

I have no clue what you're talking about obviously maybe I didn't read it all ...oops my bad

I tend to ramble, am sloppy with and use poor punctuation, and don’t communicate ideas in a concise and organized manner well, so I don’t think you are alone in not following and understanding me lol
I did spend time going back and forth trying to get the full context of 3 separate commenters as well as looking at other comments before I started writing my last post. I think that the person whose post I replied to and the two posters I referred to by name will have a pretty good idea of what am saying. I used only part of those two people’s names though so it adds to readers lack of clarity, my fault also.
I usually keep in mind that I am speaking to all potential readers when I post. I didn’t do that here, my fault also. A contributing factor was that I was referring to many posts between several different people when making the post which took extra attention. My mind isn’t sharp like it used to be, for reasons I won’t go into, so I was mostly just thinking of the person I replied to as my audience here .
I apologize to readers for not being as clear as I should have, moreso than usual, due to shortcomings I have. Thanks for drawing my attention to the matter.