🖤 Femdom as a Mindset: Curiosity, Respect, and First Steps

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Femdom is often presented online in very loud, exaggerated ways. Strong visuals, extreme roles, rigid scripts. While those representations can be exciting, I’ve come to realize they only show a very small part of what female dominance can actually be.

What interests me most about femdom isn’t the shock factor or the performance, but the mindset behind it.

The idea of a woman leading, setting the tone, choosing the rhythm.

The psychology of control, trust, awareness, and intention.

The quiet confidence rather than the caricature.

I want to be honest: I’m curious about femdom and I’d like to experience it at some point, but I don’t have direct experience yet. That’s not something I see as a weakness… if anything, it makes me more aware of how important it is to listen before acting.

I think many people rush into roles without understanding what really sustains them. Power exchange, especially in femdom dynamics, seems to be less about copying fantasies and more about communication, presence, and mutual respect.

So this article is less a statement and more an open reflection.

For women who identify with dominance, or who have explored it in their own way:

• What do you think truly matters when someone approaches femdom for the first time?

• What do beginners often misunderstand?

• And what, in your experience, makes an interaction feel grounded rather than performative?

I’m interested in learning, not rushing.

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1) It mostly matters that he's a sub and not only a bottom. That's the major complaint dommes have on this site.
2) That dommes do not get their pleasure from fulfilling specific fantasies the sub (actually bottom) might have.
3) That it's me the one deciding what to do and especially WHEN to do it (within the boundaries of the sub). Being chased around, constantly being asked when we're going to play doesn't inspire dominance in me (for obvious reasons).
It's actually no different than vanilla. A man who doesn't constantly talk about sex is a man I might want to sleep with.