Is the number of my age constantly hanging above my head? (22M)

[Deleted Member]

Age feels like a shortcut people use to decide what I know, what I want, and what I am capable of. Especially in kink where power, trust, and control are supposed to be earned not assumed. I am not claiming mastery, for the things I don’t know I’d love to learn without being dismissed

So I am curious, at what point does age stop being a ceiling and start being irrelevant? Should we judge a dynamic by the number on a profile or by the behavior shown over time?

[sk****]

Honestly in my opinion behavior but i also understand the keeping certain ages at a distance

[Spazhalfpint38]

I have to say behavior, I think age shouldnt be a factor. But thats my opinion.

[Co****]

Any excuse will suit a tyrant

[it****]

Deciding for others, what they need or supposed to want is very wrong, but if someone decides based on your age if they’re interested or not well that’s different and they’re entitled

[sa****]

It won’t matter.

Some people like to just pretend they are the end all guru and you don’t have a clue.

Just ignore those. Experience is a thing and take time but who are we to say what that experience has been like

[Ma****]

On this platform age plays a lot of the early decision making because of the parameters a person puts in its profiles to what they are looking for. It works both ways. I see lots of submissives who say they want a mature daddy dom but because of age parameters they put in I am unable to connect with them.

Just keep doing you! You will find what you seek as long as you stay true to you and are patient

[ey****]

It is a case of knowing in yourself it will take time for you to grow knowledge and experience - and that yep, some people will see you as too young - and it'll not be for a few years when you can look back and decide if you were or not

one of the main things is that you're always in control of your own development. 

[Sa****]

Thank you. I just wanted a man's perspective. I'm hurt, but I'm moving on.

[Deleted Member]

21 minutes ago, MatureHungDom said:

On this platform age plays a lot of the early decision making because of the parameters a person puts in its profiles to what they are looking for. It works both ways. I see lots of submissives who say they want a mature daddy dom but because of age parameters they put in I am unable to connect with them.

Just keep doing you! You will find what you seek as long as you stay true to you and are patient

Appreciate this 🙏

[Deleted Member]

21 minutes ago, MatureHungDom said:

On this platform age plays a lot of the early decision making because of the parameters a person puts in its profiles to what they are looking for. It works both ways. I see lots of submissives who say they want a mature daddy dom but because of age parameters they put in I am unable to connect with them.

Just keep doing you! You will find what you seek as long as you stay true to you and are patient

Appreciate this 🙏

[fe****]

Age can be a deal breaker for some and others it doesn't make a difference. It's a preference as long as all parties are within legal parameters to consent. For me personally I prefer older men. The real young men are off putting for me as I have *** in the same age group.

[Deleted Member]

21 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

It is a case of knowing in yourself it will take time for you to grow knowledge and experience - and that yep, some people will see you as too young - and it'll not be for a few years when you can look back and decide if you were or not

one of the main things is that you're always in control of your own development. 

Thank you

[no****]

You’re too young and I’m too old 😂

[Deleted Member]

3 minutes ago, feral_pet said:

Age can be a deal breaker for some and others it doesn't make a difference. It's a preference as long as all parties are within legal parameters to consent. For me personally I prefer older men. The real young men are off putting for me as I have *** in the same age group.

Understandable and that reason is always something I could understand if I put myself in their shoes

[Ch****]

People judge us. People will judge you, on SO many factors, and not just your age. A mature perspective is to not actually assume it's your age...it could be ANYTHING. Your location, your steering wheel, your socks...everyone will have an opinion. All you can do is put your best self forward and hope to get lucky...but also take rejection with grace. But we'd also say this to everyone...there is a science to profile pics, and there is also a psychology to the "vibe" you put forth with your profile words. If you dont have the experience to know if yours puts out the wrong message, ask. Some people would be happy to offer loving feedback. But you're right...age should be irrelevant. It's not.

[Fu****]

Well, I’m 47 now I’ve been in the lifestyle for roughly 30 years with a few years in between that, I took a break, but age will always be something you deal with. You’ll either be too old or too young. Some people just have ideas in their head of what they think they want as far as age goes, and you normally won’t stop that mindset no matter if you’re 47 like me with an athletic body that takes care of himself that can honestly keep up with most 18 or 20-year-olds probably honestly out perform most mostly due to age lol only because we have a lot of control but it’s mind blowing but I will tell you that between the ages of 35 and 45. It seems to be the best at least for my experience. But don’t let it get to you because there are lots of hot milfs out there looking for a strapping young stud!! So go gettum cowboy!

[Mandy-3385]

I know I have used age as a reason to not engage with someone, it’s more of a personal preference, just like everything else on here. I’ve just always been more attracted to guys/men who are my age or older, usually older. I know it can be frustrating, but you never know someone’s reasoning behind it. For example, you’re the same age as my “kid” brother so that’s just how I see someone your age. Has nothing to do with how you look or your maturity or experience, just my preference and view. Just hang in there…

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, ChromeStarz said:

People judge us. People will judge you, on SO many factors, and not just your age. A mature perspective is to not actually assume it's your age...it could be ANYTHING. Your location, your steering wheel, your socks...everyone will have an opinion. All you can do is put your best self forward and hope to get lucky...but also take rejection with grace. But we'd also say this to everyone...there is a science to profile pics, and there is also a psychology to the "vibe" you put forth with your profile words. If you dont have the experience to know if yours puts out the wrong message, ask. Some people would be happy to offer loving feedback. But you're right...age should be irrelevant. It's not.

Love your response thank you.

[Deleted Member]

25 minutes ago, Funinjf said:

Well, I’m 47 now I’ve been in the lifestyle for roughly 30 years with a few years in between that, I took a break, but age will always be something you deal with. You’ll either be too old or too young. Some people just have ideas in their head of what they think they want as far as age goes, and you normally won’t stop that mindset no matter if you’re 47 like me with an athletic body that takes care of himself that can honestly keep up with most 18 or 20-year-olds probably honestly out perform most mostly due to age lol only because we have a lot of control but it’s mind blowing but I will tell you that between the ages of 35 and 45. It seems to be the best at least for my experience. But don’t let it get to you because there are lots of hot milfs out there looking for a strapping young stud!! So go gettum cowboy!

Hell yeah appreciate ya brother

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, ChromeStarz said:

People judge us. People will judge you, on SO many factors, and not just your age. A mature perspective is to not actually assume it's your age...it could be ANYTHING. Your location, your steering wheel, your socks...everyone will have an opinion. All you can do is put your best self forward and hope to get lucky...but also take rejection with grace. But we'd also say this to everyone...there is a science to profile pics, and there is also a psychology to the "vibe" you put forth with your profile words. If you dont have the experience to know if yours puts out the wrong message, ask. Some people would be happy to offer loving feedback. But you're right...age should be irrelevant. It's not.

What vibe do I give? No wrong answers and no broken egos 😂

[Deleted Member]

5 minutes ago, Mandy-3385 said:

I know I have used age as a reason to not engage with someone, it’s more of a personal preference, just like everything else on here. I’ve just always been more attracted to guys/men who are my age or older, usually older. I know it can be frustrating, but you never know someone’s reasoning behind it. For example, you’re the same age as my “kid” brother so that’s just how I see someone your age. Has nothing to do with how you look or your maturity or experience, just my preference and view. Just hang in there…

🙏🙏

[Sa****]

I was asking about a female, being with an older submissive. Nothing against you.

[we****]

As a 33 yr old woman, only thing I care as far as age, is difference between my partner and myself. I prefer my partners to be mature emotionally. That doesn't happen with age. I have met some 18 yr olds who are as mature as 30 yr olds. And I've met 60 yr olds who are as immature as 16 yr olds.
Unfortunately, most will use age as a gauge to determine everything.

[Ch****]

2 hours ago, AMOSem244224 said:

 

What vibe do I give? No wrong answers and no broken egos 😂

Be that as it may, we won't answer the vibe question here. But our own consensus for hopefully constructive feedback is to crop the jetski pic to make it closer up. Then make that your profile pic.  Delete your belt buckle and steering wheel pics, maybe even the close up selfie. Ask anyone to just take a picture of you. Post that. We'll also say that your words dont give the impression that you have experience with anything, because you dont detail anything. What have you done? What are you into? Dom with a side of sub equals "uh, this guy will consider f.....g anyone" to some. (There was a whole other forum topic about doms that will sub and whether they're switches, etc...good read). But be more explicit, if you care to take our advice.