K9**** Posted December 31, 2025 Well honestly, im nervous af about this. This is the first time that im saying fuck it and doing something out of pocket for myself, involving another man with my partner. I'm still not entirely sure how I feel about it. Context, my birthday is this weekend. Im having my 2 friends (1f1m) and my partner come over for some group activities. I don't how I will feel about seeing my partner with another guy, and at the moment, this is my only worry. Since this is the first time of this happening, and given, it is something I'm attempting for my birthday, I do feel like I'll get final say on a lot of things. I know about setting ground rules for everyone to follow, and i am going to talk to my guy friend about how im feeling about going into this so i don't ruin the mood if i cant handle sharing my partner with him. But, would anyone have any tips, or ground rules that would be helpful for me?
wa**** Posted January 1 Think of what you’re both comfortable with and uncomfortable with the other girl does with her partner is all I have to share
Bu**** Posted January 1 Well first of all have fun ... then, to enjoy the evening simply forget for the moment about your relationship or my favourite, make them gloss with the 4th person... and don't forget in love and war evening is going as long as you win... Wish you luck 😉🤞
cr**** Posted January 1 My past experiences she and I agreed anything goes. Held nothing back. Its been some of the best experiences in my life. I'm straight but she is bi. We love watching each other giving and receiving. Just relax and enjoy.
T_**** Posted January 1 Best advice is try not to worry so much about everyone else, and be a little selfish. Enjoy yourself and let loose. You'll have a blast
Do**** Posted January 1 Im very possessive. I dont mind seeing a female partner with another female becsuse i dont feel like a woman woild be taking away from my role as a male partner. She wanted to do sometjing with another guy and I coildnt never do it. For me it would be too upsetting. Don't feel pressured to do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with
ha**** Posted January 1 Have a private chat with the guy and go over the rules if you want play to stop between her and him or you and his partner. A code word or phrase so things don’t get awkward during play. Being proactive about it and having a clear plan of how you want the session to go is key
ti**** Posted January 1 I know when my hubby and I started swinging he was unsure as well. We found just starting out that he was more comfortable with all 4 of us on the same bed. That way he knew I was safe and he could see that the other guy was just as protective of his wife.
ey**** Posted January 1 talk to your partner about your concerns. See if you can work out together what you would and wouldn't be happy with the other doing and also seeing if there's signals you can use which either go "don't do that" or "I know I said don't - but since we've started go for it" see if your partner also has any wants or concerns.
jo**** Posted January 1 Yea if u really love the woman u are with don’t do this and if this her idea then leave bro only a matter of time before u get cheated on if haven’t already. U should alone be enough for her if she wanted all this other guys or girls stuff she had plenty of time to do that before she met u. Have self dignity. Stand for something or knell for everything
K9**** Posted January 1 Author 26 minutes ago, johnnybravo128 said: Yea if u really love the woman u are with don’t do this and if this her idea then leave bro only a matter of time before u get cheated on if haven’t already. U should alone be enough for her if she wanted all this other guys or girls stuff she had plenty of time to do that before she met u. Have self dignity. Stand for something or knell for everything She's been poly before. Im just new to the scene. Being a very shy/timid guy, its just hard to open up to new things at first. But, i am trying to explore new things so we are trying it out
Sl**** Posted January 1 Here’s my context. I suddenly had to have my prostate removed because of aggressive cancer that threatened metastasis. I’m 3 years past the procedure which resulted in losing my ability to get hard. I sorely miss intercourse but have my life. Life whose tomorrows are never guaranteed. My partner craves cock and uses oral and intercourse as a stress release, detaching her emotions in the process. On Feeld I read a member’s profile who learned to let go of jealousy by putting their partner’s desires first. They questioned how could they see themselves as truly loving, if they put boundaries on someone’s joy. My partner is loyal to me. I encourage her to be as primal as she wants, with my role being a partner who thrives on adding to her happiness, not limiting it. I’ve accompanied her to her HS friend, a GGG FWB for almost 3yrs. She learned to trust my heart after being betrayed by her ex who physically and mentally ***ed her. I’ve joined her FWB to get her off as much as possible and give her aftercare to strengthen our bond. Who am I to limit her bliss when she’s old enough to be treated with trust honor love and empathy? I’m willing to continue knowing that some day she will choose me for everything, especially after how I wore her out orally and with toys. Rejecting my jealousy by seeing her happy and grateful has been absolutely liberating. Possessiveness is a negative trait that I can no longer stomach in a partnership, and I’d feel that way today if I still had a high functioning erection. This is just my own approach but I love the new me even more now. All my best and happy birthday!
Ra**** Posted January 1 @Slave2WhiteWomen I'm sorry to read about your cancer and hope it all continues to go well for you. I just wanted to say that your comments on possessiveness, jealousy, etc. were VERY mature and your thoughts on her joy/bliss were VERY sweet. Lucky lady. Everyone should have your outlook on things! Best of luck... ~RaceinSC
Hi**** Posted Friday at 02:05 PM Start with some parallel play, then slowly add sharing to see what you're comfortable with. Let everyone know that's the plan...
Se**** Posted Saturday at 06:19 AM Focus on communication and aftercare. How you all talk afterward matters just as much as what happens during.
K9**** Posted Saturday at 01:06 PM Author Just wanna say, got my partner and my female friend over. We all had a great night together. Woke up and fucked my friend, she loved it. My partner didn't wake up, and if she did, she would've loved to watch it happen. Now, to see how the day goes before our 4th shows up 😈😈
K9**** Posted Sunday at 07:47 PM Author Had a great time this weekend. We mostly ended up doing parallel play, but at one point, i did send my partner over to join the other two (we were all drinking, and tbh, I ended up dealing with whiskey dick for a while). Didn't sit and watch all that happen, but I let them have fun while I tried to sober up slightly and get back into it. I pulled out toys for the girls to use, they both very much enjoyed that. The whole thing was about 3 hours, and we all had a bunch of fun with it. Not exactly sure on how I'm feeling about sharing my partner still, I think it's going to end up coming down to the situation that happens, but I did have a great night with it all. Thank you to anyone who commented and gave me tips, or shared a story that fits with the situation 💕💕
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