Not just Talk

[bl****]

Do people really meet up on this or just talk. I ain't gonna explain in detail my kinky ways. But I love women.

[am****]

Idk ive never met anybody on this site

[Wo****]

Yes

[Bo****]

Yes,thanks🔏

[Deleted Member]

Im sure they do. But people are a lot more cautious in the middle of a pandemic with lockdowns, club closures and restrictions everywhere too.

[LazyPirate]

I’ve met 2 people through this site in person, with plans to meet up with a third when it’s safe to do so again

[Si****]

Yes, I’ve met with a few. Some I’ve also run into at evens before the lockdowns. The real question that I see lingering (and based on my personal experiences) there are a lot of people who just want to meet up and skip the talking and getting to know each other bit. Its only from the chatting part that you can make an informed decision if meeting irl is likely to be enjoyable.

[qu****]

This is the most genuine site I've found, sure you get the occasional scammer but that's just par for the course with dating sites/community sites, I find it worrying that even in the current climate in UK you still get those wanting an immediate hookup

[Deleted Member]

Yep Defo, I've met a few, some developed Into something and some didn't but with patience and respect anything is achievable 😊

[Deleted Member]

Yes I had found 4 subs on this site. It all depends about your profile, what you project about yourself and the way you communicate with people on here.

[Si****]

14 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

Yes I had found 4 subs on this site. It all depends about your profile, what you project about yourself and the way you communicate with people on here.

I agree. the OP only has "passinate" and "? n sex" on his profile. No real effort has been put into writing anything thats going to get him much attention.

[Si****]

9 hours ago, bloomer303 said:

Do people really meet up on this or just talk. I ain't gonna explain in detail my kinky ways. But I love women.

I feel that some constructive advice is in order. This is just my opinion but I’m confident it will be shared by others.

It’s not just what you say on your profile that matters. it’s often what you don’t say that has the biggest impact on how others view you. People form opinions very quickly based on what they see. Whether this is right or not doesn’t matter.

If someone was thinking of communicating with you, they would first ask themselves "is it worth my effort?"

They may first visit your profile to find out if there is anything about you that they like and can relate with. Are your likes and dislikes in line with theirs? By not having anything on your profile, they have nothing to work with.

If you can’t be bothered to put some level of effort into writing something about yourself (the thing most people know the most about is themselves) then how can they conclude that you will put any effort into them? Would you bother to get to know them? will you bother to put their safety first? would you invest in the relationship? and the list goes on.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume you’ve had no or little responses from your messages to others. From this you concluded that people are not real. Instead, perhaps you need to show yourself as someone who is real to them, with something to say and offer.

I do hope this gives you something to think about and that you see it as the friendly advice it is meant as.

 

[Sammyb-9585]

The site is what you make of it yourself , there are normally plenty opportunities to meet socially or indeed get more involved with people.

If you engage in a genuine way and treat people with respect as well as being honest about your needs you will find many many opportunities.

However many people tend to think it will just fall into your lap . My advice for what is is worth is get involved on the forum , try the online munches , venture into the lobby or even try getting involved in the treasure hunts

[Deleted Member]

I would like to add that because it’s a lockdown in most area, there is an influx of newbies that are just curious about the site after they read or saw advert on social media. They might only be interested in the educational side of it and not interact or be into a Ds relationship. 

[Si****]

12 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

I would like to add that because it’s a lockdown in most area, there is an influx of newbies that are just curious about the site after they read or saw advert on social media. They might only be interested in the educational side of it and not interact or be into a Ds relationship. 

and this can be reflected in what is written on ones profile.

[Mz****]

Some do, some don't, it depends why they're here and what they're looking for..personally speaking, (pre lockdown) I've met 11 from here, 9 of which were in a social or group capacity, 2 for play.

@SirGreenhas given you some excellent advice, whatever it is you're looking for here, most will be put off by an empty profile, my philosophy..you prefer not to say, I prefer not to play. 

Edited January 20, 2021 by MzJax
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[De****]

I have met a few people from here in person and have made some good friends over the past year.  It all starts with the connection made, and making the effort to get to know people.  If you want to meet others you will but that has to be communicated and as said previously everyone is here for their own reasons and not everyone is looking to meet in person.

[Phoenyx]

I would say that this is more of a social site, than a dating site.  It all starts with discussions.  But, much more can develop along the way.  This is more like a social club or "munch", than the "meet market" of the bar/pub scene.

Under the "Browse" category (menu at top of the page) select "Members".  That page will give you a list, sorted by those closest to your location.  Chances are (based on your stated location) your best bet will be in the Minneapolis area.  This is a U.K. site.  So, folks over in the U.K. tend to have many more in-person meets.  Still, it is possible here.

It has been pointed-out, that a detailed profile is important.  However, it is often difficult for a newbie to know what to put in a profile.  A good alternative is to be active in the discussions.  Don't be afraid to ask questions, or request explanations.  There is no such thing as "a stupid question"---only stupid answers.  The more that you join discussions, the more folks will get to know you.  Over time, you will get a better feel for what you want to state in your profile.

[ey****]

I kinda say with a smile, yes, even if I haven't met anyone via this site haha (though, there were plans long grassed through covid and I'm sure to meet many of you in one capacity, or another, in the future)

But yes.  People have met partners here. People do meet up.  It just doesn't happen by magic.

[Deleted Member]

I’ve met someone from here previously. I’m also one of those people who have a blank profile but I do that for my own reasons. Personally I don’t want to give out that sort of information to everyone. While some may skip past me because of that, then that’s okay too. 

Yes it’s a fetish site, but if someone can’t engage with me on a basic level there is zero chance of it progessing any further.  

Edited January 20, 2021 by Deleted Member

[SP****]

I have met people from this site socially and have become good friends with a few. As someone stated previously its harder to meet just now due to restrictions and lockdown

[Ar****]

98% of the profiles ive talked to are fake. If they ask you to use Neighbor or any other weird unknown chat app they are fake.

[Si****]

Is that 98% of 10 or 98% of 100? Can you define ‘fake’. Are you say they are catfishers, and people who use fake pics and lie in their write ups? Or just people who have said ‘no thanks’

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, SirGreen said:

Is that 98% of 10 or 98% of 100? Can you define ‘fake’. Are you say they are catfishers, and people who use fake pics and lie in their write ups? Or just people who have said ‘no thanks’

I shouldn’t laugh but that tickled me

[Si****]

3 hours ago, Peachykeen said:

I shouldn’t laugh but that tickled me

99% of statistics are made up. lol