Can you orgasm with a man giving you oral?

[Nu****]

I feel like I'm the only one who has this problem. I find it very difficult to orgasm when a man is giving me oral. I've cum maybe 3 times my whole life that way. I want to enjoy it. I want to get there. Every man I've been with says they can get it done for me. But then it doesn't happen. However, I orgasm very easily when a woman does it. Is it because I feel like women are naturally better at it? I can orgasm extremely easily every other way. Do you have this problem? Do you have any advice on how to fix it?

[Ch****]

I think you’re choosing the wrong dudes

[Ma****]

I suggest you tell the man to slow down and be gentle. Sometimes men aren't as delicate as they need to be.

[Ce****]

For the most part men can be a bit more direct in their approach, but that may be only half the battle.

Could there be a mental block for you? Perhaps having built up expectations and focusing on the destination is causing a disconnect for you.

One technique I can think that would help in those circumstances would be to forget the person and their gender... close your eyes and focus on what your body enjoys. Then translate your experience to your lucky goodie-goblin so he can give you more of what you like.

Oral is an art form. Very few have the desire and/or skill.

I'm rooting for ya! =)

[Fl****]

You have nothing wrong with you, you haven’t came across the right one.

[De****]

Don't tell anyone you can't orgasm from oral. Because they might be trying to hard.

[Deleted Member]

I too have this issue. And tbh I've only had one woman try it, she didn't give me orgasm either. Any tips or tricks would also help me. Only a handful (less than 5 times in my life) have ever done it for me that way so...

[so****]

I’ve been told this by multiple women and gave them their first lol

[so****]

It’s all in clit stimulation. That is where they need to focus. I like to suck it into my mouth then play with it with my tongue.

[Deleted Member]

I can't do such intense direct stimulation.

[Deleted Member]

I'd be walking up the wall...

[Deleted Member]

Every body is different. It's easier for me with females than males. For whatever reason (I'm sure it's just a mental block), if I have a male partner, there was to be some form of penetration. Finger or toys, it doesn't matter.

[Jo****]

A real man can give you orgasm in ways you can't imagine.. and when you find such men keep them first task 😌

[Nu****]

24 minutes ago, Ceci613 said:

For the most part men can be a bit more direct in their approach, but that may be only half the battle.

Could there be a mental block for you? Perhaps having built up expectations and focusing on the destination is causing a disconnect for you.

One technique I can think that would help in those circumstances would be to forget the person and their gender... close your eyes and focus on what your body enjoys. Then translate your experience to your lucky goodie-goblin so he can give you more of what you like.

Oral is an art form. Very few have the desire and/or skill.

I'm rooting for ya! =)

Thank you I'll definitely try your advice next time.

[Nu****]

13 minutes ago, wonderland2025 said:

I too have this issue. And tbh I've only had one woman try it, she didn't give me orgasm either. Any tips or tricks would also help me. Only a handful (less than 5 times in my life) have ever done it for me that way so...

I'm so sorry to hear you have the same issue. But it is nice to know I'm not alone. I was starting to think is was just a me problem. I hope this thread heads good advice for us both.

[De****]

6 minutes ago, wonderland2025 said:

I'd be walking up the wall...

That's a good thing! 😉

[Deleted Member]

Confident arent you @JohnnyDomG

[Nu****]

10 minutes ago, soakmyface said:

It’s all in clit stimulation. That is where they need to focus. I like to suck it into my mouth then play with it with my tongue.

Another issue I thought might be I think I have a tiny clit. It does swell but not sure if anyone has actually been able to suck on it.

[yo****]

Yes but generally I need to be fingered at the same time or be licked on either side of my clit to amp me up, then one or two licks straight on and I’m off like a rocket.

[Jo****]

4 minutes ago, wonderland2025 said:

Confident arent you @JohnnyDomG

Off course..

[Nu****]

3 minutes ago, yoursweetsub0222 said:

Yes but generally I need to be fingered at the same time or be licked on either side of my clit to amp me up, then one or two licks straight on and I’m off like a rocket.

Now that's what I wanna be able to do....

[Deleted Member]

@yoursweetsub0222 I think that i have needed both like you. Then pressure just above my hood rather than direct unless I'm so close its not even funny

[cr****]

@yoursweetsub0222 I figured out the pressure above the hood a while back. Opens up the pathway. Push down and gently pull towards the button.

[Jo****]

A lot of men just blatantly lie about their abilities and are terrible in bed.

[Sh****]

I couldn't when I was young and not confident or articulate enough to ask for exactly what I wanted. But once I learned exactly what works for me and stopped being shy about explaining/asking for it from those it didn't necessarily come naturally from, everything changed. My baby dad and I were together for nearly 7 years and it took probably 5 before our communication got to the point it needed to for him to really learn me. We've actually been separated for a few years now but coparent wonderfully together and are still great friends. We're both single so we hook up every once in a while still, and he gets me off- usually multiple times- from oral now, pretty much every time. The first time he went down on me in quite a while (first time in a few years that we hooked up after separating) I made a comment about how good it felt after he did so, and he said "I still give you credit for teaching me that." So... *tips hat* "you're welcome," to any of the other ladies he's busted my moves out on over the past few years. 😆 haha