How to get over three way nerves

[as****]

So we’ve been together a few years now and we’ve always been extremely open with each other and have always been into the lifestyle. We both have also dabbled in group sex before we got together. Then we were both celibate for about 2.5 years each before meeting each other so all in all it’s been half a decade since either of us have been intimate with anyone else.


We just can’t seem to get past the initial meet up jitters. Any tips?

[We****]

Just meet and see where it goes—no obligations and no explanations or excuses if it fizzles.

[sa****]

There is always the filling of anticipation and fillings that this could go wrong to get past it is as simple as knowing and remembering that even when in day to day life people put on the masks of different expectations in the deep part of are self we are all more alike then we think and there filling the same way even if they try to not looks like it so first just be honest and brake the tension bild trust by letting them know you nervous

[ey****]

the thing with any form of group sex, for the first time, it opens a door there's often deemed to be no going back from and a lot of people don't know what that looks like on the other side.

This could, of course, be positive. But it could be negative

you won't know til you open the door.  But also a lot could depend on what the specific jitters are.  

Whether it is one or both of you will prefer another person? How it affects your dynamic with that person? What happens next?

[B_****]

To get over the jitters stop all the bad thoughts and just think of all the things you want to try with the third and ask them about it before or during play

[Te****]

I love hosting in very relaxed open environments with no judgements

[Is****]

I used to third for couples and before anything even got flirtatious I’d spend time with them together to talk about what they were looking for, why they were seeking a third, and just get to know em. If desires aligned then I’d date each one separately to build chemistry before we took things to the bedroom.

I’d take the lead asking them to prep the room before I got there (clean up room/bathroom, have toys that we’d agreed on out, candles if they were into it, chill music- anything to set the mood so we weren’t scrambling in the moment). Then we’d usually start with just talking over drinks, shaking any nerves and bringing down the anxiety. Then I’d start with light touching, then kissing, and so forth. I like to start with the woman first unless they were both women then I’d start with whichever seemed to be following me lead easiest- let the other partner get teased a lil before inviting em into the mix.

I’m sure it helps having at least one person experienced, but I guess give space to get out the giggles and nerves. It doesn’t need to be a rush. Plus there’s so many kinky games you can get now to break the ice- maybe give those a try if you struggle initiating. Hope this helps!

[go****]

I’m still getting over my kinky twosome jitters. Lulz.