WHAT HOLDS ME BACK

[ki****]

Finding the right partner to explore with

[Ad****]

Not enough unicorns in the pasture. Haha.

[Frenchies]

Too worried about reputation even after being trained.

[sp****]

The right person, you havw to build that trust before you get into anything spicy.

[Li****]

Jealous partners

[Cade]

The reality of everything it would require in order to do it properly.

[Tr****]

Trust

[Ru****]

Making the first move

[ca****]

Definitely access. A lot of ladies arent into the dirty stuff🥲

[Pl****]

A guy with enough experience & balls to show up and participate.

[ak****]

Getting a woman to get with me . I’ve had bad luck in my past relationships 🤦🏼‍♂️

[Po****]

Not being able to find someone to play with,basically. Almost impossible to get a reply, let alone a connection.

[Ba****]

My partner

[LadyV]

Time and trust.

I lead a very busy life so time is a huge limiting factor.

Trust, because most people simply aren't trustworthy. Kink is incredibly dangerous and the bdsm subculture attracts a fuckton of ***rs and idiots, both of whom are unsafe to play with obviously. About 5 minutes into any conversation, I can tell I'm either talking to a predator looking for a naive victim or an idiot looking for an unrealistic porno reenactment. Neither are appealing prospects and they represent the majority of what's on offer.

So yeah, time and trust.

[fi****]

Being new, I find its the clique mentality. Not very welcoming overall

[Ji****]

I literally cant find anyone in my area that will play with me. Thats the road block. Theyre all in canada and europe

[Da****]

Finding someone local and active. Also age plays a large part.

[th****]

***, access, trust, lack of genuine, intelligent people who treat me like a human being and not just a sex object. Like one person on here said 5 minutes into the conversation and I can tell they are a creepy weirdo. For me they usually fixate on a specific kink that I’m just not into and that’s all they talk or care about. They aren’t interested in hearing my kinks. If they are they will promise me they will do mine if I do theirs but then they’ll just *** their kinks onto me and just even change my own kinks to suit themself. A lot of their kinks I find disgusting and I’m not willing to even do theirs if they do mine because it would just put me off the whole experience. The other issue I have is that when I seem to have found someone ideal and we arrange to meet they ghost me or things go wrong and we never end up meeting. I don’t think I’ve ever manage to meet anyone who I’ve managed to live my fantasies with in all these years. I’ve come close but even if I do meet up with someone I never hear from them again after that first meet. Or the people are never patient with me when I say I’d prefer to get to know them first. If it’s not instant they aren’t interested.

[th****]

8 hours ago, DirtyDaddyx said:

Simply the opportunity …. I think I’ve found someone … then they let me down !

My experience exactly

[ko****]

Myself! We're all guilty of getting in our own way sometimes. Not just love and lust but in happiness and life also!

[la****]

Sex ingeneral

[Le****]

The lack of ability to have sensible conversations with potential partners about practices and expectations. Finding locations that have furniture and are generally pleasant. The lack of women who want ***.

[Cdsub-3144]

My health and not being able to drive seem to be big problems..... Not to mention that I don't know anyone else into this stuff and I can't find a domme..... So I probably need a miracle

[ca****]

I am new to this so I can imagine it’s hard to find a decent partner.

[as****]

No one in my area🤷‍♂️

(probably because people don’t wanna go for someone younger too.)