For the Dominant Women, when did you find your dominance?

[Fl****]

What moment, or moments made you realize that you appealed to a more niche way of life? Neither interested in the vanilla nor submissive perception of your ***s? Was it the appeal of dominance? The aversion to submission, or the interest in others submitting to you?

[li****]

The aversion to submission. I feel that there's already a pleasure gap between the genders where women get the short end of the stick. So adding a submissive element where I'm supposed to fulfill a man's wishes makes no sense to me. On the other hand, a submissive man willing to put the woman at the center can compensate for it.
I had my first experience when I saw someone on Tinder who was looking for a dominant woman. We matched and I really liked how he acted when he was around. Later I had some experiences that changed my sexual taste and now I'd rather not do without some kinky.
But if he's the right one, I'll accept vanilla as well.

[Fl****]

11 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

The aversion to submission. I feel that there's already a pleasure gap between the genders where women get the short end of the stick. So adding a submissive element where I'm supposed to fulfill a man's wishes makes no sense to me. On the other hand, a submissive man willing to put the woman at the center can compensate for it.
I had my first experience when I saw someone on Tinder who was looking for a dominant woman. We matched and I really liked how he acted when he was around. Later I had some experiences that changed my sexual taste and now I'd rather not do without some kinky.
But if he's the right one, I'll accept vanilla as well.

Thank you for your contribution! It is a shame that so many men are.... uneducated, in the ways to satisfy women. Even more sore that some are stubborn and crude thinking that it's none of their business how to do so. Despite that, i'm glad that it pushed you toward that side of yourself and that you were able to realize it with someone too! Very beautiful. Cheers friend :)

[An****]

I’m new to kink and still learning, but isn’t a D/s dynamic supposed to be about who is in control, not who gets all the pleasure? (Switch man here, I realise the original question is for Dommes)

[li****]

2 hours ago, Andy_Hollow said:

I’m new to kink and still learning, but isn’t a D/s dynamic supposed to be about who is in control, not who gets all the pleasure? (Switch man here, I realise the original question is for Dommes)

Also. But I feel that dommes need to emphasize the pleasure aspect because we don't get our pleasure from topping you only and for the gender gap I mentioned before.

[li****]

2 hours ago, Andy_Hollow said:

I’m new to kink and still learning, but isn’t a D/s dynamic supposed to be about who is in control, not who gets all the pleasure? (Switch man here, I realise the original question is for Dommes)

I forgot a remark: most of the male "subs" want to stay in control of the situation anyway.

[An****]

55 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

I forgot a remark: most of the male "subs" want to stay in control of the situation anyway.

I enjoyed your bio. I understand your comment much better now 🌹

[li****]

43 minutes ago, Andy_Hollow said:

I enjoyed your bio. I understand your comment much better now 🌹

That's so nice of you, thank you for reading 😊

[DT****]

I learned a long time ago that I was very dominant, but most men aren’t into that. My husband now is a total freak. He will do anything I tell him to do in the bedroom. I love strapping his sexy ass face down on the bed where I can stretch his sexy rosebud out tight and putting on a nice big strapon to pound his ass. Once he’s ready I’ll insert my whole hand past my wrist. I’ll lead him around with a leash. When I go *** he’ll obediently kneels as I *** then when I’m done he’ll lick my pussy clean. I love it!!!

[fe****]

The control. Im still working on the demands. I am a little rough. Enjoy the submissive services.

[pi****]

Ive always had general distain for certain types of men, the players, the arrogant, the womanizers. But I’ve noticed, very often that they have a desire to be broken. And I’ve learned I enjoy breaking. It’s very disheartening being approached by these types of men. If you let them, they would use you to the very last drop. So naturally disgust grows from ***. And some men, want to be treated like disgusting little creatures. It’s intoxicating to experience just how easily they will submit.

For the softer ones, the yearners, the pleasers, the desperate and needy, there is a deep appreciation for devotion. I like to call them my “anakin skywalkers”. How earnest they are in their begging is deeply satisfying. And I enjoy taking care of them.

[Mi****]

Ugh… I could dominate, I would be good at it too. I cannot inflict *** on others emotionally or physically however.

I grew up, having to be the man of the house, and now I seem to seek validation through femininity, I think this is the main reason I enjoy being submissive, I can openly be silly, girly, dorky.

My mother is an alpha individual, that’s enough said

[00****]

Sexy

[00****]

Yesterday at 01:59 AM, Miiya said:

Ugh… I could dominate, I would be good at it too. I cannot inflict *** on others emotionally or physically however.

I grew up, having to be the man of the house, and now I seem to seek validation through femininity, I think this is the main reason I enjoy being submissive, I can openly be silly, girly, dorky.

My mother is an alpha individual, that’s enough said

I'd love to have an experience with you

[Sa****]

When I took control in the bedroom & told the guy what to do, because he Wasn't getting it done.

[Sa****]

I have recently come to realize that I would be willing to submit, to an extent, to the right person of course. Although, I would still want him to willingly be submissive to me as well.

[On****]

I have always been dominant right from when I was a child, I was the leader, the instigator, the one they asked opinions of.

[MistressWhipplash]

In any relationship I "called the shots" and "wore the trousers" as family around me who were women did so it was natural to be so.
Later at work I was asked if I was a Dominant. Once the term was explained to me I replied yes.

I went to my first private sponsored play party and caned a few and the rest is history. I was in my early 20's then.

I self-educated by asking questions and gaining answers on forums. I found I wasn't a play Top I wanted a full time relationship where I was in control in all things. It's been eight years with my live-in-Property and it works for us.

Edited March 20 by MistressWhipplash