What Do Think?

[Iceland1309]

So my partner OBVIOUSLY doesn’t understand my kink? I need advice! Am I coming about this all wrong?

I’m a die hard CUCKQUEAN! And I talked to my partner about him messaging other women. BUT I WANT TO KNOW ! I like reading the build up and exchanges between him and other women!

But he deletes the messages and lies about even talking to them! He makes me hate my kink I don’t even like mentioning it to him anymore! I feel like he takes it as a pass to cheat! Any advice?

[As****]

Him deleting the message knowing you are 100% into it is a red flag. He has the potential to have a very fun sex life with a woman who is open to sharing. I feel like he may get a thrill out of hiding it from you. Like a cheaters adrenaline rush of sorts.

[We****]

Set him up with a lady friend so he sees you mean it. Hearing you say it may not be enough for him but if you go out of your way to do that for him, he may learn to appreciate the transparency better

[Me****]

If he is making you hate your kink then that is not the person for you. Do not let another person kill your kink I would say that is when you have a sit down and talk about it and then move on you can find better that loves your kink as much as you do

[al****]

This should be a open communication with him. It should be apart of the play between both of u if this is the expressed kink that you want to explore. If hes not doing something as basic as showing u than thats a problem in my opinion

[Ve****]

This isn’t you misunderstanding your kink the issue is consent and honesty. In ethical cuck/cuckquean dynamics, everything is negotiated, transparent, and agreed; lying, deleting messages, and hiding conversations removes your agency and turns kink into plain cheating. You’re allowed to enjoy the build-up and shared awareness, and you’re also allowed to withdraw consent when it starts to hurt. Your kink is not a free pass for him to act unilaterally, and it’s reasonable to ask for a reset: either clear rules with full transparency and accountability, or the dynamic comes off the table until trust is rebuilt. You’re not broken the behavior is the problem, not your desire.

[ch****]

He more than likely feels just as uncomfortable as you. Ask questions tell him what bothers you and try and find out what his *** or concerns are. And make yours heard. Talking and openness is the key and until it’s established and rules are made clear on both ends no one should be seeking. Y’all are a team and this is supposed to bring you closer and stronger.

[BPT061]

If its being deleted and lied about, that is definitely something separate from your kink. Maybe a discussion is in order. None of us here can tell you the why, but there seems to be a consensus from the group here that theres definitely an issue of some kind. Best of luck

[aa****]

As others have mentioned this type of dynamic has to be built on a foundation of trust, respect, honesty and most importantly consent,

There’s two sides to this, firstly you’re not wrong for feeling a certain way, however your partner also is allowed to feel a way about things too, and ultimately you need to agree on what is and isn’t okay before doing this type of thing however

1. You need to express yourself clearly without expectation, you can not expect someone to want to try every single one of the kinks you’re interested in, this is where consent is key, tho it feels like you’ve attempted this from what you’ve said so I’ll move onto the second part

2. This type of dynamic can really make or break a relationship, especially when true characters come out from it, and they *** that position of trust, you have to sit down and have a real conversation, and express how you’re currently feeling and clearly lay out your expectations if you are to continue with this, otherwise it’s best you do not continue if you can not agree on what is or isn’t okay, and where the line is, and most importantly you have to respect your own boundaries too, if he continues to *** the power given to him after you express it then he simply isn’t a good person to be exploring kink with, as without the trust it goes south quickly

I wish you good luck, and remember kink isn’t everything if he’s good in every other aspect of your life but this one just isn’t working, stop it and move on before doing any more damage, if you can find a way to communicate openly and honestly then there’s plenty of fun to be had!

[ra****]

They are not respecting your boundaries. They are not a good person leave them. They will never respect your boundaries if you are tired of saying it then you’ve said it enough.

[ra****]

And anyone giving this person a pass or an out is probably not a good person either

[Strang]

All I can think of is either:

1) He's grossly misunderstood the kink and thinks he's meant to be "playing the cheat" rather than actively involve you. In which case, another frank conversation is required.

2) He's embarrassed, shy or self-conscious about it and is uncomfortable with letting his partner read flirty messages with other women because he still thinks you may get upset

3) He's actually just cheating. But idk why he needs to if his partner literally finds it hot to see him with another woman. I can't get my head around that.

[pa****]

46 minutes ago, rainbowcataclysm said:

And anyone giving this person a pass or an out is probably not a good person either

Just stop, you don’t get to judge others.

[pa****]

47 minutes ago, rainbowcataclysm said:

And anyone giving this person a pass or an out is probably not a good person either

You’re so quick to call someone “not a good person” when you don’t even know the whole side of both stories. You sound childish

[ra****]

16 minutes ago, paulie_walnuts17 said:

You’re so quick to call someone “not a good person” when you don’t even know the whole side of both stories. You sound childish

Anyone telling somebody that they should deal with that if they are in a position that they’re tired of telling somebody something they’ve told them enough that that’s what they want. It’s a boundary that they’re walking all over. They’re not a good person. It doesn’t matter if you know, both sides or not, what matters is that that person is tired of telling this person this is what I want. This is a boundary. It’s not childish. It’s an adult way to look at things. It’s childish to say oh well this is this this this let it go no if they have a set boundary, she sat there and told them this is what I want. This is how that needs to go your childish and thinking that they need to keep taking that shit that’s ***. That’s mental *** at that point it’s not childish when somebody is entirely tired of dealing with the situation and asking what they should do what they should fucking do is leave the person because they’re not good for them. They’re causing mental chaos and that’s not fair to anyone take a look deep inside yourself and if you’re frustrated telling somebody over and over again that you have boundaries and then have to be told that you should just deal with it or to do this or to do that they’ve told them the person is aware they don’t give a fuck so whether or not it sounds childish. They’re mentally abusing them at that point might not be physical, but it is mental *** I have set boundaries. I’ve told you that they’re there and when you consistently overwhelmed me by going over my boundaries, you are mentally abusing that person you’re not helping them. You’re not being a good person. You are a shitty person.

[fi****]

Yeah as someone that is with a cuck. Either you have not explained it or he's cheating. Makes no sense at all to be deceptive. I'm concerned 😂