What Do Think?

[fi****]

1 hour ago, BengeBlaze said:

What if the thrill for him is the hiding of it?

Then you speak about it

[Ha****]

So this is something I've been discussing with my girl, also a cuckquean kink. But she's also described homewrecker scenarios or live in sub scenarios. Which may differ from you.
I remind her that this other (theoretical) woman needs to be considered as well. Fact is I don't have woman throwing themselves at me like that. If I find one that's willing to have that kind of relationship/experience/exchange it's kind of at her pace and with her opinions and goals communicated and respected. While we've been talking about it for ever, anyone else is just stepping into this. If a woman sent me a picture of herself I wouldn't show my girl. Not unless the other woman was comfortable and communicated consent with that. Same for messages.
I also see a lot of people saying maybe he's embarrassed. Doesn't want you to see his game or lack of. Doesn't want you to see the dynamic he's entering with someone else. Maybe he's trying to go along with your thing and because it's not his thing he doesn't know how to talk about it. Maybe the woman he's talking to is not what you think he would go for. Maybe she isn't and he's embarrassed. All are understandable conclusions to make and feelings to have.
Honestly, maybe he just looked up cuckquean and its definition is different from what you want, but the closest you can describe.

At the end of the day. It's just more communication is needed. Talk to one another. Be honest and trust one another. If you want more involvement then maybe you should try finding him women yourself. That way you are more informed.

[Ph****]

I'm not trying to be disrespectful.. he is in the wrong for deleting messages..

But to do this type of kink and in a dynamic..
1. The relationship needs to be extremely strong.

2. Boundaries and rules need to be negotiated with both parties.

3. Need absolutely no jealousy.

P.S. boundaries and rules can change.Always talk about it together. Telling your partner how you feel. Letting your partner know what they are doing wrong and it's making you feel uncomfortable.It's important to be open and honest. If not, you are not being honest with yourself.When you're not honest with your partner . And remember, this is a kink that can break or make the relationship.

And maybe you should ask yourself. And ask your partner why does he deleted the messages. It may be.He's feeling a certain way .. no , the still does not give someone a free pass to delete messages. But it's a great opportunity to just sit down and talk with each other. And remember , approaching , the situation can be tricky.

Remember when we were in kindergarten? And whoever had the ball could speak . I have done this in a relationship before, and it works very well. I called it porch time. It's a safe word for the relationship.When you feel like something is going wrong.Either person can call it. It's just a figure of s***ch. Find an object and sit down. The rules are that whoever has the ball can talk but can not hog the ball or the object. You start sentences off as I. Don't play the blame game. Speak your feelings of how you feel.And why is it causing a problem. You both speak your feelings. And then you come up with solutions.

[re****]

Set some boundaries and adter all this is all about trust and understanding eachoters needs. Also is he new to this kink? I would suggest saying if you aren't able to share the messages and making my kink a reality I don't want you talking to other women.

[ho****]

Omg I’m so not with it!
My partner messages other women and it is such a turn on for me, I thought I was crazy but I guess this is a thing.
I’m still finding out stuff about myself 🤣🤣

[Te****]

I love being pushed to the limit.