Favorite Part About Being A Switch

[Dr****]

For those of us who identify this way, what is your favorite part it? For me it is finding pleasure on either side of that luscious moment right before surrender--depending on which role I am playing at that moment in that relationship.

Any others?

[Deleted Member]

The sadist in me enjoys giving *** - returning the *** I myself crave is empowering in a way unique in opposition to pleasurable experiences.

The energy exchange within dynamics, regardless where I stand (or bow 😉), is appreciated, honoured, and enjoyed.

Tah.

[La****]

Compersion ftw.

[PresentisPeculiar]

I D from a providing pleasure ideal. And I found I have just enough sadist to enjoy the scared look or shudder or sobbing. I get off on knowing I have a sub that wants me to get her across that line. But I take purient interest in the result. I enjoy the high if controlled, sharp *** as a sub. I find a quiet space where I have to blank everything out to take the ***. It helps me compartmentalize. I'm also very competitive and I love impressing a Domina with my will to accept non injurious sharp ***. It's like where my brain can go to off for a minute.

That's why I roll my eyes at the hardest core of the lifestyle factions that claim switch is impossible. The doms always have some outrageous what they picture as aloha male thing (never Dominas) to say. But...see, in a confident person. I don't get shook by little boys playing bad man. Biggest the desperation and compensation in their over the top crude sexual posts in these pages where they are wildly inappropriate and figure they have to know they didn't really get over on anyone there...they just exposed their lack of depth. I see it the same when some Ds puff chest and start claiming domination is in their DNA. They never waiver because they wake up ready to kick all asses. Etc. No...that's not a Dom. Quiet assertion and more power in silence than with words...that's a Dom. Alpha ? Cosplay, maybe

[Ga****]

I like the fact it isn't the same every time. It can be stressful or overwhelming to always hold other people's pleasure all the time and the dynamic isn't something attenable for everyone which is why switches are a thing. But it's also powerful to be a submissive for someone and be that trust to someone but it's also powerful to have someone trust in you to give them what they need as a dominate without putting them in danger or overstepping.