Do Doms submit?

[He****]

Tbh I'm not sure what "category" falls under, but I'm curious if there are ways or circumstances that my fellow doms are willing to submit.

I can go first. One way that I feel might be submitting is by having my partner immediately come in the house from working or whatever and removing their shoes for them. I feel like that is an act of submission, but I feel like I'm the one in control in that instance at the same time.

[Ty****]

I get that , when you think about it it’s just an extremely minute version of submission at the end of the day. you still understand and know the position and roles you play within your dynamic so it has no substantive effect

[Am****]

Interesting depends how you do it I’d say. I used to do this with an old sub/FWB of mine. Bit she was locked out of the house to she showed me she has a horny sub that wanted to be used. She often send me sexy photos and pictures well being in my driveway waiting for permission to come in. Once this lasted hours and I though she was just gonna leave

[In****]

The only way had DOM will submit if they are switches and most DOM‘s aren’t switches

[Ma****]

Dealers choice.
Have seen Dom's give their submissive a day to top.
But also have seen plenty of Dom's that like to recive things like pegging, or flogging, and or that take care of their submissives in a seemingly servent like manner.

It all really depends on your own dynamic, and how you and your submissive decide to procede. There are "conventional norms" but your actual dynamic can be arranged however the hell upu want it to be.

It's your dynamic, and just because someone else would think a given action/behavior is "only something submissives do" has no true relevance to how you would like to proceed in your own relationship(s).

Dont worry about others lists and ideas. Try whatever you want to try.
ITS YOUR DYNAMIC, not theirs.

[he****]

Well said Marshall83!!! Bdsm is a spectrum and nothing is black and white. Thats whats so great about…. Having freedom to express yourself as you like without judgement from societal norms and standards.

[Th****]

Depends 💯 on the dynamic. I think if she wants to exchange roles, then it's hot af! It's a learning experience, revealing what she wants and expects in that dynamic. I think it can be very educational.

[Th****]

15 minutes ago, Tha1andonlyOhfo said:

Depends 💯 on the dynamic. I think if she wants to exchange roles, then it's hot af! It's a learning experience, revealing what she wants and expects in that dynamic. I think it can be very educational.

Any good Dom has a little sub in them or they wouldn't know how to properly take care of Thier sub before and after. You can call it whatever you want, even if you're not willing to switch, the emotional and physical understanding requires a level of understanding that you cannot have otherwise

[as****]

Often when they realize how good it feels to take it in the butt.

[ca****]

straight Dom. When I take a sub I am submitting. My time, my patience, my peace, my stress level, my ***, protection, and so much more that is related to me taking on all the responsibility.

[sp****]

8 minutes ago, canton11826 said:

straight Dom. When I take a sub I am submitting. My time, my patience, my peace, my stress level, my ***, protection, and so much more that is related to me taking on all the responsibility.

this response itself for a sub wannabe seems like a sub act to me. stay strong

[He****]

56 minutes ago, Marshal83 said:

Dealers choice.
Have seen Dom's give their submissive a day to top.
But also have seen plenty of Dom's that like to recive things like pegging, or flogging, and or that take care of their submissives in a seemingly servent like manner.

It all really depends on your own dynamic, and how you and your submissive decide to procede. There are "conventional norms" but your actual dynamic can be arranged however the hell upu want it to be.

It's your dynamic, and just because someone else would think a given action/behavior is "only something submissives do" has no true relevance to how you would like to proceed in your own relationship(s).

Dont worry about others lists and ideas. Try whatever you want to try.
ITS YOUR DYNAMIC, not theirs.

I agree 100% I was just looking for ways that doms serve their subs, because the dynamic is fluid and is dependent on each relationship.

[Do****]

My submissive many years ago was brave enough to tell me “a true Dom doesn’t know how to dominate unless he has been a submissive“ I even gave her the opportunity to try. We are all individual and none of us the same, but I couldn’t bring myself to completely comply.

[ho****]

For me, being sweet and caring isn’t the same as submission. When he removes me shoes and picks me up after a long day, that’s not really submission. I see that as care.

Dom submission for me is when he came inside and is hyper sensitive and I’m not getting off to *** him a bit and he takes it 🤣🤣. He could really throw me off, literally, but he chooses not to so I see that as submission? If that makes sense.

[An****]

For the right person…yup!!! Most definitely

[so****]

Yes of course would love to submit message me I’ll do in person avd live cam right now

[Mr****]

The question youre asking is broad but the context is good. If you want to perform a service at your own request, phrase the question submissively and you should be good. 'Allowing' you to remove their shoes caters to the psychology even though its at your request. Since youre requesting permission, and the action is for service, and undertaken by you, I be surprised if you were denied unless they are testing your reaction to rejection.

[Va****]

A top that bottoms and knows what they want. You just have to be assertive

[be****]

1 hour ago, Anubis2025 said:

For the right person…yup!!! Most definitely

Couldn’t have said it better myself. If it were the right person, I would absolutely sub.

[ey****]

the kinda issue often with kink is people pigeonhole different activities as being "Dominant" or "submissive" when it's not the activity

Like, helping take someone's shoes off after they've been to work isn't really a submissive act.  Unless you chose to make it one.

[St****]

well there is of course a difference between a dom and submissive, or a switch, and a top, a bottom, and a vers. You can be any combination of the four, even a VERS or a SWITCH with a lean towards any attribute. A sumbissive top would give pleasure as a form of worship and submission, and if you want to be a dimminant bottom your orders can be to your sub exactly how to bring you pleasure and use you.Of course any Dom can submit! They can change and be flexible and have that show up in any number of ways!

[He****]

17 hours ago, MrMean said:

The question youre asking is broad but the context is good. If you want to perform a service at your own request, phrase the question submissively and you should be good. 'Allowing' you to remove their shoes caters to the psychology even though its at your request. Since youre requesting permission, and the action is for service, and undertaken by you, I be surprised if you were denied unless they are testing your reaction to rejection.

Dude, yes!!!! For me it falls under acts of service. As a fom you are providing a service, but also you are taking care of their needs, sometimes addressing them before they are realized.

[He****]

17 hours ago, ValentineRevenge said:

A top that bottoms and knows what they want. You just have to be assertive

I'm not even talking about in that context. I'm asking if there are acts outside of sexually, that doms are willing to submit to their partners. My example of removing their shoes when they come home to help them relax, or provide comfort.

[Va****]

3 hours ago, Hermodr said:

I'm not even talking about in that context. I'm asking if there are acts outside of sexually, that doms are willing to submit to their partners. My example of removing their shoes when they come home to help them relax, or provide comfort.

That's complicated and dependent on the person and situation. But I feel like if you're in a relationship and not just in a D/S situationship than you should be able to espress care to each other in your own ways. Maybe their love language like the way they express themselves in bed is different than yours. Yours seems to be acts of service. Often our love language we'd like in return but the person we end up liking has a different love language and now you've gotta see if they are actually showing you love in their own way or if it's just a no strings attached issue on their part.
Also comfort should be a must as a dom to make their sub feel safe with them. Maybe not removing shoes but certainly an ear to vent to. And hold you.
Tho I am on the soft side of things….

[He****]

33 minutes ago, ValentineRevenge said:

That's complicated and dependent on the person and situation. But I feel like if you're in a relationship and not just in a D/S situationship than you should be able to espress care to each other in your own ways. Maybe their love language like the way they express themselves in bed is different than yours. Yours seems to be acts of service. Often our love language we'd like in return but the person we end up liking has a different love language and now you've gotta see if they are actually showing you love in their own way or if it's just a no strings attached issue on their part.
Also comfort should be a must as a dom to make their sub feel safe with them. Maybe not removing shoes but certainly an ear to vent to. And hold you.
Tho I am on the soft side of things….

Exactly. That's one of my favorite parts of any relationship or dynamic. I want to learn how I can best serve you and be what you need me to be. It doesnt have to be sitting you done and asking to untie your shoes for you. Maybe it's brushing your hair. Maybe it's running a bath for you. Maybe it's making your favorite snack. Whatever it may be, I love figure that shit out.