People that push..

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I get a lot of people that want me to Top/Domme… and while there are occasions where I feel very Primal or like oh that sounds nice. I.e having someone that does things for you or wants to be smothered and whatnot and my aftercare is pretty good… I am legitimately not into it. It doesn’t feel right when I am not feeling Feral. It really is an in the moment thing.

Having a cute subby person is like awww but then it is too much and the brain starts shutting down and not in a good way… but in a way of oh no now I have to take care of this person too and I feel taking care of me is WOW.

There are times I want to say yes to a bottom/sub/prey/masochist.. but I know it will take and not give to my peace and the kink feels more like work than fun..

Is there a balance?

How do you balance if you are uber sub leaning with rare Feral Primal bouts?

I would call myself a RARE-Switch… occasionally I am like let’s push your a$$ down and play… otherwise..

I don’t believe I could be in a committed relationship that needed me to Top more than when I am in that mood.

I find myself more in that mood when deprived of sex… and hate myself after because I generally give in when horny… it fills one or two holes but not the pleasure center.

Any opinions or recommendations?

People see certain pics and go 👀👀👀 she is dominate… instead of reading further. Kind of rough. Sometimes I want to take people up on things but remind myself that isn’t what I need and leave it.

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I’ll preface this with IMO and as a sub… but it sounds like the subs fail to recognize what a relationship really means. I think really having strong boundaries from the get go always helps us check ourselves when things are getting out of hand. For the feral moments, having a good relationship means having good communication and being comfortable sharing that with each other… don’t settle for subs who break your boundaries because it sounds like they are ignoring your ACTUAL needs…. Sorry long rant but that’s how I see it! <3 also I’m no relationship therapist ahahaha

[Tr****]

People need to communicate better , compromise is real. If your way not into it then don't. If your willing then do it for them even if you don't feel like it sometimes. shows consideration for your person. Every once in awhile I fake orgasm to ego boost my partner just because sometimes im just on a different page at the moment maybe not really in the mood but I want to take care of my person because we all know what it's like to be horny as fuck and shot down like you shamefully go jerk off alone? It sucks . So watch and read up on it , give it some effort. Incorporate something your into with it. Also the boundaries thing you said is very important .if its really a no for you Dont break them, be very clear and direct about yours and if they don't respect that then fuck them. Your being, state of mind are more important than an orgasm okay

[ra****]

8 hours ago, TruthHurtsXxXo said:

People need to communicate better , compromise is real. If your way not into it then don't. If your willing then do it for them even if you don't feel like it sometimes. shows consideration for your person. Every once in awhile I fake orgasm to ego boost my partner just because sometimes im just on a different page at the moment maybe not really in the mood but I want to take care of my person because we all know what it's like to be horny as fuck and shot down like you shamefully go jerk off alone? It sucks . So watch and read up on it , give it some effort. Incorporate something your into with it. Also the boundaries thing you said is very important .if its really a no for you Dont break them, be very clear and direct about yours and if they don't respect that then fuck them. Your being, state of mind are more important than an orgasm okay

The problem I have is that I am usually GGG. Also, will never fake an orgasm… seriously they are too easy for me. I just really need to wait on my people to come along and keep blocking the people that can’t read the room.

[Tr****]

Im jelous and thats right girl

[ra****]

5 minutes ago, TruthHurtsXxXo said:

Im jelous and thats right girl

Jealous of what??