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I recently had a sub with a real oral fixation. Not someone who enjoys giving head—someone who needed my cock in her mouth like a pacifier. Who felt wrong without it. Who could stay there for hours and never wanted to stop.

It was 10 notches above anything I'd experienced before. Not even close.

She wasn't trying to impress me. She was exactly where she needed to be. I could feel it the way she held on, the way her body relaxed, the way letting go seemed impossible for her.

To the kinkettes with this particular kinkhelp me understand the psychology.

What is it about keeping it in your mouth that quiets everything else? Is it the rhythm? The weight? The feeling of being anchored to something?

Does your mind finally stop racing? Do you feel safer? More complete?

I'm asking because I want to find another woman who experiences it this way.

Tell me what drives it for you.

I don't know but it feels good to have a cock in your mouth. I love that lol

My previous sub described as a pacifier effect. Like thumb sucking but she preferred cock

Tbh I wanna get to that point. I want to be trained to be reliant on and suckle even in my sleep

theSir_ObservingU

In my late 20’s I had a girl fiend who couldn’t fall asleep without holding my testicles and fiddling with then like a stress toy. Even driving her hand would be between my legs. Even in company she would find a way to put a blanket over us and have her hand as close to my testiest as possible.

For me personally, it's very gender affirming to have a cock in my mouth. It also frees up my mind for me because that's all I'm focusing on

It has a calming effect for two main reasons for me 1) the rhythm and repetition of the action can be grounding and the warmth and texture is a lot better than a thumb. 2) it doesn’t feel as silly as thumb sucking to do and allows for a very adult distinction in the actions while making your partner a vital part of your comfort.

1 hour ago, LunaDeamon said:

It has a calming effect for two main reasons for me 1) the rhythm and repetition of the action can be grounding and the warmth and texture is a lot better than a thumb. 2) it doesn’t feel as silly as thumb sucking to do and allows for a very adult distinction in the actions while making your partner a vital part of your comfort.

This and the fact it just feels safe. Knowing I'm not only fully protected when I do it but also know he is enjoying it as much as it's soothing me. My ex used to also let me suckle on his nipples, we called it "nipple time" and it would always put me in a better headspace.

The pacifier effect as you call it.. for some of us subs is almost a reverse of those men who like to suckle at women’s breasts. It is an oral fetish but it is one that leads to a safe mental space. We are with our Dom, he is relaxed, we normally receive praise and comfort during the time we are in this “Pacifier” mode which is what we thrive on. But it allows us to be fully submissive and in that calm headspace where we know our Doms are fully protective of us and we can be at peace… no thoughts except him and our own comfort which is bringing him comfort and happiness as well. The bond at that time is the strongest and closest with your Dom.

This is exactly how I am, the oral fixation comes from my need for sensory seeking. It’s like taking a test and putting my mind on autopilot.

1 hour ago, Via_is_needy said:

This is exactly how I am, the oral fixation comes from my need for sensory seeking. It’s like taking a test and putting my mind on autopilot.

Rest*

It’s about being connected to the dom
Melting into one another
Natural fit
What a dream

3 hours ago, Via_is_needy said:

This is exactly how I am, the oral fixation comes from my need for sensory seeking. It’s like taking a test and putting my mind on autopilot.

Yeah I had 2 of my ex sub girls that were fixated to deeptroat. actively asking me for that several time per day 😭
Like you said, they were on autopilot. It seemed they needed it to connect to something deeper

It feels good, and I enjoy the feedback. It's something I can easily focus on.

It's a basic human instinct, to suck. We do it in utero and as babies, toddlers, sometimes beyond. When we become sexually active (by our own consensual accord, or by someone else's consensual or not) it takes us back to those earliest, soothing moments which are part of every human being regardless of experience, beliefs, trauma or anything else. Sometimes, it's a bastardisation expressed physically out of deep psychological need...

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