Scared & Excited

[ea****]

Hey everyone, I'm new to all of this. I've never actually tried any of my kinks. So my question to you is this.
When you find someone to try your kinky idea with. Are you scared that you might not enjoy it? Or are you simply excited to try something new? I'm a mixture of both. But that might simply be from a lack of experience in trying new things.

[Sassy83]

I think it’s normal to have a mixture of both but also keep in mind that even if you don’t like that kink with said person doesn’t mean you wouldn’t like that kink with another person just keep in mind it’s not always the kink that you don’t like it could be the person as well

[di****]

The butterflies in your stomach, the adrenaline rush…is what makes it so damn exciting. ***, eagerness, is all part of it. If you don’t enjoy it try something different until you find something you do enjoy.

[Deleted Member]

I would definitely read and educate myself on every kink and have much discussion before engaging (either alone or with others.) It's the best first step to not harming & having a great time, regardless of which kink or level of play.

[ca****]

I always try a bite of food before I put it on my no-go list 😝 Metaphorically

[pr****]

Mixture of both is natural I think. I mean fuck dude, to be 1000% real w you, I still get nervous af hooking Up with someone for the first time. What if I can’t get it up? What if she smells like fish? What if it’s all actually a setup and some jacked dude hops out her closet with a bowl of Mac n cheese and a 3.75’ tentacle dildo?…these are all questions I ask myself

But of you don’t like something that you’re trying…. Stop doing it and do sobering you like. Don’t get stuck in HAVING to try/enjoy something new. Honestly, the times that have made me cum the hardest have been doing things I’m familiar and comfy with - while doing the new and ‘exciting’ as foreplay

[mo****]

I get Scared that I might not be good enough

[ro****]

29 minutes ago, pretzelFolder said:

Mixture of both is natural I think. I mean fuck dude, to be 1000% real w you, I still get nervous af hooking Up with someone for the first time. What if I can’t get it up? What if she smells like fish? What if it’s all actually a setup and some jacked dude hops out her closet with a bowl of Mac n cheese and a 3.75’ tentacle dildo?…these are all questions I ask myself

But of you don’t like something that you’re trying…. Stop doing it and do sobering you like. Don’t get stuck in HAVING to try/enjoy something new. Honestly, the times that have made me cum the hardest have been doing things I’m familiar and comfy with - while doing the new and ‘exciting’ as foreplay

Thats funny shit I literally spit food everywhere 🤣

[ro****]

Just dive in man I was shown by stepping into a poly relationship maybe start there she will guide you young skywalker

[Br****]

Everyone starts somewhere just be honest about your expectations and see where it goes. Good luck 👍

[Sa****]

I was nervous about pegging my ex submissive for the first time. Once we were in the playroom, I went into full Dominant mode. We both a very intense & hot first session. I'm definitely addicted to pegging now. Relax, take a breath, & open your mind. You're just getting started

[co****]

Both! Relax though, make sure there’s a safe word;)

[Deleted Member]

It's as lways good to be wary as well as excited, fight or flight, so yes stay safe but enjoy and go with your gut feelings. Communication and trust.

[jo****]

Both...I always thought spanking was stupid. Then I learned where to spank so that a submissive feels most *** etc
And it just became fun

[si****]

2 hours ago, pretzelFolder said:

Mixture of both is natural I think. I mean fuck dude, to be 1000% real w you, I still get nervous af hooking Up with someone for the first time. What if I can’t get it up? What if she smells like fish? What if it’s all actually a setup and some jacked dude hops out her closet with a bowl of Mac n cheese and a 3.75’ tentacle dildo?…these are all questions I ask myself

But of you don’t like something that you’re trying…. Stop doing it and do sobering you like. Don’t get stuck in HAVING to try/enjoy something new. Honestly, the times that have made me cum the hardest have been doing things I’m familiar and comfy with - while doing the new and ‘exciting’ as foreplay

😂🤣😅 You crack me up!

[sa****]

With the right partner nothing is off limits and excitement should be all you feel the right partner will accept you for all you are

[ey****]

8 hours ago, east-york944730 said:

When you find someone to try your kinky idea with. Are you scared that you might not enjoy it?

yeah

but it depends on what the kink is. 

[Ch****]

Definitely a mix. For years I was so afraid of being judged. "Popular opinion" seems to portray plus size as a negative thing, so I was always so shy about being a chaser. Missed out on a lot of fun because of it, but once I got past that it was awesome.

[Ar****]

3 hours ago, savagedom81 said:

With the right partner nothing is off limits and excitement should be all you feel the right partner will accept you for all you are

I don't know if that came out the way you meant it to, but everyone should always have some things which are off-limits...

[No****]

Hi! In my case it's a mix, not always easy to find a kinky partner and when there is one, make sure to listen...actively listen and put on boundaries and limits (safe word is a must depending on hard kinks) and then go with the flow, slowly no one knows if it'll be great or meh just make sure you both have a good time while playing irl/online.

[sa****]

15 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I don't know if that came out the way you meant it to, but everyone should always have some things which are off-limits...

It did in fact come out correct just not whole it's another of my ADHD moments, with the right partner nothing is off limits you should be open for discussion or experimentation of anything without *** of prejudice or judgement, sorry y'all brain goes faster then the fingers sometimes

[ey****]

2 hours ago, savagedom81 said:

with the right partner nothing is off limits you should be open for discussion or experimentation of anything

the question is then a big one of who is the right partner?  Because if you then have the whole... discussion... and it's a no from you, then it was a limit.  Or, I guess, no one is the right partner.  

[To****]

That mix of scared and excited? Yeah, that’s normal. I’d be more worried if you didn’t feel nothing😉

When something’s new, of course there’s doubt. You’re stepping into the unknown. I’ve felt that edge myself( as everyone) Not panic, just that little question in the back of my head:
- will this actually feel right in real life?

But here’s the thing most people miss. It ain’t really about the kink. It’s about who you’re trying it with. If the person is steady, listens, doesn’t push or rush you, the *** usually settles down. Turns into focus. Anticipation

You don’t gotta love everything you try. Don’t need to prove you’re kinky enough either. Try it. Feel it. Decide. That’s it….

Excitement’s good. Just don’t ignore the part of you that keeps you safe. That instinct’s there for a reason

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, savagedom81 said:

Maybe still wasn't clear;
IT SHOULD BE OPEN FOR DISCUSSION, meaning you should feel safe discussing any of that with a partner I have had many bizarre discussions with a partner because the trust and respect is there they know imma take off the wall fantasies as just that and yes limits need discussion WITHOUT JUDGEMENT between partners you should not have *** when engaging with your partner and setting limits of any kind or discussing different kinks I will have you know yes I have discussed and even engaged in most of the ones you mentioned with the exception of the ***s and i did so without judgement BECAUSE THATS WHAT MADE EM HAPPY!!! So yes to each their own and may all enjoy whatever it is that gets their rocks off short of hurting ***s or ***

You’re not wrong. If you can’t have uncomfortable or awkward conversations about sex, then you have probably never really had good sex 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[Ba****]

Oh, I absolutely still get the excited/nervous combo when about to try something new, or even something I've done hundreds of times, but with a new person.
I think it'll always be there for me.