Fet in public!

[OM****]

Have you ever seen someone from Fet in public? Did you say hi? How did it go? Should we say hi when we see each other or leave it alone?

[DeviantInside]

Personal opinion… and general munch principles etc. no you shouldn’t, no everyone is open about their lifestyle and even those that are may not be with everyone. So you don’t want to put them in an awkward situation of being put on the spot as to where you know them from. Even if they’re alone you don’t know that they’re not meeting the person who is directly behind you or similar.

[DepressedSadKid]

I had someone I met that went to High School in a Strip Club I didn't bring it up at first but she was in one of my classes I didn't put her on blast that's her job id imagine its the same thing

[LL****]

I think a message would be better unless you’ve previously established with that person that they’d be happy to say hey if you did cross paths. I am not ashamed of my kinks and I’m not a prude, enough people know this side of me. But I wouldn’t want my family to know the gory details and I wouldn’t want my work circle to either.

[Kr****]

Make eye contact. Smile. That's it.
I've met several people over the years. St my clubs, at LS resorts, at parties. Smile, nod.
Never just approach someone. If you know them from somewhere vanilla it's OK to say hi. Never bring up LS.
Message them after on the app after discreet.
Ask the club to message them as a member and they will inform you if contact is ok.

[ChrisVet]

I never have

[Deleted Member]

From my experience, most people would prefer you not acknowledge them in public because they don't necessarily want to explain where they know you from. If they are in the closet, then approaching them could make things awkward.

[Yi****]

In my town, i've seen a few and more power to them.I wonder what they think if they recognize me.L o l

[OM****]

Yes. I know to always keep if discreet and respectful. I made eye contact and a lil smile. We caught each other looking a few times but that was it. I can’t message them on here but maybe she will see this.

[Da****]

Lol I introduced my friend from life to it

[Wh****]

I would broch the topic via where you met first. Let them know you think you may have saw them in public. And ask them what they prefer on the subject. Let is all about communication.

[ey****]

it depends on context

but, if you're mentally thinking "do I say hi" then the answer is no.   Consider you might know who they are, but they may have no clue who you are.

You'd kinda know if the nature of your relationship is appropriate to say 'hi' to. 

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For context also. My ex-wife once had a message from someone saying they'd seen them in the Co-Op, and my current wife had a message from someone which was "I am on the same train as you" and totally do not do this shit either cos it's creepy as fuck. 

[Br****]

10 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

it depends on context

but, if you're mentally thinking "do I say hi" then the answer is no.   Consider you might know who they are, but they may have no clue who you are.

You'd kinda know if the nature of your relationship is appropriate to say 'hi' to. 

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For context also. My ex-wife once had a message from someone saying they'd seen them in the Co-Op, and my current wife had a message from someone which was "I am on the same train as you" and totally do not do this shit either cos it's creepy as fuck. 

This. You know when it’s appropriate. We have a pre meet for our local BDSM club, and everyone on the private guest list can meet in a chosen bar beforehand. We keep the conversation private but it’s a great way to break the ice before entering what is a very intimate club :)

[Ul****]

Unless its a prearranged meet up, then i would carry on about my business and leave then to theirs for the most.
Now, if they were looking at me and I them, with that look of 'do I know you?' Type situation, I might approch and ask just that in a friendly manner, even if i knew exactly where I know them.
Other then that I might drop a quick message later and say something along the lines of 'sorry to trouble you, but was you at ...... today?' If they reply then that cab lead into a conversation.. if not then, I would leave it be.

[Deleted Member]

I would probably not unless I have had conversation previously with that person via text which I haven't met many people here so possibly not, depends really

[Sk****]

Consider the fact that if either of you were interested in each other, you would have messaged on the app. Their first thought will be...'why did they wait until now to express interest, and not message before?', and the only answer is what? Being present? Thats not a good reason. they werent hot enough or interesting enough before? So ignoring them on app, but trying something in person might seem rude, or like a manic desire to 'settle' because of desire for instant gratification.

I think a better play is dont say anything in person. Message them on app later and mention it in second message. not in first, because if they dont reply, or read it, theres no reason. Mention it in second message just to be honest, and in case theyd recognize you if you meet in person (again).

[Deleted Member]

Basic rules. If I know you irl and you see me on fet, no you didn’t. If I don’t know you irl, and you see me on fet and then irl then no you didn’t. Same applies viceversa.