Doms needs to release

[Mo****]

Have you ever, as a Dom, reached a point where none of the subs you meet seem capable of handling the dynamic, expectations, and level of engagement you seek?

Sometimes I wonder whether the issue is the quality of the subs I encounter, my own standards and approach, or whether genuinely committed subs are simply becoming rarer.

What I notice, especially among younger subs, is that many seem to understand D/s primarily through the lens of sex. For me, however, the dynamic is much broader than that. It encompasses trust, service, communication, structure, growth, and the overall relationship—not just sexual interactions.

Have others experienced this shift, or is it simply a matter of finding the right match?

[Ro****]

Sex is the shop window of BDSM and there's a lot of inaccurate porn out there that misrepresents the dynamic. I don't think this is new. It's always been there. But the Internet, especially the heavier commercialisation of it in recent years, has made it more prominent.

[lovlee-lala]

I am having the same issues but as a sub seeking a Dom. Most immediately try to skip steps in creating the dynamic of trust, connection, communication, growth of the relationship and its immediately about sexual interaction, and some are taking on the label of being dominant and not the role and meaning of being A Dom. All they know is “well I’m naturally dominant “ and “ I can give orders in bed” They haven’t taken the time to educate themselves on the responsibilities of the role, or how to create a safe environment for a sub

[sh****]

You sound like a perv to me because you're very focused on the younger subs you creep just get with a sub because you specifically say the younger subs are the problem no you are a pedo

[Sa****]

I completely agree with lovey-lala!!! I am a “new” sub, but an older woman. I have been looking for months for a real sub to train me, not play with me!!! It’s awful how many boys just want to play dom in the bedroom.

[sh****]

7 minutes ago, Sarah326 said:

I completely agree with lovey-lala!!! I am a “new” sub, but an older woman. I have been looking for months for a real sub to train me, not play with me!!! It’s awful how many boys just want to play dom in the bedroom.

Glad you see her message and not mine because dude is a creep

[Sa****]

I was commenting on the topic in general not the person who wrote it. As an older woman, I see your point but I really don’t care about his personal life as much as I can relate to the topic baby.

[sh****]

You should care that he is a creep and look at younger women as subs lol that's the problem I'm 28 and a dom and if you live in Tennessee id make you a slut sub lol you see the difference. You're older then me and you would still be my bitch and you would like every inch I give you baby

[le****]

Red flag when “a dom” or anyone says “no limits”

[Sa****]

I would never submit to you because of your disrespectful attitude. Also, no one makes me what I am. I am a sub but not a slave baby.

[Bl****]

33 minutes ago, shaneryder said:

You sound like a perv to me because you're very focused on the younger subs you creep just get with a sub because you specifically say the younger subs are the problem no you are a pedo

That's hardly a response that is objective or caring.
If a prospective sub posts [or advertises] on here then the dynamic is what they want, its not a matter of the dom being a predator, the new, or prospective, sub has chosen the dynamic with the knowledge that they have the option of saying no.
In this particular case the poster has only said "younger" without any specific age being mentioned.
Please think before jumping in with your insults!

[sh****]

Stfu he is talking about and his quote the younger subs so fuck offfffff you pervert

[sh****]

5 minutes ago, Sarah326 said:

I would never submit to you because of your disrespectful attitude. Also, no one makes me what I am. I am a sub but not a slave baby.

Hahahah so you choose the guy that's a pervert crazy work women

[Bl****]

1 minute ago, shaneryder said:

Stfu he is talking about and his quote the younger subs so fuck offfffff you pervert

"Younger" is a relative term.

[sh****]

2 minutes ago, BluesTony said:

"Younger" is a relative term.

In the context that he said no the fuck it is not he isn't talk at oldest mid 20s and again if he is in his 50s that means he was 20 when they were born fuck off you creep

[Di****]

Younger people seem less inclined to focus beyond sex and most don’t put in the work . Low attention span , low desire to learn or improve . This is not to say they don’t exist it’s simply a needle in a haystack. Become the magnet

[Bl****]

If a symbiotic relationship exists who are we to attack it?
Every relationship on this site is there to satisfy both members.

[sh****]

19 minutes ago, Sarah326 said:

I would never submit to you because of your disrespectful attitude. Also, no one makes me what I am. I am a sub but not a slave baby.

Hahahahaah

[sh****]

9 minutes ago, BluesTony said:

If a symbiotic relationship exists who are we to attack it?
Every relationship on this site is there to satisfy both members.

A 50 year old talking to a 20 something year old I'm sorry that's a creep and a ppedo without being charged

[sh****]

14 minutes ago, DireDom said:

Younger people seem less inclined to focus beyond sex and most don’t put in the work . Low attention span , low desire to learn or improve . This is not to say they don’t exist it’s simply a needle in a haystack. Become the magnet

Thats nit true even in the slightest lol maybe fir the 50 or 60 year old trying to get with a 20 year old with daddy issues yeah. The pedos don't get the same live and care that 20 year old give each other

[Bl****]

3 minutes ago, shaneryder said:

A 50 year old talking to a 20 something year old I'm sorry that's a creep and a ppedo without being charged

And a 20-year-old chosing to talk to a 50-year-old rather than simply blocking them is ok then?

[sh****]

2 minutes ago, BluesTony said:

And a 20-year-old chosing to talk to a 50-year-old rather than simply blocking them is ok then?

So you're logic a 15 year old can Talk to a 45 year old rather than simply blocking them

[sh****]

2 minutes ago, shaneryder said:

So you're logic a 15 year old can Talk to a 45 year old rather than simply blocking them

Ir a 10 year old talking to a 40 year old you see how this is going you creep

[sh****]

Oh no BluesTony block me for speaking facts