When Fet Life And Kink Life Cross Over: Pt 2 ("What if I see someone I know?")

[pomonagirl]

In regards to attending BDSM or Kink events, something a lot of people are concerned about is: 

 

"What if I see someone I know?"

 

Well, that happened to me and it was a very positive, very cool thing!!

 

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It wasn't my first BDSM event, but it was my first time at a public Dungeon. It was one of the nights where it was open to the public, and they offered a program of classes, followed by a Demo and then a Play Party.

 

i was nervous, but excited!! 

 

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i got there just a few minutes after 8pm (when the first class was scheduled to start). 

 

"Is it too late to attend the class?" i remember asking the person at the door. 

 

"Not at all," they said with a welcoming smile, and they gave me directions to the classroom area. 

 

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Deep breaths as i walked past the foyer and "stumbled"* into the classroom, which also served as the Dungeon's main room. There was a smattering of people on chairs and couches surrounding a stage area. On the stage area was the instructor, and a spanking bench with some books on it. 

 

i took a seat and began to take it all in. 

 

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The first class of the night was "BDSM101" and the instructor was going over the Dungeon rules, etiquette, safety, etc. The books on display were some that he recommended: "Screw The Roses", "SM101", "The New Topping Book", etc. 

 

It was a really cool presentation and i was hearing LOTS of things that i had never heard before. Things like how to help keep myself safe, and how to advocate for myself. 

 

It was all very enlightening and very positive!!

 

But as i sat there listening, something else was nagging at me. The class presenter looked familiar, and i found my mind wandering as i tried to figure out if i knew him.

 

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It was probably about halfway through the presentation when he said some things that REALLY made it all "click" in my head....Yes, i did know him, we actually had worked at the same place before!!! 

 

It was a big place, and had a lot staff and departments. We worked in different, but overlapping departments so my interactions with him were few and far between. But there was something about him which always appealed to me.

 

In a nutshell, there was something about him that always seemed...different. It was in the way he carried himself. i could tell that he had a great work ethic and could only imagine that it crossed over into his personal life. 

 

Even though our interactions at work were very limited and sporadic i always admired him and held him in a high regard. 

 

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It's funny, here is a stereotypically "disastrous" thing that people seem to ***. i had seen someone i know from "real life" at a BDSM event. 

 

BUT---it was a person that i had always admired. It made total sense that he was involved in this lifestyle, as a class presenter no less, given the integrity and good ethic i had observed from him at work. 

 

Rather than being embarrassed, or feeling ashamed of myself, or scared that he would recognize me...

 

i felt that i was at EXACTLY the right place that i needed to be. 

 

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*if you know the Dungeon of which i speak, you know that "stumbling" is very apt! 

[UK****]

I went to a club once in the Midlands with my sub at the time and another couple who were friends of ours from London.  One of the couple met a women at the club who she had lunch with every day at her work in London.  Prior to that point, neither had known of each others kink interest!

Both were shocked but quickly realised that both having the same interest wasn't an issue.

I bet lunch breaks were far more interesting after that.

[TattooedFreak70]

I actually have the opposite of this happen.

I'd met someone at a swingers club and despite getting on well and good chemistry nothing happened at the time due to other circumstances.

Jump forward several years and I get a message saying she starting a new job with a local company, did I know of them? I knew the company very well as I'd been working for them for 11 years at that point. I also let her know that I was now single due to breakdown of my .

From that point up until April 2020 I'd have lunch with her every day and talk about anything and everything including the missed opportunity. Since April I've not been able to lunch with her due to obvious restrictions etc. but we still chat and she's hinted about going to the swingers club again looking for a single male to join her and hubby.

I'm due to have lunch with her soon and if I'm feeling brave I may find out if she's hinting at me joining her and hubby as clubs are costly for a single male or would she be interested in meeting me alone with hubbies consent. Probably playing with fire but you don't know unless you ask.