The worst thing

[xR****]

In my opinion, is when you find someone who is absolutely perfect. Everything you dreamed of in a person. Then something happens. Something keeps you from this person. Or maybe, maybe, something about you turned this person away.

What do you look for in a person? Have you met your ideal, but lost it?

For example;
I recently met someone who checked every one of my boxes. She was tall, beautiful, dominant, amazing in so many ways. She handled stress like a champ, was fairly kinky, open minded, and her description of a relationship mirrored my own. Everyone else pales in comparison.

Then nothing. Gone. 😐

So how about you? Did you ever run into that person that could make your deepest desires bear fruit? What happened?

[Je****]

Ya! The same, was amazing! Eveything I wanted. Woould have married that one. Even after a long failes marriage. then all of a sudden ghosted. Nothing. No txt. No calls. J opened up a little much and scared her away. Sadist day was when I realized, she would never come back. Broke my heart to where its unmandible. I want that back so much it hurts physically

[ad****]

Idk people just seem to like ghosting me lol

[Je****]

Lol is what it is! Life brings you joy then takes it away

[th****]

A woman taught me how to live and attempt to enjoy life, then booked it. She taught me so much more than I deserved though, I'm not mad.

[Je****]

Not sure why. Doesn't really matter Does it? Statistically ill never find that again so I'll bide my time with lesser versions till I'm gone

[As****]

In my experience, I was to young to stop the separation. My mom put a stop to it bc she was in the middle of a messy divorce & wanted me to be just as miserable if not more miserable than her so she made me break it off with him. Together almost 2 yrs. 2 yrs of perfection in all ways & then tore apart. Last I seen him he was willing to leave his replacement for me (had been w her for 6yrs @@ that nbsp;time) as well as his 6wk old daughter & was willing to father my 3 kids (they were 2, 3, & 4yrs old) but I was (& still am) extremely faithful so I passed on the offer.

[Be****]

I get the Im not looking for a relationship thing all the time. I found someone who would be perfect. But hes wanting something I cant give.

[xR****]

10 minutes ago, adamndollysub said:

Idk people just seem to like ghosting me lol

Same! Repeatedly. Like, I get it. Something happened. That's fine. But tell me, you know? My mind does not reconcile silence very well. That and it's just rude.

[Je****]

The ones you love the most, are the ones that hurt the most. I know I'm not the only one but it seems like this world has f'd up more people in every way its disgusting. I try to ignore it but its still lingering in the back of my mind.

[Je****]

Message me. Maybe we can find something together mutually amazing

[Lo****]

I think that, if you felt it was perfect and then got ghosted, it simply wasn’t perfect and somebody of the two hasn’t been honest 🤷🏼‍♀️
People tell what you like to hear, to get what they want. Get to know them, ask the hard questions and don’t let the need of that intimate feeling fool you🫶🏻

[Je****]

10 minutes ago, xRainx said:

Same! Repeatedly. Like, I get it. Something happened. That's fine. But tell me, you know? My mind does not reconcile silence very well. That and it's just rude.

Ya Im an overthinker so my mind goes in every direction at once when there is silence. It would be much easier if they d
Said its over but they will never o
Do that for whst ever reason. I think its extremely selfish and cruel. At least if someone says "its over" I can get passed that in way less time than ghosting

[Lo****]

5 minutes ago, asheville57035 said:

Ya Im an overthinker so my mind goes in every direction at once when there is silence. It would be much easier if they d
Said its over but they will never o
Do that for whst ever reason. I think its extremely selfish and cruel. At least if someone says "its over" I can get passed that in way less time than ghosting

That’s the difference between honesty and transparency. Transparency means, you get the information for free without asking and that shuts off overthinking brains (which I have too). Lack of knowledge is filled with bad thoughts mostly, that’s why asking and getting an honest answer doesn’t do it for me. If someone really cares, he’s willing to provide information so you can feel save🫶🏻

[si****]

So, I really wasn't looking for a relationship right now, but I met this guy online And we had an instant connection. Last Saturday night, we texted and talked on the phone from 10:30 p.m. to 5:30 a.m. . And then we texted all day long and we finally decided for him to come see me. It's a two and a half hour drive. So he came to see me and instant cuddles kissing touching and the most amazing play session I've ever had in my life. Cuddling and kissing afterwards. He said he was going to rearrange his schedule so that he could come down this weekend because he was supposed to go out of town this weekend. He's a Mountain dew addict. So he said he was going to go get some and ask for directions to the nearest convenience store which I gave him. Apparently there was no Mountain dew in Montgomery county and he had to go all the way back home to get some! 8 minutes after he left my house, he erased our entire conversation on another app that we had been chatting on. I had sent a couple of messages asking why and then just wishing him well. he didn't read them, just deleted them. Hasn't read the ones on here that I left him hasn't been on the site since then. We had talked about meeting each other's family and just how eerie all the similarities were between us. So, yeah, had a guy go out for Mountain dew and never come back! I hate that I don't get closure. But It just opens the door for real forever person!

[Je****]

14 minutes ago, LovedLady said:

That’s the difference between honesty and transparency. Transparency means, you get the information for free without asking and that shuts off overthinking brains (which I have too). Lack of knowledge is filled with bad thoughts mostly, that’s why asking and getting an honest answer doesn’t do it for me. If someone really cares, he’s willing to provide information so you can feel save🫶🏻

I have a f'd up past and I dont mind talking about it at all. I dont talk about it because it scares people. I also express my feelings, what im feeling how I'm feeling all of it. That also scares people. When you feel something so strong you want the other person to know everything. but in experience they dont really want to know evetything. Even if they day they do.

[Je****]

I'm almost to the point where I just want to say "I want to F***" and leave it at that. Take it or leave it.

[am****]

4 minutes ago, sinfulsub said:

So, I really wasn't looking for a relationship right now, but I met this guy online And we had an instant connection. Last Saturday night, we texted and talked on the phone from 10:30 p.m. to 5:30 a.m. . And then we texted all day long and we finally decided for him to come see me. It's a two and a half hour drive. So he came to see me and instant cuddles kissing touching and the most amazing play session I've ever had in my life. Cuddling and kissing afterwards. He said he was going to rearrange his schedule so that he could come down this weekend because he was supposed to go out of town this weekend. He's a Mountain dew addict. So he said he was going to go get some and ask for directions to the nearest convenience store which I gave him. Apparently there was no Mountain dew in Montgomery county and he had to go all the way back home to get some! 8 minutes after he left my house, he erased our entire conversation on another app that we had been chatting on. I had sent a couple of messages asking why and then just wishing him well. he didn't read them, just deleted them. Hasn't read the ones on here that I left him hasn't been on the site since then. We had talked about meeting each other's family and just how eerie all the similarities were between us. So, yeah, had a guy go out for Mountain dew and never come back! I hate that I don't get closure. But It just opens the door for real forever person!

I'm so sorry. Sounds very fishy. Pretty sure that dude just used you and he definitely has a gf or a wife.

[si****]

7 minutes ago, amandamarie984 said:

I'm so sorry. Sounds very fishy. Pretty sure that dude just used you and he definitely has a gf or a wife.

Could be! I think he's a coward for not telling me why. S.O.C.K.S Say it out loud really fast: Eso si que es. Spanish for "it is what it is" Lol.

[Deleted Member]

I thought I had made great connections on this site three times. We got on really well, talking openly about desires, kinks, and other aspects of our lives. Sharing pictures, video chats with kinky sex, setting up meetings then all of a sudden they put me on their ignore list. Out of the blue, no explanation. I am left feeling a bit hurt, wondering what all of a sudden did I do that was wrong. A simple, sorry this is not for me would suffice. Surely that would be the decent thing to do?

[or****]

Strippers too huh...?
I had that problem last year..... cant cage the perfect wild ***s... i tried... with 4 different ones🤦🏽‍♂️.. and actually attempted relationship more than once with all of them..then just like that.. no call no answer anything...until the need some again.. still friends..but not like it was the first 2 times...silly girls 😏😈

[xR****]

7 hours ago, sinfulsub said:

So, I really wasn't looking for a relationship right now, but I met this guy online And we had an instant connection. Last Saturday night, we texted and talked on the phone from 10:30 p.m. to 5:30 a.m. . And then we texted all day long and we finally decided for him to come see me. It's a two and a half hour drive. So he came to see me and instant cuddles kissing touching and the most amazing play session I've ever had in my life. Cuddling and kissing afterwards. He said he was going to rearrange his schedule so that he could come down this weekend because he was supposed to go out of town this weekend. He's a Mountain dew addict. So he said he was going to go get some and ask for directions to the nearest convenience store which I gave him. Apparently there was no Mountain dew in Montgomery county and he had to go all the way back home to get some! 8 minutes after he left my house, he erased our entire conversation on another app that we had been chatting on. I had sent a couple of messages asking why and then just wishing him well. he didn't read them, just deleted them. Hasn't read the ones on here that I left him hasn't been on the site since then. We had talked about meeting each other's family and just how eerie all the similarities were between us. So, yeah, had a guy go out for Mountain dew and never come back! I hate that I don't get closure. But It just opens the door for real forever person!

...wow, so they replaced the 'pack of cigarettes ' for mountain dew. That's new. I am sorry, though. He's a dick. 😡 'oh, this won't work without mountain dew.' sorry, there are better addictions out there. 🫦

[Ro****]

Finding the "perfect" person only to have them evaporate like cotton candy in the rain is a special kind of emotional whiplash. It is completely fair to feel gutted, but let's look at this with a mix of reality and a strategy to get you back on your feet.

The Reality Check (With Love)

The "One That Got Away" is an illusion:

If they vanished, their communication skills were definitely not "perfect.

You fell for potential:
A short connection means you met their highlight reel, not their messy everyday reality.

They did you a favor:
Ghosting is an automatic disqualification from being a high-quality partner.

Actionable Next Steps
En*** a expiration date on mourning:
Give yourself a set time to pout, then actively change your focus.

Update your checklist:
Keep the traits you loved (dominant, open-minded) but add "excellent communication" to the very top.

Mute, block, delete:
Stop digital archaeology; checking for signs of life on their profile only delays your healing.

Re-enter the wild:
Start talking to new people specifically to break the habit of comparing everyone to a ghost.

[Re****]

Back in middle school. My very first crush honestly ticked my boxed for who I wanted to be with in a relationship. We hung out so much and talked about anime while at school. Everyone thought at some point we would be dating and the day came when I did ask her out. She turned me down due to already seeing someone and the very next day, told me she couldn't talk or see me anymore thanks to their bf.

[Be****]

Literally THIS… even my nesting partner felt the sting… I just wish I knew if it was something i said? The appearance of lack of effort, despite busy schedules? Ughhh. The. To see her create a profile here a month later only rein***s the semblance of hurt.