Questions and Insecurities

[Sl****]

I know that everyone's preferences on their own body hair and appearance is individual and I'm in full support of how other's choose to present themselves. These questions, insecurities and anxieties are for myself...

My usual method of hair removal is shaving. Hair removal cream burns, even the sensitive one's and waxing, well... I'm wanting to get into it, I bought a hot wax kit to try myself at home. I need the time and patience to try it 😅

So my question is, when you're planning a session with a play partner and you have shaving rash/bumps or stubble that is growing on your legs/kitty from in between shaves (because I also cannot shave more than once a week). Does anybody care? Is anyone put off by it? Is it understood that it's just my body doing it's thing? I'm sure it is and I'm way overthinking this but I always want to present my best self but it's not always possible until I actively line up my shaving day to the day before/day of of play.

Also, my skin on my butt/top of backs of legs isn't the greatest. Acne and scars. I've been to the doctor, they were no help. I've tried different exfoliants/creams and nothing is helping. Are people put off by this? I wish I didn't have them. It's not lack of cleanliness, again my body hates me. I want to look and feel sexy and it takes away from that. Unless as I said, no-one else would bat an eyelid?

Ughhh! Help! Please 🥺

[su****]

i have never once had someone care about body hair, especially on my pussy. in fact, a lot of people like my bush! or they just dont comment on it. im begging you to not put hot ass wax down there, it could get into/on more sensitive areas.

i also get acne on my ass lowkey. once again, no one cares lmaooo. if it bothers you theres medicated body washes you can try out.

[sw****]

Babe I have the sameeee fuckin insecurity I’ve stressed and let it eat me up one too many times- with that being said tho I’ve never actually had a partner care or even seem to notice really, they ate me up regardless 😋

[cr****]

If you are planning a play date, I usually set up a group text so that everyone can feel things out communication wise together first. There, people can address insecurities and other details and wants and such. Maybe that could help get things out in the open?

[ho****]

honestly? it doesn’t bother us. we are not supermodels. just do whatever makes you happy

[cr****]

I think we are all saying……. Just GET SOME cuz you can’t change who you are so might as well just be that🥰🥰🥰

[kr****]

I used to have very similar thoughts and concerns... And then I read a quote, "those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter." You are in a human body. Human bodies do what human bodies do and they're not all the same but not all that different either. I never want a partner to feel uncomfortable in their skin- I value the person inside the skin. Do what makes you feel good and a valuable partner will appreciate the you inside the body without feeling any type of way other than glad you're with them ❤️

[Master50]

Have u tried using nair hair removal. All u do is put the lotion on. Wait 10 minutes wash it off. U can’t use it on the outside of kitty but try ur best not to put it inside kitty. It works for me so just recommend.

[mi****]

I don’t care personally. I would just have concern about how much friction there is with heavy, fast and hard play. Friction causes chaffing and I wouldn’t want my partner to feel uncomfortable after sex. Except for the internal pressure or possible tearing that leads to a premature period as a result of rough sex and deep penetration.

[Je****]

About the acne scars. My ex gf was middle eastern and had the most gorgeous ass but had some scars also. So seeing she was self conscious of it I bought mederma and gave her a butt massage while I applied it. We both absolutely love it and It takes weeks to work applied daily. So it definitely increased the amount of activity for me also

[lovlee-lala]

FIRST For the love of yourself and vagina, DO NOT WAX YOURSELF for your first wax. seek a professional. A lot of places have first time pricing. European wax center is one they have memberships and packages. There is also sugaring, same as the wax center , if you have more sensitive skin, and prone to bumps. That wax is ripping off more than hair,( first layer of skin usually ) and it’s not a go slow process. You have to pull skin taunt with one hand and pull wax with the other. If you’re a masochist have at it I suppose. As far as scars and discoloration, they do have creams for that or some estheticians do “vagacials” which over time helps, Consistency is Key and that can get pricey, but it’s worth it. But there are fade creams and exfoliants like The Ordinary and Paula’s choice (these you can apply with a cotton pad) that you can use very carefully along with a cream for discoloration and will work over time IF you stay consistent, like any skin care regimen and brushing your teeth.

[Mi****]

Nobody worth playing with is put off by stubble or razor bumps, that's just skin doing skin things. But since the bumps bother you, here's what actually fixed mine

Biggest change was switching to a single blade razor. The multi blade ones cut hair below skin level, which is exactly how it grows back trapped, also cut with the grain, NEVER AGAINST!! Most of my bumps disappeared from that alone.
Second thing, glycolic acid right after shaving and again the next day, apply for the whole week if needed. I use The Ordinary one. There's real research behind this, a clinical study found over 60 percent fewer razor bumps with daily glycolic. It stings for a minute, that part's normal, but patch test somewhere small first since you mentioned even sensitive creams burn you.

Then unscented moisturizer, nothing with alcohol in it. And at home, loose boxers or shorts, minimum friction, let it breathe. Ik it's not sexy, but hey it works. LET IT BREATHE, IT'S BEEN SUFFOCATING ALL DAY AT WORK!😿

For what it's worth this was my ex's exact routine for her kitty and it did a hell of a job, mine too for my own shaving.

Epilator is the once-a-month option if you want the hair gone longer, fair warning it hurts like hell the first few times, after a while you just get used to it 🤣

And on the acne scars, I still deal with back acne myself. Anyone who's made it to your bed is not inspecting your skin, they're just glad to be there🥰

[Je****]

1 hour ago, krys_1995_npr said:

I used to have very similar thoughts and concerns... And then I read a quote, "those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter." You are in a human body. Human bodies do what human bodies do and they're not all the same but not all that different either. I never want a partner to feel uncomfortable in their skin- I value the person inside the skin. Do what makes you feel good and a valuable partner will appreciate the you inside the body without feeling any type of way other than glad you're with them ❤️

I like that advice. Me personally I'm over the hairless kitty hype. If the shoe was on the other foot there's no way I'd do all that extra upkeep and itchyness for the foreseeable future.... Most men would give up after a month!! 😂😂😂
I like it trimmed and shaped a little I'll do the same.

[aw****]

Love this topic. Taking notes. 🫠🫠🫠

[Ho****]

Im Always all natural. You can be clean but natural there is zero shame 🙂‍↕️

[Ga****]

Doesn’t sound like anything people should have a problem with. If they do, they didn’t deserve access anyway. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[ld****]

i don’t mind. we all have our body quirks. mine happen, and i feel the same - hope she is ok with it… 😬 but needs to be, because i’ll be ok with hers.

i once was with a woman with obvious mastectomy scarring. i loved her breasts the way they were. scars and all. 😊