he**** Posted August 8 So what works for me is alot of intrest. Get a convo going and then, be direct exactly what you want. Maybe its a bit akward. But akward is cute. You got this
sc**** Posted August 8 I never figured out the whole flirting thing to begin with. Neither me flirting with someone or recognizing that I was being flirted with.
ca**** Posted August 8 "Hey, that's a nice *piece of clothing* you have there. How hard is it to take off? Can I help?" Obviously, read the room first, but as a guy this would make my day hahahaha
Lyphan Posted August 8 Men are mostly unsubtle. Just tell him you would say yes to a date if he asks.
6o**** Posted August 8 Touch, smile, adjust hair, slow blink, repeat their last words back to them, giggle, touch, compliment, flirtatious invitation, slip phone number on a piece of paper into their hand.
6o**** Posted August 8 Just now, 6onmy9 said: Touch, smile, adjust hair, slow blink, repeat their last words back to them, giggle, touch, compliment, flirtatious invitation, slip phone number on a piece of paper into their hand. And then leave.
De**** Posted August 8 Okay, I can’t flirt to save my life so I would recommend just making a human connection. Connect on movies, hobbies, philosophy, life. If you’re interested tell them. That would be my recommendation. . On another note, the fact that you look the time to be single was so smart. We can’t love others until we love ourselves. Taking years in the single life will pay dividends in your next relationship. 🙌🏼
co**** Posted August 8 I find the situation dictates what works . I held a door open knowing there was a woman behind me . When a turned to look at her my face fell into shock by her beauty .. no joke like a deer in head lights.. she asked me if there was something wrong . I answered plz forgive me my soul just tripped over itself to see you ..
E2**** Posted August 8 I'm on spectrum so i just go with "just so you know, from now on I'm hitting on you" honesty and a bit weirdness has been working in my experience
Ni**** Posted August 8 Honestly I’m kinda oblivious to it most of the time unless it’s ***fully clear that’s what is happening. Even when I bartended for a few years it wasn’t obvious 🤷♂️
Ba**** Posted August 8 Also been single 5 years I feel like its also hard foe me because after ky last breakup my standards went up a bit because I wanted a partner that also cared about my needs as much as their own. But im still told im a big flirt even though im just talking g nicely and respectfully.
li**** Posted August 8 Author 1 hour ago, cambridge53599 said: "Hey, that's a nice *piece of clothing* you have there. How hard is it to take off? Can I help?" Obviously, read the room first, but as a guy this would make my day hahahaha Omg I was wondering!!
li**** Posted August 8 Author 1 hour ago, Lyphan said: Men are mostly unsubtle. Just tell him you would say yes to a date if he asks. Oooo this is actual gold. Thank you
li**** Posted August 8 Author 1 hour ago, DenverBunny said: Okay, I can’t flirt to save my life so I would recommend just making a human connection. Connect on movies, hobbies, philosophy, life. If you’re interested tell them. That would be my recommendation. . On another note, the fact that you look the time to be single was so smart. We can’t love others until we love ourselves. Taking years in the single life will pay dividends in your next relationship. 🙌🏼 Thank you! I’m hoping so! I just got a little worried I had been out of the loop for TOO long. 😂😅
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, Buhlackkay said: For sure the look and smile and then pulling the hair behind the ear This is helpful!!!! Thank you
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, young45yold said: Eye contact with a smile That will lure me in 100% but I have noticed the men nowadays don’t do live action hunting aka flirting everything’s on apps now they dont need any effort required beside a swipe We rather play video games and talk to a woman Good luck just smile This is helpful. I really appreciate you taking the time to help me out here! And I have noticed such a shift in flirting and dating. So it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way 😅
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, ElaineSometimes said: I don't flirt. I am just myself. I don't have a lot of interests though. My 10 years of healing brought me a completely insane amount of ... I just can't factor. I see red flags every where. I have been trying to get back in touch with my– not even just lust but attraction part of me. I don't find anyone attractive anymore unless if they have super super monogamous loyal qualities. It is really difficult, because I think one in a million people literally have it. And then once you see that there's something about them that you just can't do it, either. So you have to go through another million people to find something that you're attracted to. Puppy being just me, I find a lot of people who want what I have or what I offer. But what I have to offer is only fot 1 type of man. It is a frustration cycle This has been something rough for me too…. I want to be romantic and trust again so much and the few men I have trusted haven’t been interested but it’s such a delicate balance. I just keep telling myself that anything worth it won’t be easy to find.
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, boredinphoenix said: If you're going for guys, many don't recognize subtle cues or choose not to depending on the setting. Being direct/blunt/forward is a sure way to get things going if he's interested. If you want to stick to subtle firting, giving the look, making lots of eye contact, smiling, maybe a little giggle, and hair play. Something a little less subtle is looking him up and down when he's looking at you. I might try the up and down look. Bc evidently I intimidate men when I’m forward. That’s backfired on me quite a few times now. But maybe it’s just part of the process in finding the right fit
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, MistressBambiSinner said: Well honey I got you beat it's been 7 yrs for me and I am right there with you. The only thing I know how to do anymore is be my alter ego a Dommy. But I want I do long for my person and hate the only way to meet someone anymore is online cause we forget how to flirt and who we truly are when it's on a screen. Anyways good topic and I hope you get all your answers Thank you and I feel a little better knowing I’m not the only one going through it!
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, laura90 said: I think men pretty much interpret every kind of friendliness or politeness as flirting, right? You should be good if you are straight. ;) Just remember the mindset: Everyone wants you. Because: it is the truth. You look hot! Oooo lala thank you for the compliment. But I’ve noticed it’s the creeper guys I’m not into that read too much into what I’m saying then the ones I’m actually into either don’t catch on or maybe they aren’t interested ??? I know it all takes time tho. Thanks again cutie
to**** Posted August 8 My humble advice is do not be subtle. Don’t put all your eggs into things that can be missed / go over his head. Be blunt. Be clear. Be direct.
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, hybridperpetual said: I agree with laura90, down to every work. You are so gorgeous so go get what YOU want. Thank you so much beautiful! I am pushing myself in that very direction. And your support is much appreciated
li**** Posted August 8 Author 3 hours ago, samscott said: Very true men are easy just say hello and if that doesn't get any convo started show some cleavage and slap him on the ass and say what didn't you heare? Believe it or not it'll work. It's worked for me with ladies probably 50% so it should word for a pretty lady like yourself at least 110% of the time if it doesn't message me I'll stare at your beautiful curve let you smack my ass the head down a dirt road for a first date Hahaha ur awesome. This made me cackle
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