Discussing cuckolding for the first time

[ja****]

How did you bring it up to your partner or how did your partner ask you about cuckolding for the first time? Love to know to help me discuss with my partner !

[Ba****]

Maybe don’t come out with it as „the plan“ but start introducing the idea as „a fantasy“
Something you would like to try is usually less pressure for your partner than something you need/have to do

This side is not really one i have experience with, closest thing was sharing a partner with a lesbian, but i do have some experience as the bull and on that note i just wanted to have said:“the boundaries of everybody involved are equally relevant“ so while is a bit early for this bit of advice if your discussion has positive results not only do you need to find someone you are both comfortable with you also need to be aware and respectful of their boundaries
Seriously, naked me had to bare knuckle fight a half-dressed man over the tied up body of a screaming woman because of this, nobody won, everybody lost, it wasn’t a fun evening for any of us

[Y7****]

My hubby just blurted it out one day when we were intimate. I looked at him like i had seen a ghost. Lol

[li****]

My ex said I was “too small and she needed a much bigger man “ so I begged to watch and she laughed and said yes

[laura90]

Ask questions rather making statements.

[laura90]

26 minutes ago, Y7850 said:

My hubby just blurted it out one day when we were intimate. I looked at him like i had seen a ghost. Lol

Hehe something similar happened in my life. I said to my Sub that when I meet another man he can bring me and the other man food to the door. But okay, in a comitted relationship I probably wouldn't introduce the whole situation like that. 😄

[Ha****]

Now are we talking no involvement or a group project? I personally go for group projects and I have yet to meet a woman that took much convincing to take on more than one at a time

[wa****]

Never done it honestly

[Y7****]

1 hour ago, laura90 said:

Hehe something similar happened in my life. I said to my Sub that when I meet another man he can bring me and the other man food to the door. But okay, in a comitted relationship I probably wouldn't introduce the whole situation like that. 😄

Omg 😆😆😆😆
I mean that's cute though.
I did take hubby on his word later lol

[DarkArts1066]

I think the first place to start is to decide what your understanding of cuckolding actually is, and to fully understand what YOU want from this experience, before you can speak with your partner about it.

I’ve known people who have literally said “let’s try cuckolding” to a partner (M and F friends..) with, say a desire to just watch - or not even be present, and then the partner says “great” I’d love you to watch me getting fucked hard by two well endowed men, in all my holes, while they tell you how rubbish you are in bed…”

Cue shock, horror, - and very difficult conversations.

Do you watch porn together ?
Could you watch cuckold porn, and discuss what you see ?

Ask questions…
“Do you like what they are doing to her ?”
“What do you think about the guy wanking and watching? -would you like that ?”

Simple examples. There are many more (probably better) ones, but those just came to mind.

An anecdote.
Many many years ago in my twenties, I tried to start a conversation with my first wife about my voyeuristic tendencies.

We really hadn’t explored sexually as much as I would have liked. To be honest, she was a little prudish, but I loved her.

Her comment (and I can still remember her words almost 40 years later,) of
“Eeew ! … you’re not one of those swinger perverts, are you ?” Still makes my *** run cold!

Be clear about your own understanding, - sound out your partner gently. There is no turning back once you’ve put your foot in it…. so choose your words, -and your timing carefully.

[Ca****]

The first relationship cuckold started by accident, a few meets into swinging ( MMF ) we met a more Dom gentleman and I was in such awe I didn't join in and just watched. He introduced us to the term. Second cuckold relationship we met on a online dating app ( normal one not a kinky one) and it was discussed before we even met in person , mainly because I was also still in chastity