mj**** Posted August 25 It's all exhausting. These men think repairing relationships are like a ritualistic sacrifice to the soul, unfortunately it is. Mine.
Ma**** Posted August 25 Stats are not on our side, so leave your desk, go for a walk for as long as you need, then come back and click “New Game.”
Br**** Posted August 25 I’m over monogamy and monogamous dating. I have two long term partners. Polyamory doesn’t mean you don’t have break ups, heartache and relationships naturally come to an end. However, for me it has removed being single, and it has made dealing with relationships coming to an end, as one did recently. In addition, there are comets, who are great fun!
Mr**** Posted August 25 Just like dad use to say when he was alive to get over some dude or some chick, you gotta get under another dude or another chick you gotta put your best foot forward and just keep moving forward and forget about the past put it in the back of your mind and learn what you’ve learned from that fucked up relationship you had and just keep moving forward because there’s always somebody better out there for you. I guarantee it like me.!!!
Submissive_summer Posted August 25 I hear how exhausted you are and that burnout is so real....it makes total sense that your spirit feels tired right now..... But let's look at the facts.... you're still here... which means you haven't actually given up..... None of us came to this post because we're done.... we're here because we're still fighting for what makes us feel alive.... When burnout hits this hard it's time to step back.... take a breather and protect our own energy....... Every disappointment is just a lesson teaching us what we don't want.... stronger boundaries.. more awareness.... So take a break and reset.... Remember we adapt...we survive and we keep going..... You've got this
an**** Posted August 25 When we stop investing forever energy into temporary relationships or single serve connections. It requires opportunities and options and meeting way more people than you are comfortable meeting, it takes a lot of saving yourself for yourself. I have only ever wanted a single person to pour into, but I am too much for every person I know. It is still very hard for me to understand that, and I fall for the traps of 'they didn't text back soon enough or as much' but that's our own trap, it is hard to operate knowing I will never be able to give all of myself to another person without overwhelming them. If this resonates with you, you may never be able to pour into just one person and you may need to reevaluate how you spend your love amongst friends, family, and lovers. Not everyone has the same capacity to give or to receive. And that's no one's fault.
an**** Posted August 25 I'm actually going to add some more to my comment, this tracks also. Try not to provide reasons where your partner's absence is very understandable without understanding your communication yourself. The people I struggle communicating with do not want to be a burden or do not want to inject themselves where there's no time. I continually provide details sharing what my plans are for the day. This creates a reason for them not to interact with me, so that they don't interrupt what I'm doing. My thought process is if somebody shares something with me it is in opening for conversation not a plead to be left alone, this is not the case with these types, but I do this all the time and have to remind myself of this specific trap, and I find myself in conversation fatigue (even though I'm smart enough to stop and regulate and reevaluate). It's a whole process. It's not easy to operate in someone else's autonomy when we can struggle with our own autonomy. Especially if it's a polar opposite. And the final thing that I'll say is that no one ever forgets an all-in relationship, you have probably damaged (in a positive way) every person who has ever crossed your path, by being the epitome of what that person wants (whenever they realize it) in a relationship. And you probably have completely forgotten past relationships of people who still see you as the example. Don't give up, adapt.
Br**** Posted August 25 Burn out is real! Love yourself first before anyone else and get yourself sorted. People will always demand something of you, and they’ll keep taking if you give them an iota of access. Deactivate your profile for a hot minute and book a massage, just for YOU 🩶
OB**** Posted August 26 I want to teach you to vett properly. Drop me a line @bbunnyy13 and I will teach you to weed out the asses.
an**** Posted August 26 1 hour ago, BrokenCollar said: Burn out is real! Love yourself first before anyone else and get yourself sorted. People will always demand something of you, and they’ll keep taking if you give them an iota of access. Deactivate your profile for a hot minute and book a massage, just for YOU 🩶 I second this about massage, if you can go to massage therapist classes, it's such a good skill and a good giving based community 🤗
Ki**** Posted August 26 Nahh… this pup is still holding out that maybe she’s out there but I just don’t have the same drive as I did as when I was younger and I’m completely swearing off men for as many times as they have consistently physically hurt me despite the fact that I have one every time they’re just too much of a loose cannon to risk it any further
da**** Posted August 26 Definitely sounds like you’re suffering from FETigue!! I have no advice tbh. Just massive sympathy because I’m feeling EXACTLY the same way that you’re feeling. 😔
bb**** Posted August 26 Author Yesterday at 06:00 AM, MaxFragman said: Stats are not on our side, so leave your desk, go for a walk for as long as you need, then come back and click “New Game.” Love this!
Ia**** Posted August 26 I'm overwhelmed & underwhelmed at the same time. I have people who want to talk but the conversation gets nowhere quickly or they'll just ghost me. Sometimes, I get the ick either by how they talk to me or by how they don't want to respect the fact that I'm a Domme. So they laughed at me, dismissed me & made fun of me entirely. Somebody called me a "crazy b*tch" for saying that I give homework to my subs. I want them to learn something from our time together, in case things don't work out.
Ma**** Posted August 26 15 hours ago, bbunnyy13 said: Love this! Wish you a longer and fun play session. (a.k.a. GLHF )
Ve**** Posted August 27 2 hours ago, IamClover said: I'm overwhelmed & underwhelmed at the same time. I have people who want to talk but the conversation gets nowhere quickly or they'll just ghost me. Sometimes, I get the ick either by how they talk to me or by how they don't want to respect the fact that I'm a Domme. So they laughed at me, dismissed me & made fun of me entirely. Somebody called me a "crazy b*tch" for saying that I give homework to my subs. I want them to learn something from our time together, in case things don't work out. I can agree, when in a d/s relationship we should be growing. We should always be learning something. Either about ourselves or life in general... If we keep growing it keeps the dynamic alive and helps to better all persons involved. Even if the dynamic ends there should be growth.
Ia**** Posted August 27 1 hour ago, Venosho said: I can agree, when in a d/s relationship we should be growing. We should always be learning something. Either about ourselves or life in general... If we keep growing it keeps the dynamic alive and helps to better all persons involved. Even if the dynamic ends there should be growth. This is my thought process exactly. Growth should exist in relationships. People are gonna change, that's one of the good things about being human. I want my partner to be better, to do better. I want to be their cheerleader & root for them. So that they can have the strength to get up & fight back whatever life throws at them. Because people deserve to have someone to believe in them.
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