New pleasure dom

[Ja****]

I’m new to this and was told I’m naturally a pleasure dom. I’m just curious but how many times do your subs usually cum a night?

[Ca****]

Jason, that can vary on so many factors. It can vary on their experiences throughout the day. Their headspace at the moment. What they have coming up later on. It’s about their frame of mind.
It also has to do with you. How are you feeling in those moments. Each day is different.
Sometimes you can make arrangements for a weekly contract. Where you have goals to set out for each other.

My point is, there is no set number. If you want to set number, then work it out with her and set a number.

[Lo****]

There are subs who don’t cum😋

[Ca****]

This is very true lovedlady

[ho****]

Yeah i'm not a pleasure Dom so I can't speak from my own practice. Based on most of the Pleasure Dom's I know though...2 or 3 orgasms while spending a decent amount of time in foreplay or sensualization or whatever your practice is I'd say is a fairly standard baseline. The more you get into it the more you'll know where your own standard is.

[no****]

As much as humanity possible

[co****]

It surely depends on the woman and her personal needs and wants. Some are easier than others. We usually dont indicate how well we do our job based off the number of orgasms per say, but more of the length you can the orgasms last.

[co****]

The length you can MAKE the orgasms last*

[kinkydarling]

29 minutes ago, covington67406 said:

The length you can MAKE the orgasms last*

In that case I think I have been pleasure Doming myself 😂

[Pa****]

Pleasure doesn’t always have to include orgasms. Sometimes the fun is keeping the orgasm Just out of reach. Watch their body, learn the signals then change to a different kind of pleasure. If you know they need the vibrator on a high s***d then maybe change the s***d to a slower s***d just before. Maybe even put them in control and tell them to pull the vibrator away before they cum. Then if they were a good boy/girl they might get to cum.

Make it a game, it’s supposed to be fun. You both should be laughing sometimes.

[Ja****]

Okay, so I was hoping for some higher numbers than I’m getting. You won’t make me feel bad. My numbers are ridiculous. I didn’t know what I do was possible until I did it. Repeatedly. Subs what is your best number?

[kinkydarling]

32 minutes ago, JasonTemua said:

Okay, so I was hoping for some higher numbers than I’m getting. You won’t make me feel bad. My numbers are ridiculous. I didn’t know what I do was possible until I did it. Repeatedly. Subs what is your best number?

OK, what is the number? I am curious. I got a guy off three times in an evening. Lol. I never considered myself a pleasure, but does that qualify?

[ey****]

y'know, this has been the second thread like this this week - what's with you all keeping score these days instead of actually enjoying yourself?

[Ja****]

4 minutes ago, kinkydarling said:

OK, what is the number? I am curious. I got a guy off three times in an evening. Lol. I never considered myself a pleasure, but does that qualify?

My numbers wouldnt be believed which is why I asked. 3 would be a great night for me. My sub, Thats 5 min in. Lol

[Ja****]

5 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

y'know, this has been the second thread like this this week - what's with you all keeping score these days instead of actually enjoying yourself?

I don’t keep score. I thoroughly enjoy myself. I was seriously wondering how crazy my numbers were. They are crazier than I thought apparently. Lol

[ho****]

11 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

y'know, this has been the second thread like this this week - what's with you all keeping score these days instead of actually enjoying yourself?

If people just wanna enjoy themselves and take a more chilled approach that's fine and there's nothing wrong with that. But alot of people like mixing up the experience and making it different each time and seeing how they feel about it. If shooting for a high score is too much work for some people that's fine. Shibari takes time to learn and use too. But it doesn't mean people can't put the effort in to see if makes them feel any different. Its up to them.

[Ha****]

am I supposed to keep track I stop counting at 5 and that's if I'm not spending haf the night edging her

[ey****]

gan on, give us your numbers then. share your spreadsheets.

[vv****]

“A night” 😂🤭

[Ja****]

I just like to edge between full orgasms and lighter orgasms while I play. It becomes a lot. Lol

[Pa****]

2 hours ago, JasonTemua said:

Okay, so I was hoping for some higher numbers than I’m getting. You won’t make me feel bad. My numbers are ridiculous. I didn’t know what I do was possible until I did it. Repeatedly. Subs what is your best number?

It depends on the woman not you. I’ve played with women who had a great time but couldn’t climax. My girlfriend can have chain orgasms and have given her 30 in a day. Don’t focus too much on the organ, it’s the experience that both of you enjoy.

[Ja****]

7 minutes ago, PacificRestraint said:

It depends on the woman not you. I’ve played with women who had a great time but couldn’t climax. My girlfriend can have chain orgasms and have given her 30 in a day. Don’t focus too much on the organ, it’s the experience that both of you enjoy.

Ohhh, I’m talking about the numbers you guys are giving. My exes would have 30-50 à night. Now thst I’m embracing what I can do it’s gone higher. Lol

[Pa****]

13 minutes ago, JasonTemua said:

Ohhh, I’m talking about the numbers you guys are giving. My exes would have 30-50 à night. Now thst I’m embracing what I can do it’s gone higher. Lol

My point was that It’s not a ***ing contest. Just enjoy your time together.

[Ja****]

I know. I’m just curious as I totally enjoy all the control and mind fucking as I take over her body. So much fun. Just don’t think I’m normal. Lol

[ey****]

So the kinda reality.   While women don't have the same refactory period as men, there are still human limits - each orgasm takes a toll on the nervous and cardiovasuclar systems.

Whilst the actions of a partner may influence how many orgasms someone has in a session (likewise to men, although there is a refactory period - if someone keeps going they can get more out of you, but it hurts...) generally how many someone would be even capable of having is down to their body - but after a few orgasms they are going to become sensitive and it starts to get ***ful.   It again, doesn't matter how good you are, or think you are, there is still a limit on the human body.

Apparently, it's around 2% of women can achieve as many as 20, and that certainly wouldn't be every time.

So with that in mind it is still probably worth working out what is actually going on.

The fairest thing would be to say you are misinterpreting her body signals - that you are counting things like pelvic contractions, "waves" (so counting one orgasm as two or more) or twitches - no shame in that, but again it's probably a sign to stop counting and just enjoy it.

However, it's also not impossible that she is lying/faking - possibly to help make you feel good, especially if the sex/experience is otherwise enjoyable - or again, if she thinks you're keeping count and trying to break records.  

Or, of course, a lot of this post feels like a brag or boast, to claim you're exceptionally skilled.  Perhaps as an advert via the backdoor. Again, I kinda hate to break it to you - but if she is having 30-50 or more orgasms it's her, not you, and it's probably causing her a lot of *** and discomfort.