What makes you want to be a good girl?

[Al****]

For the submissive women here, what brings out your “good girl” side naturally? Praise, confidence, feeling safe, being challenged, wanting to please... or something else entirely?

[be****]

It seems easier for me to slip into Good Girl mode when I am met with respect right off the bat. I am more comfortable and eager to please when I know i can relax and submit because they've already shown me respect.

[an****]

I can only speak for me..
-Its all of those things and more..
As an Empath its the pleasure that rolls off my D/ ..and crashes through me... its the most intoxicating drug there will ever be.

[xx****]

Taking control. Not in a narcissistic way, just a manly, I got this mindset..

[ha****]

I agree with the ladies above. A man who shows respect and acknowledges that I am a capable woman first who has lived enough to deserve to be treated like a queen/princess, will get my devotion. I love to please and be praised for my effort, attention, bravery, skill….

[Cu****]

Some one who makes me feel safe enough to bring my guard down to submit. That comes with respect, communication, caring and trust. They know I'm capable of taking care of myself, but give me the ability to completely let go of being dominate in my everyday life. Being taken care of.

[cu****]

3 hours ago, haines-city10472 said:

I agree with the ladies above. A man who shows respect and acknowledges that I am a capable woman first who has lived enough to deserve to be treated like a queen/princess, will get my devotion. I love to please and be praised for my effort, attention, bravery, skill….

This a thousand times over. Well said.

[Bethy-4543]

I’m naturally submissive, but only to the men who put me in that energy. Yes, please take charge and control in many aspects of my life, but also need to show me all the things you’ve already listed. Make me feel safe enough to be put into that space to submit to you. I don’t want to just feel safe, but needed and wanted. I also look for a long-term relationship & marriage if I’m dating, so I already would be looking for someone to please and help with all his needs, as it is. I’m a pleaser & giver at heart (which is my greatest downfall).

[li****]

It's feeling safe. It's the pleasure I get from pleasing the one I love. My desire to serve. Being able to turn my brain off because he's got it.

[Ye****]

The praise that comes with pleasing. Especially if it’s outside the bedroom.

[fe****]

I love when a man does what he says he’s going to do, or when he makes me feel comfortable and safe. Just making me feel cared for, complimenting me, and showing me attention means a lot to me. I’d let a man like that mold me into his own personal freak.

[Ti****]

Though I have some particular role plays I would like to have one day (with different setup/starting methods):

For me what gets my “good girl” side to come out is feeling like the man I am with desires my body and will be kind to my body even in his pursuit to be pleased by using me. Feeling human :)

For general play: I like to get into my submissive mindset (will listen and take direction) through cuddles. I like when I’m held a little and played with….firmly held, and with minimal escape hahaha.

I know aftercare tends to be cuddles for most, but I like a few minutes of being reminded that I am human before being treated like a toy.

That few minutes of hugs, and wandering hands, maybe a neck kiss….. just makes me click into wanting to be my best for him. I feel my body soft, and become ready for whatever is needed of me next.

Then depending on the partner he might start giving direction or firmly guiding me to please him. And I happily begin doing what is required of me because I know I’m his human toy :)