wi**** Posted September 28 I love the attention fetish or no fetish. Long term has to be more substance. But for the purposes of this site if I can fill a fetish or a desire for someone I enjoy it and appreciate the attention.
Hu**** Posted September 28 I think that is a sign of maturity not a sign of taking your own gifts for granted. At the end of the day, connection is more important than fantasy. It sounds like you want to be in the relationship first.
Deleted Member Posted September 28 As a vanilla evangelical southerner, I had never thought to feet except for taking great care of mine - I needed them perfect for tennis. I'm widowed. When your wife dies of Scleroderma, she's going to lose fingers, toes, most of the foot, etc. I literally became addicted to the feel and texture of her feet - both with post-metatarsal amputations. She would massage me with them, I would want to go to sleep with them on my chest or face. I loved it. She loved it because her husband had divorced her years before for what her disease was taking away. It was well said above: "once access is made available, they want to enjoy it".
Se**** Posted September 28 Idk man, this sounds like a "steak too juicy, lobster too buttery" deal. I could see it if it was just a feature you couldn't hide. Being targeted for being petite/fat, for your race, gender, whatever and being treated like a novelty is a bummer for sure, and can feel dehumanizing. But by the point they know the specifics about your genitals, you should be way past the vetting process for that. I'd say if it's really an issue, up your communication game and figure out if a person is trustworthy with the information.
DV**** Posted September 28 I was at a party and a couple said they were looking for a ‘black man to have a threeosme with.’ I was thinking does that make a fetish object - but overall I think it’s the same way I feel about switching & then the aftercare. We play our roles and scenes and then back to reality once it’s done. I don’t mind and think everyone has there kinks, so whatever for whoever 🤘🏾 if any of that makes sense 🤷🏾♂️🖤
Ta**** Posted September 28 1 hour ago, MajinSaiyan said: Black men*. You literally just did the thing I said people should not do. Having a big dick preference is fine but racializing it and not referring to us as people is the problem. You misunderstand - I was not referring to black men in general, but the small percentile who start a convo with "Do you want BBC"...meaning they bring this fetish to me.
Ma**** Posted September 28 1 minute ago, TaliX said: You misunderstand - I was not referring to black men in general, but the small percentile who start a convo with "Do you want BBC"...meaning they bring this fetish to me. Ooh ok I see what you mean
ni**** Posted September 28 😂 im also massive and i never had a problem w ladies talking about it the whole time thats what im here for.
Ta**** Posted September 28 14 minutes ago, MajinSaiyan said: Ooh ok I see what you mean Sorry, I could have phrased it better. Not my native language.
br**** Posted September 28 Everyone is different, i definitely have a part to my kink that people like to fetishize. Its nerve wracking and sometimes but just communicate that to the person and see what they do avout it after they know it makes you uncomfortable. If you dont like it, communicate it clearly to that person, then you have every right to revoke access without guilt
po**** Posted September 28 As a smaller lady with small feet I get this. It gets boring only hearing about their own fetish/ everything geared towards it all the time . Feels one sided after awhile and I’ll lose interest.
La**** Posted September 28 It's okay to express and communicate your discomfort. always being a reason to message you or bring up the subject in conversation clearly adds to your discomfort levels. no one wants to feel like a literal peace of meat. Praise is one thing but hyper fixation can make it a less then flattering experience when it's all they want to discuss. You're allowed to set a boundary no matter the partner and if this is one you need then I say it would be better for your mental health.
Da**** Posted September 28 I feel like this a lot but when it happens i have no interest in the conversation at all like it even happens with people who don’t do it at first like it literally kills everything like i’m also a person i hear the same thing from multiple people it gets old and boring and there is a lot more to me than being submissive but lately because i’m also bratty so the brattiness comes out of me like someone messages me and it’s obvious they didn’t look at my profile i respond in the same manner they don’t like so they end up blocking me. Like just because I’m on this site doesn’t mean i’m not a person and sometimes it feels like i’m seen more like an object than a person
Ba**** Posted September 28 Well it depends I had a partner with a fetish for long(wild) hair on men before and learned that getting complimented by someone who really appreciates can be a great boost of confidence, she also taught me how to properly take care of it But it can be uncomfortable if they over-focus on it Also if you ever been „too big“ for someone especially early on then you may wanna look inward to find out whether or not you have a complex about it which could deepen your discomfort
Do**** Posted September 28 Same thing can be said for regular guys but rather than it being about their body it’s about the service they can provide. Which do you prefer? To be admired for a part of you or would you rather be enjoyed bc of the performance you can provide. At the end of the day you choose to care about these things bc you care about how you are being perceived by others.
Bo**** Posted September 28 I get tired of hearing "I want you to be my first black girl", or something about my race. I'm always a first or a secret for others. And the over sexualization of something I cannot hide or turn off makes conversations impossible. I have big breasts, I have a fat ass, but I am not someone who just fucks and pleases others...I am more than just my outward appearance. Also, I'm not as sexual as I am made out to be. Instead of talking to me about art, literature, and history I am asked "What are you willing to do for me."
mi**** Posted September 28 I'm black and average size so I get the other end of the spectrum because I'm not 8 inch plus but it is what it is. That's what we are on here for to find the right person or people that we can vibe with on another level. Just let them know in your profile I guess 🤷. Me personally Im black live in the hood and everything but I love raceplay so it's a little harder to find a woman to vibe with and who also doesn't expect to be 8 plus cause I am what I am and it's not changing 😂
Cu**** Posted September 28 I get it all the time from men who think that just because they exist theyre owed my time and sex. 🙄
Do**** Posted September 29 As a white women of the tattooed variant whos very into Asian men. I am often fetishized for the purpose of crossing off a "having done it" bucket list. I dont take offense, however it goes against consent for me if it is indeed just a one off they wanted. If youre going to fetishize me, keep me around. I strictly only want long term, life partner arrangements. So im not a bucket list item. And if I am, make white tatted lady last on the list and marry me. 🤷♀️ I also think, like me, preferences dont automatically belong to fetish. I see my partners as human and not sexual objects to lust over. I simply like traits which is heavy in the Asian man community. Things like proper/respectful/calm, their cuisine is something I obsess about and I have a thing for those that cook. So of course I want someone who can cook my favorite meals. I also find they have gentle features that make me feel safe. These features can be found in other races, but less often. So even though I have a huge preference for Asian men, I can and HAVE found others who I am sexually into for the same reasons. Due to this, and simply just work ethic and life style compatibility (i want to move to china, and dont really care for america much, I find immigrants are more open to my mindset as well and are knowledgeable and perhaps understand more). I think this is not a fetish at all, but just a well rounded understanding, compatibility, and a sexual preference related event with me. This doesn't stop THEM from fetishizing me though, nor do I care. I only care if they dont inform me of their real intentions and thus break consent. I wont have sex with someone if they are not in it for long term/life partnership.
Wh**** Posted September 29 Maybe a little “ steak too juicy” it’s a compliment, enjoy gods gifts to you and be proud of your body!
Te**** Posted September 29 No. I understand and as some other people pointed out, you're not alone. For me it's being a redhead. I almost prefer people to meet me when I'm in cosplay because then I don't get fetishized, or I do, but it's more because of a similar interest. Not just-"ooh! Red hair!" It's really annoying actually.
PL**** Posted September 29 I am often fetishized for having large natural breasts or a larger body, or even a larger behind. Women are constantly fetishized for our bodies. We are also fetishized for our kinks. This is something I feel in almost every relationship, most often within the first conversation or even the first line. I feel your ***, especially because if one were to actually read my profile they would see I am a sapiosexual. The mind is far more interesting than the body so be intellectual and emotionally intelligent. Show me your interested in me and nit just what you can use me for, or because my body is "hot" to you.
Sa**** Posted September 29 16 hours ago, Danni44 said: I get fetishised as a goth a lot which ***es me off because I’m not even a goth. i get this too and I'm also not goth.
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