pe**** Posted January 10, 2023 Yeah being ghosted really sucks I'm just ghosted from a relationship of 6 years it's the second time she's done it to me last time we were apart for 2 years I made a promise that she wouldn't do it to me again and she'll be damned if she did I'm a dumbass for letting her come back in my life it's killing me everyday
MrJim Posted January 10, 2023 I got ghosted by a sub out of the blue, I thought we were getting along great tgen poof gone
Deleted Member Posted January 12, 2023 I’m constantly getting ghosted by people subs doms switches couples ect
pe**** Posted January 15, 2023 Yes I'm the same way I was ghosted by my woman of both together now I've been about eight years before she goes to me once before two years ago Ford almost two years we got back together about six months ago she promised not to do it again I told her if she was to turn around cuz you convinced me she wouldn't and then right as things got super awesome and really just really happy both of them she did again I don't know where no contact no explanation or nothing just gone it's a sick feeling I don't even want to breathe sometimes but like I'm in the nightmare
pe**** Posted January 15, 2023 And what I don't get is like her kids you know tell me I'm not allowed over there to go talk to her and everybody's like we'll just get over it and I don't understand how anybody could even think that's possible when you've given your entire life and soul to a person when you said everything to the side and and put her as number one and your entire life and everything in your life revolves around that person and they just up and leave and don't even take nothing no explanation or nothing it's impossible it's impossible to just let it go Yes she has the right to not talk to me and do what she wants but I also has a human being have the right to search out answers I have the right to to demand being given an explanation I feel I mean I devoted my whole life to this woman and she just left me with her half and didn't take her half you know I've got the bills everything I deserve an answer
lo**** Posted February 10, 2023 Omg, this has happened to me too. 3 ;( I know this post is from a few months ago but I hope you have healed some since then. What I have noticed is a lot of times doms and people that train bdsm can take advantage of a person that has never been in that dynamic before (especially online) and give them all the praise they lacked as a real ch!ld (using psychology and chi!dhood trauma to exploit you). It gives your brain a wave of pleasure when you become validated. Essentially it’s love bombing. This is addictive like a drug. Then when they find out that they can’t control you, or you do something you like they take all of that away to punish you (and gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong). And a lot of times in my experience, people like this are deeply, Deeply insecure, and small things can trigger them because they take offense super easily. They just like to be in control, so when they ghost you, it’s absolutely devastating. Yet they targeted someone that would be psychologically inclined to the manipulation tactic to begin with. It’s so terrible. I hope if you haven’t healed yet that you can realize that it was not you, and that you did nothing wrong. And that he’s, while you crave them back like a drug, they don’t deserve it and they’re manipulative bags of sc*t. <3
BruiseWayne Posted February 11, 2023 9 hours ago, lost_little_3 said: Omg, this has happened to me too. 3 ;( I know this post is from a few months ago but I hope you have healed some since then. What I have noticed is a lot of times doms and people that train bdsm can take advantage of a person that has never been in that dynamic before (especially online) and give them all the praise they lacked as a real ch!ld (using psychology and chi!dhood trauma to exploit you). It gives your brain a wave of pleasure when you become validated. Essentially it’s love bombing. This is addictive like a drug. Then when they find out that they can’t control you, or you do something you like they take all of that away to punish you (and gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong). And a lot of times in my experience, people like this are deeply, Deeply insecure, and small things can trigger them because they take offense super easily. They just like to be in control, so when they ghost you, it’s absolutely devastating. Yet they targeted someone that would be psychologically inclined to the manipulation tactic to begin with. It’s so terrible. I hope if you haven’t healed yet that you can realize that it was not you, and that you did nothing wrong. And that he’s, while you crave them back like a drug, they don’t deserve it and they’re manipulative bags of sc*t. <3 Unfortunately kink seems to really attract the kind of people who like engage in this particular type of toxicity. You hit the nail on the head, a deeply insecure person sometimes can only feel good about themselves when they power trip off of what kind of awful things they can get away with doing to another person. Making another person attached or beholden to them in some way. Maybe even just using them to get what they want. After a while they get good at spotting the right kinds of individuals they know they can pull this shit on and naive submissives hit that sweet spot of craving guidance, attention, and authority, people pleasing, and not knowing enough to know when they're being used and ***d outside of agreed upon dynamics sometimes. Even the most advanced street smart kinksters out there can and often do fall victim to highly manipulative people sometimes too. It's sad but the community seems to be rife with them. Both Dom/mes AND subs.
sa**** Posted March 23, 2023 That happened me she loves to hurt me..and ghosting me hurts worse than anything ive ever gonw theu..my body belongs to her . She was able to control me in a way no woman ever and im huge alpha dude..and she crushed me.and i loved it..but now im heartbroken..im so sorry about ur Dom...
ta**** Posted April 3, 2023 This is why I’ve been so careful choosing someone I want to explore the dom/sun dynamic w
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