Porn as an introduction

[Deleted Member]

Is there a good way to tell a new girlfriend what kind of sex your into because I used porn which strangely didn’t work 😂

[ey****]

a lot depends on the girlfriend.  using porn can be an example, but, of course, remember that porn never ever tells the whole story

[on****]

Could you perhaps leave something laid around, half hidden but still noticeable? Otherwise I've always found its best to just be upfront I'm afraid

[Deleted Member]

worst approach to introduce your kinks to a new girlfriend, or even in any occasion. Most girls/women find porn disgusting? 

books are the best way to introduce it, its more subtle as you could read her some extract....

[Ra****]

I think the notion that most women find porn disgusting is not very true. Specially when you look at statistics. A lot of women see porn. I personally do and love it. But yeah communication would be a better way to speak about your kinks. A lot I see in porn isn't exactly what I am into honestly

[ey****]

I reckon more women are probably disappointed when their partner tries to show them porn and reveal they have terrible tastes haha

"Oh, I found this great porn"

"OK"
*guy opens pornhub*

*woman dries like a heatwave in the Sahara" 

[KCurious]

Hey Tozzer2002 

Be honest with her. 

Then explain your thoughts , your feelings and why you enjoy this lifestyle. 

Or 

You could let her read something of yours that you wrote about you and her together, inspire her , intrigue her; enlighten her. 

Ask her if anything has made her curious , do you wanna try this out ? 

You never know maybe she is into this but doesn’t know herself yet or maybe she isn’t into it , either way at least you have tried to tell her an important part of you. 

Hope everything works for you and your girlfriend ! 

All the best ! 😊☘️

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, RavenSass said:

I think the notion that most women find porn disgusting is not very true. Specially when you look at statistics. A lot of women see porn. I personally do and love it. But yeah communication would be a better way to speak about your kinks. A lot I see in porn isn't exactly what I am into honestly

really? show me the statistic lol. They might have watched it by curiosity but most of them dont like it or are disgusted by it. For the same reason that you said it yourself , you are not into, and most women won't like to be treated like a piece of fuck meat. 

Porn is watched by 11 years old now or even younger. They think girls want sex like in the pron movie, this is why the op got his gf reaction! girls at school knows about it and the last thing they want is a boyfriend showing her some dude pounding her pussy and slap her around the face! 

But they should show or learn at school how exactly a porn movie is made and how the actors feel about it, from depression to abuse in some part of the world, and maybe they will think twice about it. 

I dont judge people watching porn, I watched them myself when I was young, I worked in a sex shop and saw movie making too. 

So the best approach like I said is avoid porn watching first, books always work with girls/women because its mental not visual

[Ra****]

1 minute ago, FabSeverus said:

really? show me the statistic lol. They might have watched it by curiosity but most of them dont like it or are disgusted by it. For the same reason that you said it yourself , you are not into, and most women won't like to be treated like a piece of fuck meat. 

Porn is watched by 11 years old now or even younger. They think girls want sex like in the pron movie, this is why the op got his gf reaction! girls at school knows about it and the last thing they want is a boyfriend showing her some dude pounding her pussy and slap her around the face! 

But they should show or learn at school how exactly a porn movie is made and how the actors feel about it, from depression to abuse in some part of the world, and maybe they will think twice about it. 

I dont judge people watching porn, I watched them myself when I was young, I worked in a sex shop and saw movie making too. 

So the best approach like I said is avoid porn watching first, books always work with girls/women because its mental not visual

So if you read a book called "A billion wicked thoughts" by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam for instance which is based on actual studies of online porn searches . I have read that a long time ago and I'm not going to read it now just to give you the facts. 

If you don't like porn that's all good. I do and see it whenever I want. Btw I said some of it is things I wouldn't do not all of it. There are so many choices in porn nowadays that there will always be something I like and something's I don't. And a lot of guys I speak with do see it as well and I can tell you they are not 11 years old.

Women can be visual too. But I do agree that erotica can be very stimulating for a woman however porn sometimes is quicker. 

[Deleted Member]

I tend to just leave my two knotty boys book or SM101 on my bedside or coffee table, it's tasteful and will either inspire curiosity or disgust, if it's the later they're likely getting kicked to the curb anyhow. Most people are a bit more open minded these days and I rarely encounter issues.

[BigPolly]

Well firstly hearing ‘most women or girls are disgusted by porn’ is a load of old tosh, I don’t know a single female who is disgusted by porn. Some may watch it some don’t but I don’t know anyone who is ‘disgusted’ by it. Some out there may be but certainly not ‘most’ so don’t feel like your sex like can’t include watching porn together etc. 

Secondly ...how about simply telling your other half what turns you on, after all if you’re in this community then communication is key. 

 

Edited March 25, 2019 by BigPolly

[ey****]

reading through

yeah - don't leave things conveniently lying around, or conveniently open on browser tabs or anything like that.   I mean, common sense if like, she finds them when here mother/father/sister/friend is around.

just have a conversation adult to adult.   "Hey, have you ever thought about....?"

[Bbwlover92]

You have to communicate openly and honestly. That’s the only way a relationship is going to work anyway. My girlfriend was into group stuff and occasionally sleeping with girls before we were together. I’m not into it, so she respects that boundary. I was really into eating ass before I met her, she’s not into it, so I respect her boundary. We still have the best sex each other has ever had because we establish trust and open and honest communication. We watch porn together sometimes, and we both experimented with some BDSM stuff recently and it had never worked for me in the past, but we both really enjoy it. Bottom line, talk to her, don’t show her porn. Real life sex is absolutely nothing like that.

[Deleted Member]

23 hours ago, BigPolly said:

Well firstly hearing ‘most women or girls are disgusted by porn’ is a load of old tosh, I don’t know a single female who is disgusted by porn. Some may watch it some don’t but I don’t know anyone who is ‘disgusted’ by it. Some out there may be but certainly not ‘most’ so don’t feel like your sex like can’t include watching porn together etc. 

dont want to make too much fuss or derailled op but choose your words wisely when you comment on someone else comment, I dont go after all your comment and start being judgmental over them. Unless you have a strong statistic back up dont assume your words are more reliable than other.

[BigPolly]

1 hour ago, FabSeverus said:

dont want to make too much fuss or derailled op but choose your words wisely when you comment on someone else comment, I dont go after all your comment and start being judgmental over them. Unless you have a strong statistic back up dont assume your words are more reliable than other.

Put your bullying handbag down I’m entitled to write what I want & I write as I see therefore have chosen my words how I see fit. I don’t know any female who thinks porn is disgusting & I think the sweeping statement you made is tosh ‘in my opinion.’

If you don’t like it or don’t agree then that’s fine but please don’t try & intimidate me stating I need ‘strong statistics’ or ‘choose my words wisely’. 

[Qu****]

A very hot topic obviously!

Personally I love porn. Has been a fantastic tool for me to learn different things about myself and what turns me on. Ok, some of it is a bit ropey but on the whole it’s come a long way from the 1970 type we used to sneak a look at in dirty magazines when we were kids 

I think it’s dangerous to make sweeping comments as everyone’s tastes and opinions matter and differ greatly from one individual to another, especially on a site like this.

[Ma****]

very true queenie 63, like you my first peek into a porn world was in the, 70s , yes a long time ago. Yes we all have different tastes, so basically I'm agreeing with you queenie, and porn will help you learn what you might or might not like.