Expectations

[Ck****]

Dominants- What are your expectations in bedroom and outside settings?

Subs/Slaves - What are your expectations when it comes to being well spoken and mentally taken care of?

[Deleted Member]

sexually always ready to serve, whether ready or not, knowing your place and taking punishment when discipline is needed. expect her to be open to experimenting and trying new things. outside of play time just relaxed enjoying each others company with my wife and I, can do totally normal things together

[ge****]

My expectations as a submissive are quite simple really - to find a connection and chemistry with someone who is on the same wavelength as me when it comes to what BDSM means.
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Beyond that nothing else matters as it will fall into place naturally if those elements are in place.

[AKA_Copper]

Being well spoken, managing my mental and physical health and generally having my s**t together is first and foremost my responsibility
My expectations of a Dtype is simply not to behave in a way which will mess with that, nothing more

[Deleted Member]

Different rules apply to the bedroom than the outside world. In public, be yourself, make choices that benefit the path you travel, expect me to grab you up randomly by the waist, hips, or butt, stay close to me. When it’s play time, the only time “no” is to be used, is during cnc, otherwise, you can inform me of your hesitance, but you can never deny me what I want you to do. If something I want becomes a problem, we can work it out of rotation, but you have to let me know of such things.

[Deleted Member]

Good, honest, communication is imperative. If you have that then everything else flows naturally from it.

[Ck****]

Loving the responses, keep em coming!

[pa****]

We can talk as equals if needed. If you call yourself submissive, proof it.

[zr****]

Hahahaha ya I guess that's a good example of what Dom would expect from a sub proof....

[My****]

Communication, Trust and Honesty are my top 3 key contributors to a healthy strong relationship. I want someone who is not afraid to be happy, focused and committed to achieving their dreams and fantasies.

[Ki****]

I tend to find if they've still got a pulse it has been a successful play session, I have a 57% survival rate so the odds are in the subs favour 👌

[Si****]

Its ok to push yourself some as a sub. But remember. Verbal and physical signals are key. Know when you're at your limit

[Ne****]

This very much depends on the contract between Dom and sub. Every pairing will differ so neither should go into a realtionship with concrete expectations.

[zr****]

But as a sub pushing those limits is what gets me off simetimes

[Deleted Member]

Give more context. What’s the dynamic of the relationship

[Fo****]

I'm quite new to being a sub, so I'd definitely be looking for patients and for someone to follow my pace. While I'm excited to try new things I'm also still very nervous and green. Connection is so important for me so I can feel comfortable slowly making my way into the deep end.

[Deleted Member]

A sub/slave is property... and your most valuable treasure.

[ge****]

24 minutes ago, DamnitDave said:

A sub/slave is property... and your most valuable treasure.

Whilst I agree that a "slave" *can* be regarded as property if agreed between two (or more) fully consenting adults, and that regardless of submissive or slave they should be treated with care and respect - as a submissive I would disagree that I am viewed as anyone's "property" and any dominant that claimed "ownership" of me would not be for me.

[Gw****]

Walking into any situation with any expectations.
There's this thing called discussing a scene.. I'd advise more people to actually discuss what they want from something instead of expecting mystic Meg to sort u out.

[Gw****]

49 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Whilst I agree that a "slave" *can* be regarded as property if agreed between two (or more) fully consenting adults, and that regardless of submissive or slave they should be treated with care and respect - as a submissive I would disagree that I am viewed as anyone's "property" and any dominant that claimed "ownership" of me would not be for me.

No a slaves property,, that's the whole point of a contract of slavery..

[ge****]

3 hours ago, GwynBlaidd said:

No a slaves property,, that's the whole point of a contract of slavery..

Read what I said again - I don't necessarily disagree when it comes to people who describe themselves as slaves being "owned" though the actual definition falls with those involved.
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Where there is a distinction and ownership doesn't (necessarily) come into it though is with submissives

[un****]

very simple i expect communication because if a sub can’t communicate during a scene they end up getting hurt and i’m not dealing with that again but some of the smaller ones is i expect a sub to do as they’re told but i don’t mind a bit of bratting. outside of the bedroom i also expect communication assuming we’re in a relationship but i also want to be able to just lay in bed and cuddle as well as go out and just have fun. this isn’t an exhaustive list just what i could think of at the moment

[Deleted Member]

Why are you asking that. As a Dom you will just tell whatever you want and as a sub you don't have expectations.😉

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, Aron-Leipzig said:

Why are you asking that. As a Dom you will just tell whatever you want and as a sub you don't have expectations.😉

Every submissive has the full right to have expectations. For example, they can expect that their boundaries will be respected or that previously discussed matters will not be ignored.

[AKA_Copper]

Thursday at 07:08 PM, undeaddom said:

very simple i expect communication because if a sub can’t communicate during a scene they end up getting hurt and i’m not dealing with that again but some of the smaller ones is i expect a sub to do as they’re told but i don’t mind a bit of bratting. outside of the bedroom i also expect communication assuming we’re in a relationship but i also want to be able to just lay in bed and cuddle as well as go out and just have fun. this isn’t an exhaustive list just what i could think of at the moment

I think you'll find that plenty of subs have commented on this thread evidencing that they do, indeed have expectations