Submission

[Ha****]

@strawberry_babie
You are completely perfect as you are and as you it. This kinkster sounds like he is an idiot.

[Deleted Member]

We all gave varying issues. This is why vetting is so important. Find your compatable partner that both are on the same page. Submitting to someone takes trust. That is earned not demanded. Stay safe, stay at your pace, the right person will be there. Trust your gutt

[Fe****]

Oh darling. First of im so sorry for your experience and being hurt is not your Fault! Your NOT damaged, youre beautiful the way you are.
I think what you describe with needing trust and getting to know the Dom is something everyone should do. And its especially important as a Sub and a women.
Anyone who doesn't take the time and Joy in earning that trust of the submissive is no Dom. Its good he showed his colors early on so.

[ma****]

He's either a predator or an ***r. Either way, you aren't wrong with wanting to built full trust before submitting. Do not settle for those who tell you that you have to submit straight away... they are either inexperienced or ***rs.

[ma****]

  5 hours ago, New2train1968 said:

We all gave varying issues. This is why vetting is so important. Find your compatable partner that both are on the same page. Submitting to someone takes trust. That is earned not demanded. Stay safe, stay at your pace, the right person will be there. Trust your gutt

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One thing that I've noticed in the last past years is that people, in particular those wannabes Doms, don't want to properly vet, yet they expect others to submit to them. They have no clue of the importance of the vetting and that's very dangerous.

[ma****]

  Yesterday at 06:32 AM, SandorNL said:

Just remember that 99.9% of the people on here simply want to sext.

Be careful. Patient. And you'll find what you're looking for.

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I agree. Too many people think that this app is a hookup app. They have no clue of the pillars of BDSM or D/s and the amount of patience and effort that it takes to built that trust. There's no-one, and I mean absolutely no-one, who doesn't have a certain level of baggage and having the ability of being *** and sharing our "demons" with others should definitely be encouraged. None of us, human beings, are happy ALL the time without any life challenges; anyone else believing something else are not honest with themselves.

[ma****]

  Yesterday at 01:21 PM, Devon286 said:

We all carry some kind of baggage. If you encounter someone who denounces you for being "damaged", best thing to do is walk away from them. Be thankful he blocked you. He is the one "doing it wrong": he could have ended things kindly, but he decided to make you feel worse.

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Exactly that.

[lo****]

  On 5/21/2024 at 11:19 AM, PillowPrincess1 said:

A lot of narcs gravitate to the male dom role for obvious reasons - you dodged a bullet. There is no such thing as damaged goods.

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Not just narcs, but also the incel sphere has started using our language and are trying to infiltrate our spaces looking for victims basically.

[WhisperedLoudly]

No you're not damaged.

I'd suggest perhaps HE himself has experienced a traumatic experience growing up and unfortunately he's suffering perhaps a mental disorder as a result.

Your all good 👍.

[Vo****]

Who has not been hurt before honestly? For someone to block you because you are being authentic is not someone you’d want to be with anyway.

[Davob1]

@Voluptuous_sub54..true words being yourself is what life's about, how someone feels about you your lifestyle

[Davob1]

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[Davob1]

Anyway in truth what someone thinks of you is non of your business as long as your happy and being yourself

[ja****]

Definitely not damaged just hurt. If someone can’t be patient with you or any littles for that matter they’re in the wrong kink I feel

[EmpressKK]

His ego was hurt, you didn't offer to swoon at his feet, hence the block. Give him no further space in your head young lady.

[li****]

Girl, you are completely fine. As a total sub I can tell you, that being a little bit aware what is going on is always important.
First of all you need to trust your dom. And if your dom doesn’t wanna give you time to be his sub, who the hell is he? There is no such a thing as being “submissive wrong”. You do that as you feel like doing all of this thing. And if your dom doesn’t want to accomodate anything - this is a bad dom, you won’t have any satisfaction from that. All of us are adults who can understand what they want, and trust to the dom is the most important part. You just can’t to be safe mentally with someone you don’t trust fully, because they have all of you under their control.
I hope you will find a good dom, girl.

[catnip86]

You're fine, he's a jerk

[Swampdonkey-6626]

He’s a total a**hole! You are perfectly fine!

[TimberTara]

Not at all, you’re not damaged goods

Anyone who tell you that is wrong. Most relationships don’t work out and that’s not because anyone is bad. Sometimes people are at fault like when they cheat or they don’t treat you well but don’t settle and always think highly of yourself.

As a slave from my head to nothing to get off on the pleasure I give. It’s not about me when you’re a slave. It’s about them.