My girlfriends orgasms

[Be****]

My ex had a particular sexual background, we almost always had hardcore sex, she had been in some extreme relationships early on in her life, nothing wrong with it and I also enjoyed pushing limits with her consensually and we had great communication, really no problem there

After a few months though, I told her to get on top, let me get a little bit technical

I noticed many years ago, if a girl sits up straight on top of you, and you as a guy use your butt muscles and right inner thigh model to tense the bottom (inside) part of the penis, it kind of restricts ***flow and makes the male part much harder/swollen

And this is noticeable as most the girls Ive done this with orgasm relatively soon after

So I kind of did my little party trick with my ex and I could tell she noticed some changes, but not like most girls who kind of would notice and double down and enjoy (as I'm not certain they know or don't know this is technique)

Instead she stopped, I asked if she was alright and said yes, but you can tell there was something going on in her head

She had told me before , she can mostly only orgasm when tied down fully, focussed in her head and with a constant clitoral stimulation , best if she does that part herself , and the guy is there for penetration only

Right after she orgasms she'll push you away, and some are more intense then others but lets say this is her prefered way of reaching orgasms but she feels like she wants the orgasm feeling to 'go away'


Things where different with the 'party trick' and she told me later, this orgasm was completely different from what she ever experienced before and it went trough her whole body from the inside out, and she didn't want it to go away

She was completely different and I could tell it really did something to her, we did it once or twice after but mostly went back (on her lead) to demeaning, prey, using, style sex

Now we are seperated and not really talking anymore, that was a big turning point

What does this sound like to you? I have my theory but would love to hear from this community

[Cass]

Does it matter.. it's ended..

[Gr****]

I would say it might be based on the personal relationship she had with sexual intimacy. Maybe there’s some reason she can’t feel safe with people while having an orgasm.

Idk.

Why are you interested?

[CopperKnob]

It sounds like all women are different and no one other than she will be able to advise.
Anyone commenting otherwise will just be offering opinion based on next to no information.

[ar****]

So you're saying she could mostly only orgasm when tied down, yet in the party trick method her position was less restricted.
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From your description it looks like she typically finds her (bound) orgasms as something bad (wants them to go away, why have them then?), and this other method opened the door to feeling positive about it & not wanting it to end.
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Maybe the bound method touches upon unpleasant experiences from the earlier extreme relations, and the other method showed her that sex can also be enjoyed more wholesomely?

[Cass]

It's ended.. dear me ...  let it go...    its supposed bliss not analytics 

[Ma****]

What is your theory?

[Deleted Member]

Based on the information given:
She can’t orgasm fully because she can’t let go of control which also ties
In (excuse the pun) with needing control taken away from her to achieve whatever level of orgasm she does get to.
She needs heavy clitoral stimulation because 1) eventually she will have no choice but to orgasm this way and 2) she is numb inside from previous emotional trauma (a guess)
When she orgasms and needs it all to stop this is because she feels desperately out of control which feels horribly unsafe for her.
Using your method she experienced probably a cervical orgasm which is a totally different experience, much less invasive than clitoral orgasm but very powerful in a different way. Whatever you do to enlarge your D probably helps you to hit the A spot.

This is my supposition based on half the story 😬

[Co****]

Yesterday at 06:19 AM, CopperKnob said:

It sounds like all women are different and no one other than she will be able to advise.
Anyone commenting otherwise will just be offering opinion based on next to no information.

The above quoted is with out a doubt the most sensible answer!
Along with the last comment from @Cass

Analytics and theories are irrelevant to something as personal as an orgasm. It’s also quite interesting that these are all coming from (I expect from profile photos) males…

[Da****]

June 6, Cass said:

It's ended.. dear me ...  let it go...    its supposed bliss not analytics 

What’s the negativity, did you not consider maybe the guy wants to know more about how/why that happened so that he can be a better lover for future partners?😑

[Da****]

June 6, Cass said:

Does it matter.. it's ended..

Especially after already saying this useless comment!?🤦🏻

[Da****]

Friday at 10:35 PM, Coco_De_Leche said:

The above quoted is with out a doubt the most sensible answer!
Along with the last comment from @Cass

Analytics and theories are irrelevant to something as personal as an orgasm. It’s also quite interesting that these are all coming from (I expect from profile photos) males…

I agree it’s interesting that only the males are staying on topic and trying to actually answer OP’s question (iow being helpful) while the women haven’t participated or helped at all… very interesting indeed😒

[Da****]

Friday at 10:35 PM, Coco_De_Leche said:

The above quoted is with out a doubt the most sensible answer!
Along with the last comment from @Cass

Analytics and theories are irrelevant to something as personal as an orgasm. It’s also quite interesting that these are all coming from (I expect from profile photos) males…

I wonder why you didn’t even finish your last sentence? what was even your point about the males thing? cause the tone definitely comes across sounding hateful/condescending🤔

[CopperKnob]

33 minutes ago, DailyLicker said:

I agree it’s interesting that only the males are staying on topic and trying to actually answer OP’s question (iow being helpful) while the women haven’t participated or helped at all… very interesting indeed😒

All comments are on topic other than yours which both appear to be attempting to derail the OP by attacking others.
Let's be clear here, the OP is a rhetorical question at best if not nonsensical. It's an attempt at trying to understand someone else's behaviour. None of the commentators know this individual or what makes them tick therefore no one other than the woman involved will be able to provide an answer.