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What's the best kink to start for beginners

Openmindednerd767

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Openmindednerd767

Openmindednerd767

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What would you all say is the best and easy kink to get into since starting from vanilla?

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Well I'd say light BDSM. You know? Just like some rope and stuff
OD****

OD****

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From a sheer vanilla stand point? Sensory! A blindfold. It’s often over looked but taking away the visual cues enable you to adopt anything else. And if it is only a blindfold things can escalate from there.
Aoi_41

Aoi_41

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Simple sensory things. An ice cube.. combine this with vigorously rubbing your hands together to create heat, and rub away the cold. Open handed spanking with caressing afterwards. Blindfolds with feathers .. just touching with a belt after snapping it nearby.. 😋🔥🔥🔥
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Ra****

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Something to add to or move up to after the blindfold is to (and I’m coming at this from the Dom side) require your partner to describe in detail what they would like to have done to them.
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A) starts some quality communication
B) make someone new still have a sense of control
C) can give you a sense of direction on where they would like to take there kink journey
My 2¢
It’s a journey, not a destination.
Kr****

Kr****

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45 minutes ago, mdubgetsdown said:
The one that excites you

First reply, I can agree with.

Kinks are very individual. There is no reason, why you should start with kinks, which don’t excite you, only because they are easy. I started with a difficult kink and it was a good decision.

Matt4u4305

Matt4u4305

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Best advice I can give you is to get out while you can. Once you enter the world of kink you will always be chasing the next “high “. You will become desensitized over time and this will cause problems in future romantic relationships. God forbid you fall in love with a woman that is more vanilla and not willing to explore kinks you will eventually find yourself looking outside that relationship to fulfill your kinky desires.

The best thing you can do is avoid sites like this , avoid porn. Otherwise you will never be sexually satisfied with anyone that isn’t also into kink and even then they may never be kinky enough for you.
ey****

ey****

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yep - what interests you, what makes you go - ooo

like, some people buy one of the beginners kits you can get off the shelf and then find it does nothing for them and give up 

the amount of people I've met where they'll say they want to try and someone will offer - and it is *always* some form of corporal - like, OK I'll start light, give me a number, etc

there's Pro Dommes have prepared sessions based on "I dunno what I want, but I want to try" which is usually just a little foot worship, some flogging and spanking - and it can be unfulfilling to both

start with ideas that make you tick

Sq****

Sq****

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Urethral sounding, ball tazing, needle play, gang ***, public hardcore sex, just simple things like that

🤪🫣🤣

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28 minutes ago, SquirtTrainer said:
Urethral sounding, ball tazing, needle play, gang ***, public hardcore sex, just simple things like that

🤪🫣🤣

Lol

Ho****

Ho****

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I really don't see any point if there isn't already something that preys on your mind, keeps you awake imagining it.

If vanilla's your thing, what's wrong with that? Keep learning and getting better at that, there's still scope for lifelong practice :)
su****

su****

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Choking, can start with just softly putting your hand around their neck or vice versa, I feel like it establishes dominance and control while also not being ***ful. But look up how to do it properly so you’re safe.
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V when you are approached and other women have recommended you you ask kinks and fetishe.you determin if ther ready for that level of play . A dozen orgasms and fisting. They watched you play with others and want what others have.

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The questions flawed as if you are not sure about what you atleast have interest or disinterest in there is no answer.

Take some time to read up on Arch types, kinks, different ways to play as there's plenty of information here to help get you started in forums etc..

 

Once you have a idea about dynamic and kinks plus things you want to try then you can ask directly about those or look into munch safe environment to start exploring maybe.

 

The first step is know yourself, what you want or don't want, the importance of safe play, words, environment,  prepare (making sure everyone is on same page with boundaries etc) and aftercare even if not discussed before play its importance is still crucial 

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Co****

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2 hours ago, Wolfmandave83 said:

The questions flawed as if you are not sure about what you atleast have interest or disinterest in there is no answer.

Take some time to read up on Arch types, kinks, different ways to play as there's plenty of information here to help get you started in forums etc..

 

Once you have a idea about dynamic and kinks plus things you want to try then you can ask directly about those or look into munch safe environment to start exploring maybe.

 

The first step is know yourself, what you want or don't want, the importance of safe play, words, environment,  prepare (making sure everyone is on same page with boundaries etc) and aftercare even if not discussed before play its importance is still crucial 

OP The above crucially says it all:

“The best kink” is what is desirable/excitable to you and/or your dynamic.

“Easy kink” even some of the most extreme kinks can be effortless if you enjoy it.

Take small (safe) slow steps, to learn and discover what you enjoy in his wide realm of kinks.

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5 minutes ago, Coco_De_Leche said:

*this wide (this app needs an edit function)

Has one the triple dots top right of ur post opens options edit for you <3 

Glad to see you agree 

Co****

Co****

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18 minutes ago, Wolfmandave83 said:

Has one the triple dots top right of ur post opens options edit for you <3 

Glad to see you agree 

Not on mine - one for the help team.

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Do research on kinks. Find what your interests are and your partners link interests are. Any you mutually want to explore them go for it. We can list lots of “easy to do” kinks but for all we know you/your partner could hate the idea of bondage or light *** or sensory play etc. It’s all down to preference of the individual.
For me my first kink experience was definitely me being chucked in the deep end but it was what excited me and I wanted to try.. so glad I did
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